The significance of fixed consultation time:
Fixed time is not only beneficial for counselors to arrange work, but also can bring visitors a sense of security and certainty. Visitors can determine when they can see the counselor again, or they can learn to feel and accommodate their emotions during non-consultation time, and learn how to deal with the anxiety of separation. If every consultation is a temporary appointment, it may mean that it is difficult for visitors to establish a stable relationship, which has become a problem that needs to be discussed and dealt with. At the same time, the fixed time allows the consultant to arrange the working hours reasonably, so that the consultant can get rid of the chaos and devote himself to the work in a calm and good state.
The significance of fixed consultation duration;
The duration of individual counseling is generally 50-60 minutes each time, because the limit of brain concentration is about 1 hour. On the other hand, the consultation process will awaken many previous experiences, requiring visitors to put in a lot of emotions to understand and feel, and too long will make visitors feel stressed.
Fixed negotiation time is beneficial to the establishment of negotiation framework. When something touches the framework, it means that there are some potential motives that need to be discussed and understood, such as being late, wanting to leave early, and expecting to extend the time. These have potential psychological significance.
The significance of consulting fees:
There must be a fee for psychological counseling, which is not only a means for psychological counselors to make a living, but also a lot of expenses for psychological counselors to accept study, supervision and personal analysis. The accusation itself has therapeutic significance.
The fee itself clarifies a message: the consulting relationship is a cooperative and equal relationship, in which everyone has his own responsibilities. Visitors can freely express their expectations and negative emotions after paying. If you don't pay, the visitor will feel guilty, take advantage of himself, and may affect his expression of his true feelings, thus affecting the effect of consultation.
After the client established a consultation relationship with the psychological counselor, the illusion of the client's early childhood was activated. Visitors will expect the counselor to be a good mother who can completely satisfy herself and doesn't need to pay too much for herself. When the visitor pays for the consultation, this illusion will be broken, because he has to pay to get help. This is an exchange relationship between adults, which also means that he is no longer the baby lying there waiting to be taken care of. But an adult who must be responsible for his own growth, so he will inevitably be disappointed or even angry. This part of the activated emotion is a problem that needs to be dealt with in consultation, because this expectation mode is likely to bring a lot of trouble to his life, work and interpersonal relationship. Therefore, on the issue of cost, we can present many emotional problems, such as late delivery, overpayment and timely delivery. Behind these are many emotional problems related to relationships. Without the set reference, those emotions related to charges will lack the opportunity to present.
The significance of vacation treatment:
Psychological counseling, especially dynamic psychological counseling, generally takes a long time. In psychological counseling, counselors and visitors will take vacations for various reasons. At this time, many early separation experiences of visitors will be awakened during the psychological counselor's vacation, so the vacation in psychological counseling is also a very important setting. For this setting, it is usually agreed that the vacation time of both parties should be the same from the beginning, otherwise, when the consultant returns to work, the visitor has not returned to work, and the vacation fee will be charged as usual. This setting seems unreasonable, in fact, because once the dynamic psychological counseling visitor decides to enter the counseling relationship, the time left by the psychological counselor will always be left to him and will not be left to others, which is the same as the rent paid for the trip because he did not check out during the rental period. But at present, it is difficult to implement such a setting in China, because foreign bills can't escape. At present, domestic tourists can only take a vacation if they really want to announce it. This will also make some actions decorated with vacations lose opportunities for discussion and understanding.
The significance of avoiding contact outside consultation:
In the setting of dynamic psychological counseling, counselors and visitors should avoid contact outside counseling. Because in empathy, visitors may have very complicated feelings for counselors. These feelings are related to the inner object of the visitor in his early years, not to the counselor, but they will be presented to the counselor and seem to be related to the counselor. These emotions may emerge very strongly during the period when visitors are separated from counselors. If the visitor contacts a counselor when these emotions appear, these strong emotions may be vented outside the consulting room. When they return to counseling, they may lose the opportunity to discuss and deal with these emotions because they are vented. Therefore, it is necessary for both parties to avoid contact outside the negotiation time.