I wrote a comment in Miss Li's circle of friends:
I was deeply impressed by this passage written by Teacher Li. It seems that I used to be the one who didn't have the strength and no one wanted to invite me, but I was particularly eager to have the strength, so on the surface, I kept fleeing from one city to another, and the essence was to let my sports escape from my mediocrity for a while. When I no longer have the capital to escape, I really fell to the ground, sank in, and had the opportunity to see the inner psychological level.
Many times I dare not face up to Miss Li, probably because I have become a negative textbook for Miss Li. Now I am a prodigal son. Finally, with the tolerance of my family and the help of my teacher, I have the courage to face up to my inner fears, see my own shortcomings, settle down and read the classics in a down-to-earth manner, and constantly strengthen my mobility. I insist on writing five kilometers every day, and I dare not slack off for a moment for more than 400 days and nights, and strive to live my original life.
Just two days ago, in the case supervision, I deeply felt:
The teacher answered me:
I noticed that. It is. I am a very mobile person now. I keep running and writing every day and enjoy it. However, yesterday, I couldn't move, so I curled up in the corner and hid all day. After a long sleep, I recovered a little today, and then savored the supervisor's harvest.
Teacher Sun's first reaction:
I am aware of this, which may be a kind of defense, that is, through abstract text expression, I can get an emotional isolation, make myself look very advanced, resist this real society where I can't play, and keep my remaining self-esteem. Therefore, in future conversations, I will talk about this matter consciously, instead of making trouble without reason. Just like I recorded a speech today, I consciously added some small examples, although it was still a bit crude.
Teacher Xue's reply is:
I didn't realize this during the consultation, but after the feedback from Teacher Xue, I realized that I felt guilty. In one of my previous consultations, when a visitor told me that she felt guilty, I suddenly said two words: guilty.
Psychoanalytic diagnosis: understanding personality structure writes:
I deeply appreciate the guilt that Teacher Xue gave me. My mother is very strict and strong-willed, otherwise she wouldn't have lived those miserable days. Emotion has the functions of adaptation and encouragement. My mother's efforts for many years, especially in the case of my father's inaction, subconsciously projected my expectations, and the process of my constant independence in the process of growing up was actually farther and farther away from my mother's expectations, thus producing a sense of guilt. I failed to live up to my mother's upbringing, and there was a criminal impulse in it.
Visiting has followed me for a long time, and I hope to cure him with the least cost and the most sincere way, which is actually to offset my guilt for my mother. From this awareness, I know that although I have been trying to meet visitors, I still have too many traces of myself. I only saw the symptoms, but I didn't see that the visitor was a real person.
In my own words, the future work mode is not only icing on the cake, but also to see a real person in time, a person with secular desires and grievances.
Teacher Fan's reply is:
I feel that teacher Fan's reply is very heavy on my heart, and there is a slight sense of suffocation. I want to resist, but I am impeccable; I want to accept it, but I can't bear it. However, from teacher Fan's point of view, the knife saw blood, but it kept me alive.
I gradually understand the professional setting. I haven't been able to listen to the teacher since high school. I have a little resistance to authority and a feeling of being swallowed up. I will always think about something unconsciously, and always want to create a great theory to resist the feeling that my mother is swallowed up by me. Even when I went to college, I didn't listen to a few professional courses, and I stumbled into the east and into the west. At this point, I undoubtedly need to be diligent and professional as soon as possible.
This curiosity about the second point is the most weighty punch in acupuncture. Because my instinctive logic is to constantly explore high-frequency energy. It is very vivid that I am curious about substitute teachers and high-energy teachers like Fan. I always catch up subconsciously and forget the road under my feet. This is called ungrounded. Now I understand that if you want to run fast, in fact, you have to practice your basic running skills in a down-to-earth manner in order to run fast, that is, you have to be curious about the visit, that is, keep an open mind. Being curious about the visit means practicing your basic skills, facing up to your weak foundation and seeing a real person instead of aiming too high.
Information collection is still a professional process, and it comes back to me, which shows that the structure of the growth part is not good enough. These are hard cores, which are inevitable and need to be deepened and practiced more clearly and systematically.
Teacher Zhang replied:
This may have broken my narcissism complex a little. After all, in the process of writing my reading notes, I almost read them word by word. If I don't understand them, I go back to consult the textbooks, which is equivalent to reviewing the basic knowledge. When I explained some parts of personality structure to the visitors during the consultation, the visitors said they didn't understand, which caused my narcissism. According to teacher Fan's experience, I should discuss my feelings with my interview. What opportunity is there to read so many books instead of educating him? You don't even know the basic concepts. !
I am gradually strengthening the theory of consultation. I will go through these basic books several times, which is the only way to specialization.
On behalf of the teacher's reply:
It must be said realistically that the teacher's evaluation is correct. I really melted myself by mistake, half a year earlier than I thought. I originally planned to make it clear before the end of 20021,which is enough. It seems that psychological growth is not linear, but full of uncertainty and opportunities.
When I first came into contact with narrative therapy, I liked the inclusiveness of decentralization (that is, authority), but I felt that narrative therapy was too messy and difficult to operate, and I didn't know where to start, but it satisfied a lot of my emotional catharsis and was seen. Then encounter psychoanalysis, seek the theoretical support of emotional catharsis, from being seen to seeing yourself, and finally merge; Finally, I want to use cognitive therapy to deduce and structure through my own integrated experience.
Finally, I gave feedback to Mr. Ding and kept asking what my supervision goal was. My answer at that time was that I couldn't visit. But in the process of writing this feedback, I realized that I hope that my narcissism will be broken, I will be deeply integrated, and I will gradually and consciously ignore my part and extract more universal things through the acupuncture of all the big coffees.
Thank you for your selfless help and concern.