The mother pays too much, and the son becomes a matter of course. In fact, she bought the real estate license with her own money, and then moved in by herself, and then her son and daughter-in-law moved in, so that she was the owner, and her son and daughter-in-law dared not be rude.
This should be the result of doting. After a woman is abandoned by a man, she gives all her love to her children except her sadness, and she can't even cry. It can be seen that there is too much sadness and helplessness in life. She does the hardest and most tiring work just to earn more money. In addition to loving children, it can also be understood as venting and punishing yourself in disguise, and finally taking out all the savings and debts to buy a house for my son. This practice is owed. He has graduated from college, worked, got married and had children. You have done your duty. Buy him a house and let him enjoy it. Instead, he doesn't know that you have worked hard. This is a poor inheritance wind.
Son, daughter-in-law must be wrong, regardless of filial piety, even the most basic ideological and moral, how can you not know how to be grateful? Who raised you, educated you and bought you a house? Do you take this for granted? You are married and have children. Do you want your children to do the same to you in the future?
I sympathize with the mother's situation, but I have to say, who is to blame? Why not buy a three-bedroom apartment for yourself, but for your son and daughter-in-law? Even if the house has its own name on it, let them live there. Have you ever thought about such "love" and the consequences?
Writing the son's name when buying a house is equivalent to the mother giving up the right of the head of the family prematurely. I can imagine how a woman can live with her children, and how much it will cost to buy a three-bedroom apartment for her son on a woman's salary. But you shouldn't, you shouldn't leave yourself a way out, and you shouldn't pin all your hopes on your son.
At the beginning of buying a house, the mother definitely meant to live with her son and daughter-in-law in the future. She thought of a young couple, a family and a grandson, so she bought a three-bedroom apartment.
If you think so, you should write the property rights in your own name and let them take refuge in you. In this way, not only the mother's life is difficult, but also her son and daughter-in-law live under her roof, and everything is up to her.
Great, the house belongs to my son, and my daughter-in-law can live if she wants her mother-in-law, but she doesn't want her mother-in-law, so she has every reason to refuse. You said you bought the house, and I have the right to live. But if there is no special agreement, the house bought after marriage is a gift, that is, half of the daughter-in-law. If the mother-in-law insists on living, and the daughter-in-law divorces in anger, she will lose not only her son's marriage, but also half her property.
If you don't need children's care, don't get together if you can live separately. It's not a bad thing that your son and daughter-in-law didn't take the initiative to let you live in the new house with them. At least I don't have to be a free nanny. Out of sight, out of mind, there are many reasons to be angry.
Although living alone is a bit quiet, when you think of living with children, you need to wash their clothes, do cleaning, buy food and cook and look after their children. Is it more chic to live alone?
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not easy to get along with. If my mother is a nagging and hard-working mother-in-law, I prefer to live alone. Chatting with a few friendly friends, visiting the park and taking a walk in the community will be good in a few years.
It is obviously their fault that my son's daughter-in-law didn't invite their mother to live in their new house. However, from the son's behavior, it can be reflected that the mother dotes on her son too much, so that her son is too selfish and has no position as a mother in his heart.
In this case, don't be too entangled, adjust your mentality and live in the present easily.
I remember when my son was in kindergarten, his father bought us delicious food (I forgot what it was). I want him to eat more, but I seldom eat myself. As a result, once, when I was about to eat, he cried and said, my dad bought it for me! At that moment, I was shocked and felt that there was something wrong with my education method. I told him, son, what your father bought is shared by the whole family and everyone can eat it. If you don't believe me, you can come back and ask him. Later, my husband asked me when he came back, and his father's statement was consistent with mine. The son accepted. But since then, his father and I, no matter what delicious food we bought at home, will eat together. For the sake of the children, we will never eat more. If you don't realize it, all your efforts will make children feel taken for granted. Cultivate him to rely on himself in everything, but be grateful for his parents' help. Otherwise, he'll just think it's right. Perhaps the son in the article thinks that it is also right for others to get married and have a wedding room, and my mother should buy it for me. He didn't expect that his mother gave all her savings to herself and didn't even have a place to live. Therefore, it is very important to cultivate children to be grateful from an early age and learn not to take others' efforts for granted.
Mother took out all her savings, borrowed some more, and finally bought her son a big three-bedroom house!
First of all, a mother should discuss with her son and daughter-in-law, take out her savings, borrow some money and buy a big house, okay? We should also discuss how to repay the borrowed money.
If you can't live together, your mother doesn't need to take out her savings, let alone borrow money. Who will return it?
Kids and dads. Although my father has been running with a woman for more than ten years, he is a son after all, and his father can also contribute. A friend's child has been divorced for more than 20 years. When the son got married and bought a house, the father paid more than half.
Then the children should stand on their own feet and make money to buy a house by themselves. Mom doesn't have to sacrifice herself, get into debt or rent a house. Mom should at least have her own house.
Everything is given to my son, and I fantasize that my son will be polite to you. How naive! I didn't cultivate my son's thoughts of independence and filial piety. I'm just disillusioned Why are you crying?
