It turned out that during the Spring Festival, Ms. Cui and her husband returned to Mianyang from Panzhihua for reunion.
New Year's Eve was originally a happy day for family reunion. Ms Cui helped cook the New Year's Eve dinner in the kitchen, but was severely scolded by her mother.
At the beginning, Ms. Cui came to work in Panzhihua after graduation and met Mr. Luo who worked in the opposite company.
Mr. Luo is considerate to Ms. Cui. In the middle of the night, he would run a few streets to buy her cold medicine. At six o'clock in the morning, he would get up early and queue up at the corner to buy her her favorite camellia oleifera. On weekends, Teacher Luo will wear an apron, cook for her, wash clothes and clean the house.
Ms. Cui, who was alone outside, was moved. Half a year later, she took Teacher Luo home to meet her parents.
Ms. Cui's mother resolutely opposes Ms. Cui being with Mr. Luo, because Mr. Luo is from a rural background, his parents are farmers who have left their homes, and there is a sick grandmother, a younger brother in junior high school and a younger sister in senior high school at home, and the family is embarrassed.
On the other hand, Ms. Cui's father is a retired government official, her mother is a retired middle school teacher, her sister is a cadre of the Construction Committee, and her brother-in-law is also an engineer of a state-owned enterprise. Her family background is superior, and their family backgrounds are far apart.
But Ms. Cui insisted on staying with Mr. Luo and vowed not to marry Mr. Fei. Cui's mother said that if Ms. Cui insisted on marrying Mr. Luo, they would sever the mother-daughter relationship.
In this way, the mother and daughter were deadlocked for two years. In the end, Ms. Cui couldn't beat Ms. Cui and compromised.
After marriage, Mr. Luo has been very kind to Ms. Cui. Friends around her say that she is a happy woman who marries love. Ms Cui also thinks that her original decision was correct.
However, in the second year of marriage, Mr. Luo's grandmother got worse and was admitted to the hospital, which required a lot of money. My sister is admitted to the university, and she has to pay tuition when she starts school. However, the house leaked water and it rained all night. Mr. Luo's father accidentally hurt his foot while doing farm work, so he lay at home and rested. The expenses of the family depend entirely on his mother's income.
As the eldest son of the family, Mr. Luo certainly can't sit idly by, but his income is not high, and he used up all his savings when he got married. So he had to borrow 50,000 yuan from his wife, Ms. Cui.
When she returned to her family during the Spring Festival that year, Ms. Cui's mother began to bombard Ms. Cui with language: "I told you that you can't marry, you can't marry, and you don't listen. Now, he can't earn money by himself, and he has to borrow money from you to subsidize his family. His home is a bottomless pit. See how long you can fill it! "
Ms. Cui bowed her head and said nothing, and her heart was very unhappy.
After the festival, the couple returned to Panzhihua, and Mr. Luo began to run Didi part-time at the urging of Ms. Cui.
Therefore, Teacher Luo works in the company during the day and runs Didi at night. On weekends, Mr. Luo went out early and went home late to run Didi, and he became a dog and didn't make much money.
Nevertheless, Mr. Luo's family is still asking for money from him, and his brother and sister's tuition and living expenses, as well as his father's medical expenses, make him breathless.
In addition, Ms. Cui has many dissatisfaction with Mr. Luo. Since Mr. Luo started to work part-time, everything at home has fallen on her. She has always been used to reaching for clothes and living within her means. Before long, she couldn't stand it and had a big fight with Teacher Luo.
Since then, the couple often quarrel because of Mr. Luo's family affairs, and the relationship is freezing.
What makes Ms. Cui even more incredible is that Mr. Luo actually has an affair with Liao, who is also a part-time driver of Didi.
After learning about this, Ms. Cui was furious and claimed to be determined to divorce. Mr. Luo also agreed.
However, as the Spring Festival approached, Ms. Cui did not want to upset her parents, so she discussed with her husband the divorce procedures after the Spring Festival.
Ms. Cui, who was upset by her husband's extramarital affairs, regretted not listening to her mother at first, but could not tell her family. So, just after the Spring Festival holiday, Ms. Cui found a family, hoping to help her out of the predicament.
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Thanks to Ms. Cui's trust, she chose to settle in several marriage and family counseling centers.
After listening to Ms. Cui's story, we know that you regret it now, want a divorce, and want to get out of the predicament of life, but no one talks about it and no one understands it.
The ancients said: the door is right. This applies not only to ancient times, but also to modern people.
In today's society, no woman doesn't want to marry love. She hopes that the person she chooses loves herself deeply and loves each other deeply.
Therefore, a woman who is carried away by the sweetness of love, even if the other person's family background and economic conditions are far less than her own, is still trapped in it, thinking that she will be happy if she marries love.
But the cruel reality is that most marriages between "well-off women" and "Phoenix men" will be slapped by reality, married to love, and eventually lost to "bread".
Psychology believes that at the beginning of intimate relationship, lovers project a series of beautiful feelings such as warmth, care and understanding to each other, and the other party agrees with these projections and gives feedback to meet our expectations.
Lovers in love, which one is not passionate, go both ways! This is why during their love, Ms. Cui and Mr. Luo are congenial and stronger than gold.
However, when all kinds of hardships in real life strike, the "well-off woman" will feel extremely lost: she doesn't love me as much as before. "Phoenix Man" also found: "She has changed now and looks down on me!"
Therefore, the ancient poem "Life is just like seeing it for the first time" has aroused many people's disappointment.
Mr. Luo works two jobs under the financial pressure of his family background, and at the same time he has to bear your complaints. Your mother scolded him, and you can imagine how devastated he was under the double pressure of economy and spirit.
At this time, Mr. Luo is surrounded by a woman who understands him, comforts him, cares about him and will not give him any pressure. Naturally, it is easy to cheat.
Ms Cui belongs to the kind of woman who treats her feelings well. When she meets each other's mistakes, she will cut the gordian knot and live happily.
However, the counselor should remind Ms. Cui that divorce is not a panacea when marriage encounters problems, not just because of temporary anger, but from all aspects of life.
First of all, Ms. Cui should think clearly whether divorce will help her more, or whether it will be better not to divorce, or whether it is really irreparable for the two sides to be separated for a while.
According to the current civil code, there will be a cooling-off period after couples file a divorce appeal with the court. In the meantime, Cui Can checked whether her husband had made another mistake. If he makes another mistake, don't hesitate to stop immediately.
Secondly, if Mr. Luo introspects and corrects his own problems during the cooling-off period, then the lady will slowly observe whether he really repents this time.
If Mr. Luo is determined to repent, the most important thing is a clear division of property, which can test his determination. To say the least, even if there is any change in the middle, Ms. Cui herself is guaranteed.
After all, love and marriage are as easily disillusioned as soap bubbles, but real money can accompany them.