When I come to my sister to rent a house, they always have contradictions. How can we avoid it?

It can be seen from your description that your sister's behavior makes you feel wronged, that you are not respected, understood and accepted, and that you are very angry. But instead of bravely and sincerely telling your sister how you really felt at that moment, you chose to suppress and hide your true feelings.

In fact, the reason why you choose to suppress and hide your true feelings may be that in your opinion, you do have problems, but this is your true self. You can try to make some changes, but it's difficult. Therefore, you are deeply wronged, helpless and eager to be understood and accepted.

Of course, behind your sincere and brave telling your sister your inner feelings and needs is that you need to know your emotional feelings first. You can record your current emotional feelings and words by writing an emotional diary, which will help you get along with your emotions better, perceive, experience and feel, sort out the hidden needs behind your emotions, and seek more appropriate ways to respond and meet your needs. ?

To be sure, you are very concerned about your sister's feelings, aware of it, and actively face up to the status quo, which is enough to prove that you are great and applaud you. Just haven't found a better solution, how to face the status quo?

1) Adjust your mind, be yourself, and accept your sister's imperfections: No matter whether your sister's starting point is good or bad, her mood and words, you should learn to let go of your opinions, accept her imperfections, and look at her strengths (competence, diligence, neatness, etc. ); At the same time, calm your mind, do what you should do, relax and don't worry so much. There is nothing wrong with your sister's trifle.

2) Face it sincerely and communicate effectively: Sisters are related by blood. Find an opportunity to find a way to talk to your sister once, truly reveal your thoughts, your approval and disapproval, and make up a fictional and objective statement based on facts, without emotion or criticism, based on the result of reconciliation; Tell ta your troubles when you see your sister unhappy, and truly express them to ta. Do you want to make it clear that ta may not have noticed or realized the inappropriateness of such words at all? At the same time, "the speaker is unintentional, the listener is intentional" makes you feel uncomfortable, and you are too nervous to realize the problem of ta's verbal expression, which directly affects your intimate relationship with ta. When you tell ta that it affects you, ta may correct it immediately! Think positively in everything, and the result will be different.

? I believe you and your sister will make up, you can do it! Let's go