A family wants to sell their three-bedroom apartment to buy a house for their children, but his son strongly disagrees. Say, you can't lower your living conditions and buy me a house. This is to cultivate a good child!
First of all, advise mother not to be sad. Now that children are like this, there is no need to make a fuss And it's a good thing you didn't go reluctantly, otherwise it would be even worse if people were driven out to cry!
When I lived in Jinxiu Huacheng Community in the city, there was a family on the first floor of the neighboring community in the east that was similar to yours. It's just that the old couple worked hard to buy a three-bedroom apartment with their savings, and they plan to live with their son's family.
But when she moved, her daughter-in-law changed her mind and said it was not convenient to live together. then what The house in my hometown has been sold. Finally, the old couple had to rent a house without gas heating nearby and cook for their daughter-in-law and children during the day. The son's family lives in a three-bedroom apartment with gas heating.
After a while, the old lady and my wife became familiar with each other and often cried when they met. So everyone advised her not to be sad and to be open.
After moving last summer, I occasionally went back to clean the house. Once my wife met the old lady again. Speaking of which, her wife has passed away and she lives alone in a rental house. Of course, it is still the same to bring grandchildren to do housework. So I cried. ……
So say to the subject, aren't you better than this old lady? At least I didn't get kicked out, and I didn't have to be a free nanny again. Stop being sad or fantasizing. Your task has been completed, so plan your old age well!
Is it the mother's fault for not educating her children well and raising an ungrateful child? I want to teach my children to be grateful when they are young, and I want to be a good example myself. I have a deep understanding. I was 33 years old when I went to the countryside and returned to the city to get married. I don't have a house and live with my parents. We all took my own children with us after they were born. My children had a factory nursery when they were young and went to kindergarten after they were three years old. My mother cooked dinner. I often thank my mother in front of the children. I go home from work to help my mother do housework. Sometimes I say thank you to my children. Every time I buy delicious food, I always ask my children to send the biggest or best food to my grandparents' room. The children are used to it. When I see her mother and I work for her, I will say thank you. My husband and wife just got laid off when our children went to college. Knowing that our family is hard, she never asks too much, and she is considerate of us until she gets married and has children. Recently, she bought a house of 180 square meters, which has been decorated. Let's go and have a look. One of the bedrooms belongs to my wife and me, with furniture and bedding. She said she would surprise us, welcome us to stay at any time, and gave us the key. So good children are educated.
It just means your son is right. He's awake. He's been a baby boy for more than 20 years, and he's under your control and restrictions everywhere. It was not until he had a daughter-in-law that he suddenly realized that he was a man. He should be kind to his daughter-in-law, instead of listening to his mother like a marionette. Boys raised by single mothers rarely have normal and independent personalities. I'm happy for your son. You are not old, and now you want to go to your son's house for divorce because you have a strong mother-in-law? How many horse-haired men live happily? You're in your early fifties. It would be nice to live a leisurely life alone, so why bother? It's still a long way from paralysis. Live by yourself!
Seeing the problem of the topic, I read it three times in detail, and my heart was very heavy. I was very sad to change the topic. I really don't know how to comfort you to make the subject feel better.
On the road of life, I have seen many single parents who have worked hard to bring up their children, but the children ignore their single parents or think that single mothers or fathers should do so! ! !
The subject, as a mother, began to raise her children at the age of ten, trained them to go to college, and borrowed money to help her son buy a big house with three bedrooms and one living room after marriage. As a mother, the subjects gave all their love to their sons.
The subject is a great mother, selfless dedication, but also a failed mother. Why do I say that? Of course, I have my own opinion.
Whether it is a single-parent family or a two-parent family, in the process of cultivating children, we should not only love children, but also teach their parents the difficulties, especially single mothers.
The subject blindly gave all his love to his son, which led to this situation today. The son should have returned to the single mother when he got married and had children, but the son of the subject didn't even return?
I understand this theme very well, and I put all my hopes on your son. So far, I feel very lost, sad and want to cry. This is the result that the subject dotes on children too much.
Although the son of the subject does not live with the subject, I still agree that the subject should not live with his son, but with his daughter-in-law. This is a lot of contradictions. Therefore, the subjects should first relieve their own pain.
It is suggested that when the subject's mood is adjusted, take time to communicate with your son alone, pay the price for himself over the years, help him buy a house and borrow money now. Think clearly and speak clearly.
And the main body is renting a house, and the son is married and has children. The subject is not young. Adjust your mood, think about how to arrange your old age and let your son bear the foreign debt to help his son buy a house. That's all that matters.
If the son of the subject may have made proper arrangements for the subject's future old age, it may also be that he doesn't understand the idea of letting you live in their big house with three bedrooms and one living room, but according to the rules, his mother should be invited to get together at the housewarming party.
Now, it is not a sad thing for the subject, but a time to solve the worries, that is, to answer questions, and I also expect the subject's son, or all the children raised by a single parent, to be kind to the father or mother who raised you by a single parent. I still say; Crows still know how to feed back, let alone people. Finally, I wish the subject take care of himself, which is king. I wish you happiness every day!