To say that there are many bachelors in Hunan, we can only say that there are many bachelors in the country. The main reason is the serious imbalance between men and women in the country, which is also a huge social problem facing the country. Hunan, close to Guangdong, is also a major labor export province. There are many small buildings and villas in the country. I come from Hengyang, Hunan. Apart from education and medical care, I think it is no different from the city. As for transportation, every village is connected now, and I have bid farewell to that muddy road! There are not many bride price in Hunan. It is a custom in my hometown to marry my daughter and lose money. At first, the man gave her 350 thousand, but in the end, her family usually added some money to give her daughter a wedding. If the man gives her 50 thousand yuan, the woman's family will eventually buy a dowry of more than 50 thousand yuan. Hunan people eat bitter, but Hunan people are flexible, take care of their families and coax their wives. The actual situation is caused by the imbalance between men and women in the country. There are more male bachelors in many places than in Hunan!
Singles are not divided into provinces, countries, species or even planets.
In China, there are 30 million bachelors. Some people even say that no matter how ugly a woman is, she can get married, and no matter how handsome a man is, he may not find the right girl. In my opinion, these are all bullshit. We are human beings, not animals. We are looking for a partner for a better life, not for reproduction. Being single doesn't mean you can't find a wife. Most people are single because they like to look down on themselves and like to look down on themselves. This is the simplest reason.
Today, Brother Shi shared some English knowledge points about "single" on this topic.
Bachelor: bachelor. How to read it? I won't write English phonetic symbols, because I'm worried that many friends haven't been exposed to English phonetic symbols. Translated into Chinese pronunciation is to read "bye-bye car" At the same time, the word also means "bachelor's degree".
So how do you express the opposite "couple"?
When you say "she is my lover", in this sentence, the lover reads "spicy my son ~", but when you introduce "we are lovers", it becomes "lover" and reads "spicy my son ~ son". In addition, Valentine also means a couple, pronounced "except grace". When reading, be tactful, emphasize "outside", and read quickly and briskly. Has everyone learned?
Not only Hunan, but also Shandong.
My home is in the countryside, and all eight townships are bachelor villages.
Are there many bachelors More than 200 million people!
What age group are the majority, 80, 90?
Are they all men? No, there are many bachelors.
Do you think only male single parents are anxious? Female single parents are equally anxious. So now it's contradictory and ridiculous. This country is ridiculous, just like the fine points.
You think marriage is too simple. How many mandarin ducks have you beaten in just a broken house?
Material can never fill people's yearning for love.
Life is dull, no, that's your self-hypnosis (you are a compassionate person). Life is boring without an interesting soul. (make a living)
Is being single shameful?
Shameless, do people still need to be told when they are alive? Be your own bachelor and let others talk!
Don't consider getting married until the government sends the house for free. Wait for government welfare policies, such as western countries and various subsidies, before considering children.
I have a more radical personality. If everyone thought like me, houses would not be so high, prices would not be so high, and taxes would not be so high.
Stupid, short-sighted and competitive women force men to buy houses. They borrowed money for more than 20 years. Ordinary wage earners have to raise four old people, have two children and work. I know many people can't sleep at night, and they are stressed and anxious.
Those who know economics know that there is an economic crisis, which is a good thing. Crisis is the bursting of bubbles and irrational prosperity. There is no crisis in the planned economy, only a shortage. But our country is not.
I don't agree that there are many bachelors in Hunan. I am a woman from Hunan. On this topic, maybe people all over the country have the same problem. The man or woman who said that Hunan was poor bothered you to visit Hunan. Where is Hunan poor and where is the city? Rural areas? Township, which city doesn't? Local tyrants, rich second generation, poor middle peasants and poor peasants, which city is unclear? Have Hunan people eaten your meal and worn your clothes? At least Hunan people didn't hold the country back! Finally, tell you: there are too many unmarried people in Hunan, and there are not many bachelors, which does not disgrace the country!
There are several main reasons.
1, Hunan is near Guangdong, let alone girls and boys have gone to work, who will look after poor places?
2. The ratio of male to female is inherently unbalanced.
3. Feudal thoughts always need bride price.
4. Stubborn personality. Hunan people are known as Hunan mules, and they are stubborn. No neighboring men will coax women.
