Xiao Nuan said, the task is completed. Let's dissolve!
I said, "Well, we'll leave when we get together, and we'll leave when we get together. Enjoy the hardships and beauty of this process, cherish the friendship between * * * and * *, and thank you for your company!"
……
Later, Xiao Nuan withdrew from the group, and there were only three of us in the group, leaving only two people, Akiko and me. I think I'll give it back, too I also want to read all the information that has not been deleted before I leave. A large group of information is really too big. It is particularly comfortable for me to clear it with one click after recording, but I have never deleted it here. I probably subconsciously want to leave it for later. So, climb the stairs and turn down bit by bit, watching, so many beautiful memories are unwilling to be deleted! The more I read it, the stronger I felt, so I came up with the idea of writing such a written record of our times.
I. Origin
1, I had a phone call with Minzi, and it was a joke-like agreement.
? 65438 10 When Minko came back, we had a long phone call. On the phone, she said that moving to the south may be arranged by God on purpose, so that she can have a real new start at the age of 40. I said, all right! Minko, please read the next book, Start Over at Forty. You must be very touched ... Minko said, OK! Then let's come together! So, we formed an alliance in private. Although there was no reporting organization, it was leaked. Soon, news came from the group that someone volunteered to publish the next book. Haha, even the retreat is blocked.
A book, a plan
? At the end of 10, I received a book "Garden of Dreams" by our photography teacher Zhu Hongmo-a book I wanted to read for a long time but didn't buy. Reading the book in one breath is very touching. My garden dream, which I carefully dreamed, suddenly became clear. What impressed me even more was the plan of 10 1 written in the teacher's book, so I followed suit. On the night of my 37th birthday, I began to write down all kinds of dreams and plans that had been suppressed in my heart for many days, big and small, bit by bit, although I didn't write enough.
A meeting, a hug, an invitation
165438+ 10/0 is the birthday of Xiao Nuan Gregorian calendar. In the birthday reminder function of QQ, I know that this news came out by myself, and I just saw it. I am very grateful to Xiao Nuan for all the wonderful things she has brought me since I joined the reading group for two years, and decided to send a gift to express my heart on her birthday. I sent her this message:
? Surgery. That doesn't sound good. Call and ask, my uncle is in the hospital as a freshman, waiting to arrange an operation.
Me: Xiao Nuan, is anyone with you now?
Xiao Nuan: Just my father and myself. ...
Through the mobile phone, I heard Xiao Nuan's strange voice on the phone. Although she relaxed soon, she told me that it didn't matter, just wait.
I said, Xiao Nuan, I'm not busy today. Come and play with you! My father had an operation six months ago, and I know how you feel.
She said: Then you come!
We made an appointment with Xiaoping, and we got there as fast as we could. I didn't call Xiao Nuan again. I searched all the way along the ward corridor. There was a thin woman who looked down at a book in an escort suit and couldn't see her face clearly, but I thought it was her, and it was.
There was no sound in the corridor, so the three of us moved to the elevator entrance of the hall. She stayed with us for a long time in thin clothes. Later, she said that today was her birthday, so she asked her big brother to take a picture and left the picture on it. When I saw her off, the elevator came and she gave me a tight hug. I joked: Hehe, I have known Xiao Nuan for more than two years, and I finally understand.
? When I got home, my mobile phone received a message. Xiao Nuan said, "You came to see me today and touched me."
? Probably because of this sentence, I have a wish in my heart, which is written in my 10 1:
60. Hug Xiao Nuan again and read together.
She saw the news at night and replied to me the next morning:
This message was followed by another:
? Wow! You did a good job. Xiao Nuan agreed! I called Minzi and told her that she was obviously happy, not only happy, but also excited. In this way, the three of us successfully formed a team and officially reported to the organization, just waiting for the time to beat gongs and drums.
Second, the beautiful and arduous process.
1, preparation before starting
? 165438+1October 14, Xiao Nuan took me and Minzi to build a small group of three people, named "Our Forty Years Old". Xiao Nuan is a person who likes to do things first. You see, just two or three days after she promised to do this, as soon as she started the group, she posted some guide maps that she planned to share during her study, as well as a lot of reading about this book.
Xiao Nuan! My goddess, I know you are serious, but I didn't expect you to be so serious. Suddenly I feel the pressure of working with you is like a mountain.
