-the first exchange of experience in the parent salon.
Liang Yuanyuan's parents
Thank you very much to the teachers for organizing the parents salon activities, which provided us with opportunities to learn from each other and communicate with each other. Parents must understand the characteristics of their children in order to educate and help them. I want to introduce the basic situation of Yuanyuan first: Yuanyuan's family education environment is relatively relaxed since childhood. Our parents have many advantages besides asking some principled questions and not restricting their children too much. Honest, caring, filial to parents and elders, disciplined, brave when things go wrong, as long as I discuss in advance and have strong hands-on ability, I like to try to be cheerful and polite. Neighbors, colleagues and friends all like going to school. There are some problems in Yuan Yuan's third grade study, such as paying attention to class and finishing homework, and his academic performance is relatively straight and ideal. Our parents are very anxious, because my father and I have been personally managing this research since primary school. Every day, we make sure that at least some people have the ability to do better than they do now. Let's calmly analyze the reasons for Yuanyuan's active personality, good motivation and quick adaptation to the learning environment. Because the family environment is relaxed, the school classroom discipline is constrained. Second, parents did not correctly guide their children to correct their study habits. They always think that they have to behave well and have problems. Sometimes they even blame and scold us. We reflect on Yuanyuan's educational methods. A few months ago, the family formed a new understanding: we should persist in encouraging education for a long time, and we also know that we should encourage children to adhere to educational methods when encountering problems. My father and I reached an understanding: resolutely beat and scold the children; Second, we should take the initiative to communicate with teachers, keep abreast of children's school situation and find problems in time; Third, it is necessary to set clear goals, including long-term goals and short-term goals (Yuanyuan now takes striving to be a three-good student as a long-term goal in her study, completes her homework carefully before the month, and now abides by classroom discipline; There are also goals in living habits); Fourth, formulate a reward policy (be sure to discuss with your child. You can be wishful thinking. Now reward your child for listening to stories, playing games with mom and dad, playing puzzles, playing computers, etc. ); Five pairs of children should be highly praised in front of each other on the same occasion (Yuan Yuan became one of the top ten students last month, and people in our family said that his grandpa's family gave him a certificate award).
Because today's theme is homework management and guidance, I will focus on the following aspects: round homework can ensure the completion of some problems and spend a long time doing homework; Second, there are many mistakes; Thirdly, sometimes I can finish my homework as required. In response to some problems, we (including children) analyzed the reasons for the slow speed and mistakes. Most of them are easily distracted when doing homework. The process of doing homework often stops because of some things, such as going to the toilet, opening a pen, looking for an eraser and so on. We can finish our homework as required mainly because we remember the homework and the whole analysis. We discussed the requirements for completing homework with our children and worked out a reward scheme. Every time we can ask too much, we have to wait until the samples are ready. We mainly ask Yuanyuan the correct rate of homework and the neatness of writing. If there are less than 3 homework assignments, the corresponding reward will be doubled. Yuan Yuan was very active and cooperative (because it was discussed in advance, as long as things were agreed, we would do it). When I came to He Laoshi's side, I asked my parents to record the completion time of my homework. We insist on making up the first day every day. Yuan Yuan found a problem when she was doing her homework and left her seat twice. The next day, I reminded her to prepare a dictionary and pencil, and adopted a reward policy. On the third day, my child got A ++ in Chinese preview homework for a period of time, and her homework was often excellent++and she was very strict with her writing. I often ask for rewriting before I take the initiative to rewrite it. Actively prepare school supplies before doing homework every day; Parents are required to check their homework every day, and the accuracy of math homework is obviously improved. There were at least five or six wrong questions in the previous homework, and sometimes even more than a dozen wrong questions in each homework. There are three ways of full-time writing, which are also better than before. In English, Yuanyuan is allowed to check her mastery of words independently because she has a little basic written homework. Nowadays, children have the initiative and consciousness to do homework and go home after school every day. Before doing my homework, they should accompany me and say, Mom can cook, and I will do my own homework. I'll compare with you to see who finishes it first.
Round homework has been improved in quality and time. I began to ask that I should remember my homework completely. Every day, I should check my exercise book and leave messages. I should write praise when it's good. I remember that at a good time, I should write down what I have done well and encourage me to record my homework now, which is obviously better than before.
Generally speaking, incentive education is very suitable for my children. This is just the key to homework. Today's children have confidence in themselves and realize that they are far from "three good students". Now they have the confidence to be "three good students". Our parents also encourage their children to repeatedly affirm that they are parents when my father and I are fully psychologically prepared.