There are many bachelors in Hunan for several reasons. In fact, although we Hunan men are not so gullible, we are chivalrous, generous and reliable!
One of the countries with the most serious imbalance in gender structure.
Worldwide, there are about 20 countries and regions with a high sex ratio at birth (that is, the number of boys born is 100 girls), but China is the most serious. First of all, the sex ratio at birth is the highest, followed by the longest duration, more than 30 years, and affects the largest population at the same time.
For more than 20 years, the sex ratio at birth in China has been higher than 1 15, even as high as 120 at one time, and some provinces have maintained it at 130 for a long time. In other words, for every girl born 100, 30 more boys will be born. The sex ratio at birth should be kept between 103- 107, which is generally considered as a normal level in the world.
At the end of 20 15, the sex ratio at birth in China was 1 13.5 1, although it declined, it still far exceeded the international normal level. When these boys reach the age of 2056, they will face the problem of getting married or even being single.
One of the reasons behind the imbalanced sex ratio is the tradition of giving preference to boys in China. The inducement of son preference appears in four fields: labor, property ownership and inheritance, sacrificial activities and old-age security. The deep-seated reason why people prefer to have sons is the imperfection of social security mechanism.
The study found that the stronger the dependence on the next generation's pension, the stronger the desire to have boys. Especially in most rural areas of our country, due to the lack of social security system, the only basic security that farmers can rely on comes from their families, so they have to choose to raise children to prevent their old age.
Another background that cannot be ignored is that the imbalance of sex ratio at birth is accompanied by low fertility rate. Due to the implementation of the family planning policy, the birth rate has declined, which has widened the gap between men and women to some extent. It seems to be enough to prove that the imbalance between men and women began about five years after the implementation of the family planning policy, 1985.
Yuan Xin, a researcher in population science, pointed out that having fewer children is a catalyst for the high sex ratio at birth. In the same law of the world, countries with patriarchal culture tend to have a high sex ratio at birth in the process of fertility decline.
In addition, in the mid-1980s, the popularity of B-ultrasound equipment and the progress of detection technologies such as D N A later made artificial sex selection become a reality to some extent. Some scholars even pointed out that the ratio of male to female will be unbalanced because of selective childbearing.
In a word, the ideology of son preference, the imperfection of social security system, the popularization and abuse of B-ultrasound and the catalysis of the policy of declining birthrate have all led to the imbalance of sex ratio at birth in China.
The leftover women are of high quality, while the leftover men are "diaosi"
Now there are more and more discussions about "leftover women", and the problem of "leftover men" seems to be less concerned. Most people around me are lamenting that there are far more leftover women than leftover men. In fact, the number of leftover men is far greater than the number of leftover women, and it is only an "illusion" that there are more leftover women than leftover men.
According to the population data of Shanghai in March, 20 16, the ratio of unmarried men and women aged 0/8-40 in Shanghai is 53.24:46.76, and single men are significantly higher than single women. The results of the sixth population census also support this data.
In that case, why do people think there are more "leftover women"?
The reason is that the proportion of leftover women in big cities is the largest, and they are more likely to enter the public eye and are more eager to get married. Therefore, the "leftover women" crisis has attracted attention on various social platforms. In addition, the proportion of women forced into marriage by relatives and friends is much higher than that of men. The pressure of forced marriage from relatives and friends will also make female bachelors in big cities eager to "get rid of their orders", giving people the impression that there are many "leftover women".
Many examples have proved this point: the media learned from an online dating service provider that the number of women looking for partners on this website is almost four times that of men. Therefore, men can register for free and female customers must pay. Matchmaker Rainbow, who is engaged in marriage and love service, also found that there are many parents coming every blind date, among which girls have far more parents than boys.
The year before last, a survey report on the bachelor rate in various provinces in China by a large dating website showed that the "divorce of leftover women" in big cities was the most urgent among the bachelor rankings in all parts of the country. Among them, the proportion of female bachelors in Beijing ranks first with 36%.
A real estate developer in Nanjing invited a handsome guy and a beautiful woman in a cool summer dress to hold a performance art exhibition.
But the unavoidable problem is that there are tens of millions of male bachelors in China. Why are there so many leftover women who are hard to marry? The main reason is that China marries high and marries low in gradient mode. Rural girls want to marry into the city, and working girls want to marry a rich young man. Therefore, the men and women at both ends of the gradient are left-the high-end "leftover women" and the low-end "leftover men".