Or mins know how to comfort me:
@ Yuan Derong? No pressure. This is a wonderful date. We enjoy being together [hugging] [hugging] [hugging]. I'm not afraid. What are you afraid of [sinister]
Yes! What Minko said makes sense, the process is more important! To enjoy this process, you can't be short of breath at the beginning.
After two days of serious thinking, I also straightened out my thoughts. One day, I woke up early and wrote some thoughts about this reading. I sent them to the group after five o'clock:
Akiko and Xiao Nuan: I woke up in the middle of the night with a clear head. I've thought about reading this book. I have a few ideas to show you first:
1. Consideration about time:
165438+1October16-165438+1October 19: Give everyone a time for buffering, transition and preparation. Maybe many people have no books or don't know what to read next.
165438+1October 20th to 65438+February 65438+May * * Reading.
2. Sincerely send you an invitation to read this good book and go on a love date to celebrate our rebirth after one month. With invitation:
Dear book lovers:165438+1On October 20th, we will start reading the new book "A Fresh Start at 40". This time, Akiko, Xiao Wen and I will show you this book. We sincerely invite you to open Matsuura Yataro's book with us. This book is small, light and easy to read, but it is of great significance. Let's discuss life together and explore our own treasures. Let's sort out our dreams and look forward to the dazzling dream life of 70 years old. Let us also welcome our growth and rebirth with an open and accepting attitude. A month later, I hope everyone will go on a date and celebrate our 40-year-old rebirth together.
3. Regarding whether to punch in: I personally think it is necessary. This book is relatively easy to read, with seven chapters and the last reminder, and the number of punches is 8.
4. Witness and record: I think of the punch-in record book made by the last time I loved education, and the beautiful article made by Yuling. Can we learn from them and make a more exquisite book this time? The title is Our Forty Years Old. We can express our vision in advance and let more people participate, one for each participant.
5. About energy reading: The three of us take turns to relay, so that everyone can participate and let us experience continuous efforts.
165438+1October 24th: Xiao Nuan.
165438+1October 25th to June 65438+February 4th: Minko
65438+February 5th to 65438+February 65438+May: Derong
I'll write it down for you, and I want to hear your opinion.
? The one-month * * * reading conference is actually a long process. We have made preparations before the start of the * * * reading conference and have high expectations.
2. Reading ceremony
I think the ceremony is still necessary to give people a sense of solemnity. We began to discuss the card receiving ceremony the next day the night before the opening of the 20th reading club, and each prepared his own lines:
Xiao Nuan:
This is a meaningful book, which embodies "the right time, the right place, the right people and the people who promote my growth". Therefore, bravely accepting this invitation, the end of the journey is not important, what I care about is the beautiful encounter by the roadside, the mud under my feet, and the bright sky. In the next month, I would like to finish reading this book with you sincerely and never give up.
Akiko:
Two calls from the starting point
Akiko: Derong, moving south is my 40th birthday present. I am looking forward to my new life.
Derong: Minko, let's read the next book, 40 gives you a brand-new start!
Derong: Minko, I have an appointment with Xiao Nuan to meet our leader.
Akiko: Great, I'm looking forward to it!
Now Derong, Xiao Nuan and Minzi sincerely invite beautiful mothers to join in reading and start a new life in the coming month. I hope that in this process, everyone can collide with wonderful sparks, illuminate others and be beautiful! [Ross] [Ross] [Ross]
Derong:
Life begins at the age of forty.
As the western proverb says, "a person's life begins at the age of forty."
It seems that before I was forty, there were only a few plays.
All the good things are over.
……
The pleasures of middle age,
I know a lot about life and myself.
Do your best,
Enjoy the life you can enjoy.
Tong Ling in ordinary classes is suitable for singing the whole martial arts drama.
Only middle-aged actors can afford big-axis dramas.
Only in middle age can he really understand the content of the play.
? -Liang Shiqiu's Middle Age (excerpt)
Dear friends: On the 20th of today, let's start reading the new book "For a Brand-new 40" with such a passage. From today to 65438+February and 65438+May, I, Xiaowen and Minzi will study with you. I hope we can hold hands and leave an unforgettable journey together.
