The author of this book, Ms. Zhang Defen, is an influential personal growth writer in the Chinese-speaking world and the founder of Zhang Defen Space. [1] As the pioneer and founder of China's spiritual books, Ms. Zhang Defen's first work, Meeting the Unknown Self, published in 2007 has become a must-read classic in the field of spiritual growth in China, with far-reaching influence.
Honey, there is no one outside, only yourself. Became a classic language in the book.
Do you often see such a question in Weibo and Zhihu: What kind of person do you want to be in five or ten years?
After most people answered this question, they passed. Because of the muddled life, most ordinary people are afraid to talk about their dreams.
No matter what kind of magnetic field we are attracted to, we should obey our inner voice, so as to save ourselves from the pain.
In the materialistic world, Ms. Zhang Defen can be said to be a winner at the starting line. Her background, education and life experience have fascinated countless ordinary people.
The experience of three marriages made her think about life. She once suffered from depression. See someone explain that depression is like a black hole, black dog? This is an extremely terrible disease. Most people will misunderstand this disease and think that it is melodramatic, is it not a bad mood?
However, the root of the disease lies in the blockage of the heart. So, Mr. Devon began to explore the soul and rebuild his broken heart. Because I opened my heart, I have Zhang Defen now.
Most people are not their own masters, but slaves of thoughts and emotions. This sentence seems to hit my heart.
I am a person who is easily influenced by emotions. Sometimes when something goes wrong, I can't calm myself down. With the growth of my age, I often read books about emotions and hearts, because I need to internalize myself and strengthen my heart in order to become a real master.
A few days ago, I read an article written by teacher Zhang Defen. She said that appropriate negative emotions are also acceptable, instead of erasing our negative emotions, because we are human beings and there will always be times when we are unhappy. Accept yourself like this, and then adjust your mentality.
Just like the book "Meeting Unknown Oneself", what we need to do is to change our mentality and look at people and things in this world. As the saying goes, it is better to change than to complain.
If you also feel that life is too tired and want to find so-called happiness, try to do the following three things:
1. No matter what you resist, you will continue.
Why does Ruo Ling always feel tired in life? Her hard work in the workplace is physical fatigue, but in life she is a wife and daughter-in-law. Because she has no children for more than ten years, the eyes of her mother-in-law and sister-in-law make her tired, and her husband's thoughtlessness makes her physically and mentally exhausted.
Therefore, the husband's words, children will not be born, rice will be cooked. It stung her deeply, and she ran out of the door and chose to escape from this cold home, thus meeting the old man.
Who you are, who I am and who he is. This torture from the soul: can you answer it? Presumably we can't really answer who we are at once. Because our answer may be the same as Ruo Ling's, just role-playing. Therefore, we should pursue the real thing instead of clinging to others.
2. Love, happiness and peace.
These five words are so warm and smell like sunshine.
We have been looking for love, whether it is family, friendship or love. We all need to love and be loved. Joy blooms from the inside out and naturally comes from your heart.
Peace, great men like Gandhi were born for peace. Today's era is peaceful, so we have the right to pursue ourselves, so we should cherish the present peace and prosperity.
3. The process of finding the true self
There is no denying that when we grow up, we really have too many things to think about and do, so we can't get simple happiness. Joy from the inside out is even rarer.
But in the process of finding the true self, we have been doing it. Although I often go the wrong way, I don't know where to start looking. However, we have always had a sense that we are looking for the true self in order to achieve physical, mental and spiritual harmony.
In fact, as long as you spend a little time examining your heart every day, you will pay close attention to the changes in your heart and the gains and growth you bring.
The brilliance of this book is beyond comprehension in a few words. In recent days, rereading this book is like being mentally washed.
The text of the book is not so gorgeous, but it is sincere, which directly hits the soul's torture and reflection. When you have time, you can open this book and read it to find your true self.