1. Many girls are late in thinking and mentality, and their parents don't rush them, so they have no sense of crisis. When they began to take looking for a partner and getting married seriously, they found that their age was no longer dominant in the marriage and love market, and the men they could choose were not satisfactory. The suitors I met when I went out were all boys seven or eight years younger than myself. ?
2. Some girls stay away from love and the opposite sex because of their family background or previous love failure experience. What is more serious is that they have psychological barriers and cannot accept the opposite sex. When I feel ready to fall in love and accept others, I find that all my former suitors are married, and the remaining men are not satisfied with themselves.
When girls are in their twenties, they always put their energy and time into their work and study, thinking that they have to "get everything ready" before they can consider falling in love and getting married. When I was ready, I found that time and tide wait for no man.
4. Girls are too picky when they are young. At the age of 30, the conditions of suitors are even worse, and neither is marriage. If you don't marry, you are in a dilemma for fear that you can't find a better one.
Before the age of 30, girls have been talking about love that does not aim at marriage. When it comes to marriage, the other party's conditions can't meet the marriage standards, or the other party has no intention of getting married, so they can only break up and wait until they are 30 years old.
This is probably the main reason I collected that girls get married at the age of 30. In fact, I used to worry about these girls, but later I found it useless to worry. Because getting married is not just about completing the task, you must have enough marriage mind and experience to get along with the opposite sex, so that you will not be unhappy because you are in a hurry to get married.
So I suggest that girls can fall in love just for the sake of love before graduating from college (girls with precocious puberty can be 20 years earlier), without considering too many practical factors. Because even if you lose blood at this time, you won't lose too much. There is still a lot of time and energy to recover, but the experience accumulated during this period is very important. With these experiences in the future, you can easily beat those inexperienced competitors. ?
However, once a girl enters the society and tries hard to find a relationship just for love, she may never be able to make a positive result. Of course, if you have never been in love, I suggest you try. After all, there will always be fantasies if you haven't experienced it. It is better to make up all your experiences at once.
Because men who can make women naturally feel in love are generally handsome men who are difficult to control, and most of these men are not suitable for marriage. After dealing with this big boss, it will be more conducive to identifying this unreliable man in the future. I liked all these boys before I was 20 years old. Time has proved that such a man is really a playboy and incompetent. )
I remember two years ago, a sister who was almost 30 years old found me. After I talked to her, I said, you are basically a little white, level 0. Don't think about getting married or not, because she is afraid at the thought of getting married and will screen out all kinds of men, and even normal love can't be carried out. I said that the most important thing for you is to accumulate experience in dealing with men, and the most important thing is to learn to fall in love first. If you can't talk about love, don't consider getting married.
In the past two years, this girl can be said to have spent a lot of time and energy on "learning to fall in love" and "correcting herself". Before that, she had been avoiding these things and even considered dying alone.
But now that she has found someone who likes each other, she can enjoy love. In fact, life is like this. There are many things we should do, and it is also a very good life experience for most people. However, if she hasn't cultivated to that degree, she can't control it, and it will be very painful to finish the task reluctantly.
When you cultivate yourself, what should come will come naturally.
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