3. Division of labor
? At first, we didn't know the division of labor. Apart from reading aloud with relay energy and leading everyone to punch in, we didn't specially arrange who should do what. Later, we all volunteered to do it after we had our own ideas, such as counting everyone's birthdays, punching in notes for everyone, sharing the words and pictures of Xiao Nuan's One Hundred Basics, and collecting everyone's childhood dreams and photos later. We are particularly willing to contribute something to the group through our own efforts.
4. Several special meetings
1 1.20- Drinking in the hospital
165438+1October 20th, the first day of our official opening of * * * reading, happened to be the day of Xiao Nuan's father's surgery. We went to Xiao Nuan to find out this passage:
2017.11.20 "For a brand-new start at the age of 40" Xiaoxinma punched No.65438 +0:
At this moment, I am waiting for surgery in front of my father's bed. I have experienced a struggle before, that is, whether to go to school first. Recently, I have missed too many classes, so the teaching plan can't be completed, and other teachers can't take the place. In this process, I struggled with ink three or four times. The first moment I opened my eyes this morning, I suddenly told myself that I couldn't do something that I regretted irretrievably. So, although I knew it was too late, I rushed to the hospital to wait together. If it was me before, I think I must attend class first and finish my homework. At the age of 40, I learned what is important in life and what can be given up temporarily. Is this forty years old? I was just asking my father, if I can drink porridge 24 hours a day in ICU, what kind of porridge would you like to drink? With sugar? I imagined in my mind that he would know I existed when he drank sweets, right?
Let's just say this invitation to study. I never thought I would study, especially under such circumstances, but when I met De Rong, she gave me strength and led me to grow up, so I didn't want to miss it. This book was received on June 28th this year, and was given to me by Xiaoping and Lai Zhen at the same time, so it is two identical books. I have opened both books. I have read them three times. Every time I open it, I feel different. This is Yataro's style. Let's live wisely and peacefully.
Chapter 1: Forty-year-old freshman. A few points touched me: 1. What have you done along the way? 2, aiming far, the light of seventy years old; 3. Keep learning new things (plan to learn a new skill and learn from young people); 4, know how to deal with it, and love calmly between persistence and openness; 5, the beginner's mentality, give yourself a chance to start again (I plan to pick up my professional foreign language again and learn English again).
Finally, I wish us a happy birthday!
Clock-in is over (this code word is really not easy for me who is usually silent)
That is, this afternoon, Xiao Nuan's father had a craniotomy, and friends took turns to visit him. Minko specially asked me to bring some wine. What? Is drinking allowed in the hospital? Is this to see a patient? How is the rhythm of climbing. When we arrived, my uncle lived in the intensive care unit, and several people in the ward were eating happily. At first glance, it looks quite rich. The ward is crowded and crowded. Small tables and stools were moved to the elevator room, with wine and meat, and flowers on the messy table. The sisters just drank and laughed.
What a high realm this is! Those gentlemen in the hospital corridor must be envious!
When we all left, Akiko stayed with Xiao Nuan. Later, I heard from Xiao Nuan that she was particularly moved by her company tonight.
I also went to find the text recorded by Minko about this evening:
? Companionship is the longest confession!
Xiao Nuan came to my house.
On the 23rd, four days after punching in, I kept a record for Xiao Nuan for a long time. At first, they didn't know, but I didn't want to keep this little secret in my pocket or tell Xiao Nuan in advance. Xiao Nuan was going to stay with her in the hospital that day, but her father and uncle kicked her out of the hospital. Then when she was around Hongbo Island, she happened to see what I gave her, so she turned the car to Zhongshan Road. She said that if we were not at home, we would come and sit for a while. Once in our neighborhood, Xiaoping took a dessert shop to sit for a while, be quiet and meet again. As a result, we met at my house.
That night, I was particularly surprised and happy about Xiao Nuan's sudden arrival. It happened that my husband came back late from seeing a client, and everything was so coincidental. We are comfortable at home and the children like her very much. The girl taught her aunt to make lanyards, and Xiao Nuan showed her a picture book. The son quickly jumped on her, and it was obvious that they all liked her very much. Xiaoping also brought us the bread she tried to make for the first time. It was delicious when it first came out of the oven. Everyone is very relaxed and happy tonight ~ ~ ~ ~
1 1.27- Celebrating Xiao Nuan's birthday
165438+1October 27th is the 10th day of the 10th lunar month, the beginning of Xiao Nuan's 39th birthday and 40th birthday. A few days before that, Minzi and I discussed that we should plan to celebrate Xiao Nuan's birthday, and we also exchanged our ideas with Xiao Nuan, and she accepted it. When we read Matsuura Yataro's book, there is a saying:? Accepting other people's gifts is the greatest pay! ? I think this sentence is useful for Xiao Nuan. We also fulfill each other, and each has its own brand-new experience and harvest.
