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? Sister Tina, today we continue to answer questions about the relationship between Satya and personal growth.
Satya: One Nucleus and Three Lines
One core: self-worth
Three systems: interpersonal interaction system, individual internal system and family origin system.
In this way, the feeling is clear. We enter the part of family rules provided by individuals internally. Do you remember the iceberg part yesterday?
How to understand family rules?
? Family rules are divided into forbidden and compulsory categories. The former never begins, such as not crying, not being weak, not relying, not trusting others, not relying. When expressing the latter, we should start with the essentials, such as hard work, Excellence, progress, neatness, squeezing toothpaste from the bottom and so on.
? I think it is no problem to put the family rules in a certain situation, but they have certain solidification and rigidity, which are mainly reflected in four aspects:
? About emotional expression. Mainly the overall atmosphere of the family, such as expressing love, whether it is optimistic, whether it is allowed to express emotions and vent.
? About change. Both positive and negative changes are allowed, and change is also a part of life. We must face it and try to solve it.
? Rules for dealing with differences. It is ok to distinguish between popularity and disapproval, and it is necessary to find a balance between giving up one's own views and freely expressing opposition.
? About information sharing. Only adults in the family can share information or the information shared is incomplete, distorting the facts and not giving explanations and explanations.
? Secrets about family. You are not allowed to talk about secrets in public, for example, you will rationalize with words. You are too young to understand. You can't get hurt if you don't know.
Everyone has a justice in his heart.
? Have we tried to think about it, do we particularly like to judge and blame others? Or the idea flashed immediately after it appeared. I can't do it. What should I do?
In fact, the "messenger" came at this time. He's reminding you that I'm going to start.
Judge, such a role usually begins with accusations from parents.
When we were children, we internalized these accusations into our own judges. If you often judge yourself or others, it means that there is a judge working inside you.
? How to get along well with judges is actually a particularly important thing.
Appreciate him, because he must hope you are good;
Accept him without liking him;
Let him become smaller and less important in his heart;
Let judges take occasional vacations or retire completely.
How do career planners help visitors with Satya?
? Work with four goals: higher self-esteem, stronger choice ability, stronger sense of self-responsibility and more harmony.
? Respect five therapeutic elements: experiential, systematic, positive-oriented, change-oriented, and good use of yourself.
? There is a certain boundary between career counseling and psychological counseling. In the process of operation, we respect the consultation expectation of visitors, but we still need to use diversified psychological counseling techniques to see clearly the essence of performance problems. Finding problems and seeing the truth is not terrible. The key is how to look at these problems and dynamically explore what I can do.
See you tomorrow.
? My goal this year is to help 100 women start their personal growth through consultation and companionship. If you want to join, please feel free to contact me.
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