Some people say that marriage is a besieged city, people outside the city want to come in and people in the city want to go out;
It is also said that marriage is the grave of love;
Others say that marriage is a woman's second reincarnation;
As for me, I prefer to compare marriage to a pair of shoes. No matter how ostentatious a shoe looks and whether it is comfortable to wear, only the owner of the shoe knows.
My two high school classmates, Xiaomei and Xiao Ai, grew up together. They are similar in age and neighbors, so people in the community always like to compare them.
Xiao Ai is independent. After graduating from high school, she worked as a shopping guide in the local department store. Xiaomei is gentle and considerate. After graduating from college, she works in the local government department.
This year, they got married in succession. Since then, their marriage has become a topic that people talk about after dinner.
Xiao Ai's husband is an ordinary worker in the factory, and his family background is average. It is not an exaggeration to say that he is in the lower-middle level. After Xiao Ai got married, she didn't buy a new house because of economic reasons, so she had to live in a house of more than 80 square meters with her parents-in-law, and the only means of transportation at home was a lady's motorcycle.
On the other hand, Xiaomei's situation is very different. Xiaomei's husband is a formal employee of a state-owned enterprise, and her father-in-law is a real estate boss. After marriage, she also lived with her parents-in-law, but she lived in a villa with a swimming pool. As soon as Xiaomei got married, her father-in-law gave her a Mercedes.
So different, people say that Xiaomei married well, and Xiao Ai will suffer in the future.
However, what is the result? After Xiao Ai got married, the whole person's complexion became more ruddy, his skin was white and tender, his smile was always on his lips, and his whole body smelled of happiness. Xiaomei, on the other hand, is like a slowly withered rose, looking haggard and sluggish, and gentleness is slowly disappearing, replaced by a decadent spirit.
Although their looks have changed a lot, people still think that Xiaomei's marriage is 1000 times happier than Xiao Ai's.
Because occasionally two people go back to their parents' home together, one by motorcycle and the other by convertible. The contrast is so strong that people can't notice others at all.
Although everyone thinks that Xiaomei's life is happier than Xiao Ai's, one person knows very well that the opposite is true. Xiaomei is not happier than Xiao Ai. It can even be said that Xiaomei's life is not happy at all. That person is Xiaomei herself.
After getting married, Xiaomei lived in a villa, but such a big house made her feel cold and lonely.
Because my husband often doesn't go home for dinner, even regardless of Xiaomei's feelings, he often plays outside with friends until midnight before going home. Occasionally go home for dinner and don't chat with Xiaomei. I just lie on the sofa and play with my mobile phone. Even if you have children, you never hug them, and you don't do your duty as a father.
Besides, Xiaomei's mother-in-law is still very strong, and Xiaomei has to obey her command in everything, such as what Xiaomei should do, when and how to do it. Especially after Xiaomei gave birth to a child, her mother-in-law not only refused to help with the child, but also asked Xiaomei to take care of the child in her way.
This kind of life makes Xiaomei unhappy at all.
However, Xiao Ai's married life has a unique flavor.
Although Xiao Ai's home is not big, it may even be a little crowded, but it is very, very warm.
After getting married, Xiao Ai found that although her husband's family didn't have much money, they were very kind.
My husband is diligent and simple. He makes a lot of things at home by himself. Besides, he can cook well, often cooks for Xiao Ai, and never comes home with friends until midnight.
Before giving birth to children, a family of four often made up a table to play cards after dinner, talking and laughing, and the picture was so warm.
After giving birth to the child, the mother-in-law almost took care of the child's affairs. Even in the evening, the mother-in-law took the children to sleep, saying that the daughter-in-law had a good sleep at night and would have the spirit to go to work during the day.
Xiaomei's marriage is like a pair of crystal shoes set with diamonds. The gorgeous appearance will leave her feet scarred. Xiao Ai's marriage is like a pair of plain cloth shoes. Although it looks ordinary, it makes her feet very comfortable.
In life, people often judge a woman's happiness by her husband's family's conditions. If your husband's family has superior conditions, then you are married and a happy woman, and you won't care if your husband treats you like grass; The condition of the husband's family is worse than that of the mother's family. If you don't marry well, you will definitely suffer, even though you are the treasure of your husband.
In fact, happiness is like drinking water. And marriage is like a pair of shoes. Only you know best whether it fits or not.