In a one-child family, children often enjoy all the love of their parents. And if there are two children at home, then parents should make a bowl of water. But in some families with children and girls, we can see that some parents have obvious differences in their attitudes towards the two children.
It is an inappropriate concept that we have repeatedly resisted to "prefer boys to girls", but unfortunately, in some people's minds, they still value their sons more. For daughters, this has even become what they call "losing money".
This kind of thinking will transfer the care that should have been given to the daughter to the son, resulting in one being spoiled and the other lacking love. The direct consequence of this is that it may destroy two children and bring great harm to the family.
0 1. Children from poor families take charge early, but Hui Hui should not only take charge in childhood, but also be a good "mother". Because I have a younger brother who is 6 years younger than myself, and both parents are busy in other places, Hui Hui takes care of this younger brother most of the time. Although my parents work hard, they can barely maintain food and clothing at home.
In Hui Hui's impression, parents love their younger brother very much, and they will bring them food wherever they go. If something is expensive, parents will only bring a copy to their younger brother. Hui Hui is very wise. She knows that she must give up her brother. During college, Hui Hui will also send part of his scholarship and part-time income to his younger brother.
Later, my parents went out as apprentices and opened a snack bar mainly for fried rice. Get up early and get greedy every day, and business is getting better and better. From that year, Hui Hui drank milk for the first time.
02. Because my parents had some savings, they bought a suite soon. At that time, Hui Hui had graduated from college, and her parents told her, "My brother is much younger than you, so you should help him. We are going to leave this house to you. Anyway, we are making more and more money. My brother is several years younger than you. We will buy it for him in the future. "
Hui Hui didn't expect that she didn't love her mother very much since she was a child, and even promised to give her the first suite. Suddenly, she was filled with gratitude. After graduation, she sent almost half of her income to her younger brother who was studying. In the unit, Hui Hui also talked about love with the young man in the same department.
When getting married, Hui Hui's mother demanded a bride price of 6.5438+0.88 million. Mother told Hui Hui privately that the money was for her brother. Anyway, you don't want the man to buy a house, and the other party should agree. After discussion, Hui Hui's boyfriend agreed to this request.
At 26, Hui Hui got married. She felt very happy after living in the house bought by her parents. But my brother didn't go to college, so he had to live with himself for the time being. However, Hui Hui didn't expect that her younger brother, whom she had been taking good care of, had undergone great changes in recent years.
My brother not only didn't find a job, but also stayed with a bunch of uneducated gangsters all day, and even often took them home for dinner and watched the ball game until late at night. Hui Hui loves her brother very much, so she has been patient. In her spare time, Hui Hui will also enlighten her younger brother.
But in the next six months, Hui Hui and her husband endured great torture. Because the younger brother owed money, even several people came to collect debts, which made the young couple want to stop. Later, Hui Hui learned that her parents had helped her brother pay off a lot of debts in the past six months.
Faced with such an ignorant brother, Hui Hui was very angry, but she was embarrassed to say it directly. She finally dialed her mother's phone: "mom, please ask your brother to move away quickly." My husband has been angry several times. If this continues, our marriage will be affected. "
At this moment, Hui Hui's mother replied, "Daughter, my parents' business is not very good recently, and all your savings have been used by your brother. It is not appropriate for your brother to move out, because the house was originally prepared for your brother. You all have income, so you'd better find a way to buy a house yourself. "
Facing his mother's reaction, Hui Hui suddenly felt desperate. It never occurred to her that she had never been valued by her parents. How to explain to her husband and how to manage the next marriage, she felt helpless and confused.
In this case, Hui Hui should confess to her husband. If two people really love each other, then the husband should understand Hui Hui. There is still a long way to go. If we work together, we will have a good life.
We admit that parents with two children are under unimaginable pressure. Parents will spend most of their time making money, but they certainly don't care enough about their two children. In this case, whether children can grow up on the right track becomes a problem.
With two children at home, family ties are even more important. Maternal love is great, but a bowl of water must be flat. Parents and children should say everything, and the innate affection should establish indestructible trust between them.
However, Hui Hui's experience tells us that some parents are not very responsible, and the phenomenon of favoring sons over daughters and overprotecting two treasures occurs from time to time even today. It is excessive to spoil your son without a bottom line or even ignore your daughter's happiness.
Using her daughter's marriage as a springboard for her son, or even taking advantage of asking for a bride price to collect some money for her son, is tantamount to depriving her of love. Perhaps in the eyes of such parents, the daughter is nothing in front of her son.
We advocate equality between men and women and attach importance to family ties. No matter who we get along with, we should be honest and respectful. More importantly, when we enter the society, we should make ourselves independent as soon as possible. On the one hand, we should prevent ourselves from getting old; On the other hand, we should take our future into our own hands.