11.29-We met with sincerity.
? 165438+1October 27th, Xiao Nuan's birthday, my wife was hospitalized for hernia surgery, but she had to wait in line for minor surgery and hung up in the ward. Xiaowen and Minzi know the news and must come to visit. I said the patient is not in the hospital, so you don't have to come! They said they should come and see, so I let them come. The patient ran away. If you can't see the patient, let's date alone. Regarding a bathing center near the community, I remember that it was particularly cold that day, and it was a good choice to take a bubble bath. It was the first time that the three of us got together alone and talked a lot about reading and ourselves. I remember that Xiao Nuan also shared with us the story of her association with Shi Xing, the story of him and Seed, and talked about our family affairs ... On this day, we "stripped naked" and got closer and closer.
12. 1- to visit my wife in the provincial hospital.
My wife165438+1October 30th had an operation, and I also got the pathological report of Xiao Nuan's father the day before. The result is not as good as expected.
In this case, Xiao Nuan still invited Minzi and Xiaoping to visit my lover in the afternoon. Later, I heard Minko describe a detail. On the way from the medical university to the provincial hospital by taxi, Xiao Nuan was too tired, perhaps too uncomfortable. When she got on the bus, she leaned back and tilted her head for a while. Minko quietly leaned over and put her head on her shoulder. She said she wanted Xiao Nuan to be comfortable. Later, Xiao Nuan drew a picture for her, and the villain in the picture had tears in his eyes.
Later, after we came out of the provincial hospital, four people sat in the opposite coffee shop for a while. Xiao Nuan, who didn't eat much for a day, ordered a cup of coffee instead. I felt sorry for her stomach and specially ordered a small cake. I hope she can taste the sweetness in the bitterness. When she came to the provincial hospital alone the next day, she brought me a package of gifts and a lollipop. She said she wanted me to taste it myself. This is us. Things in life are not always satisfactory. We can't change what has happened. Then we have to adjust ourselves and change our mood, even for our friends. Maybe we can't help, but we can give each other a warm comfort and bring strength and hope. Xiao Nuan's "Something Good Will Happen" series of pictures, I think she gave them to herself and to us.
@ Yuan Derong? I lit this lamp today and finished your bottle of wine. I hope something good will happen tomorrow.
12. 13- Difficult meeting
Minzi booked a flight back to Huizhou in 65438+February 65438+early morning of April. She has also experienced a lot since she came back this time. It's really worrying to leave her children with friends for more than a month. Of course, our mother totally understands. She said that our choice would be regrettable. She also said that in the past, we would choose to participate in activities before leaving. This time, she followed her heart, but all three of us felt that we had to meet again anyway before we could leave. It's hard to see this side. I made an appointment at Xiao Nuan School first, and then I didn't make an appointment at the Gymnasium in Zone 8 of Xiao Xin Division. Atsuko finally made an appointment on the last night before leaving and went to Xiao Nuan's home. We discussed the details of the event, made PPT together, ate takeout together, and three people shared an ice cream. We also asked Xiao Xin to take photos of three people together as a souvenir of our study together.
Third, fate is wonderful.
A book, a reading, has brought us so many experiences and gains, which is really unexpected. I think the biggest gain here is the rich inner feelings in this process and the friendship precipitated by the same experience.
? Xiao Nuan said it well! Looking for happiness in pain and hope in despair, we enjoyed the beauty of this process together! Heart to heart, appreciate each other, become sisters.
I have always believed in one sentence: all encounters are reunions after a long separation, and all fate has long been doomed. Sisters meet after a long separation, destined to meet and know each other, neither too early nor too late, and everything happened just right. Fate, wonderful!
Heart language:? I conceived this article from 12 and 18, thought about it for several days and wrote it several times. Finally, I recorded everything I wanted to record and express, as a commemoration of our experience for more than a month, for myself and for dear Xiao Wenmin. This affectionate gift hopes to warm our memories and illuminate our way forward.
Derong
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