Many big cities belong to "high-quality leftover women", most of whom are white-collar workers, who have good jobs and can live completely independently, which directly leads to higher requirements for the other half, making it more difficult to "take off the bill". "Not meeting the right person" is the main reason why they are older and unmarried.
Unfortunately, the outstanding men in their eyes pay more attention to the woman's face value, figure and age when choosing the object. They hope to find a girl with high face value, good figure and young age, and high-quality women with high education and high income are not their ideal goals. So these high-quality women were mercilessly left behind.
On the other hand, more men and fewer women will inevitably lead to "marriage squeeze". To put it simply, it is because of the large gap between men and women of marriageable age that a large number of men may not find a spouse. When the post-90s generation enters the marriage and childbearing age, this cumulative effect will be amplified from about 20 15.
At this time, women have more choices in marriage, and more and more rural women choose to marry in the city, even willing to lower the bride price and other conditions.
At the same time, in order to increase the chances of success, older men will choose spouses from young women, older men in cities will find rural women, men in rich areas will find women in underdeveloped areas, and "leftover men" will eventually settle in poor areas. The leftover women in big cities disdain these leftover men, forming a vicious circle.
Therefore, commentator Hong believes that these leftover men are at a real disadvantage in the marriage and love market in China, and the probability of being single is almost certain. It should be said that poor bachelors should be the main force of China bachelors. Houses, cars and bride price have completely crushed men in China, and the rising house prices have aggravated the situation that men can't afford to marry, making more and more bachelors in poor areas. The greater the gap between the rich and the poor, the more bachelors there will be.
In addition to the concept of marriage and love, many "leftover women" have always been single, which has a lot to do with their lack of opportunities to choose a spouse. At present, the pressure of life is increasing, the pace of work is fast, the time for making friends is short, and the problem of occupational gender segregation is prominent, which makes young men and women have fewer opportunities to make friends.
More than 80% of single women said that they usually have too much work pressure and basically live a "company-home" life, so they have no time to expand their circle of friends. Another 30% of women said that they felt that they simply "had no time to fall in love".
In addition, the age pressure exerted by society on women is greater than that on men. Thirty years old is the golden age for men to develop in society, but many people think that women are no longer young when they reach 30, and they should put family first, which directly leads to the increase of psychological pressure on women at work. Many women have a psychology that they should struggle for a few more years while they are young and put their feelings aside in advance.
Problems brought by "leftover men" and "leftover women"
The imbalance between male and female affects the population development in China. As a direct child, the female "deficit" will inevitably lead to a decline in the birth rate, further reducing the total population and the size of the working-age population, and accelerating the process of population aging.
The long-term imbalance of sex ratio at birth is intertwined with the aging population, which intensifies the irrationality of population structure and is not conducive to social and economic development. In the long run, "surplus" men have no spouses and children, which brings problems to their own pension and their parents' future pension.
The imbalance between men and women also brings the problem of employment squeeze, and the traditional female-dominated positions may be squeezed by men, which will affect the promotion of women's employment status. A clothing boss who often travels to and from Guangzhou, Hangzhou, Shanghai and other places said that many textile factories have closed down because they can't recruit female workers. 10-20 years later, male labor surplus and "employment gender squeeze" will become increasingly serious.
The surplus of male labor force will enhance the competition in the labor market and aggravate the difficulty of female employment; In some industries and occupations, there may be a shortage of women and men should replace them; Due to the surplus labor force, some male jobs will be subject to fierce competition from men.
The social problems caused by the long-term high sex ratio at birth first landed in remote and poor rural areas, not cities. Due to the lack of information in these backward areas, the "leftover man" crisis rarely enters the public eye. But in fact, the potential harm of the "bachelor crisis" to society is more significant.
The continuous accumulation of men who can't get married at the time of marriage has greatly increased the risk of social instability and instability. It can be said that the more bachelors there are, the more likely it is to lead to an increase in cases of sexual violence, human trafficking, buying and selling marriages, missing children and so on.
According to the Technical Report on the Investigation of Gender Imbalance and Social Stability in Hundred Villages, some older unmarried men in the villages surveyed have participated in activities that undermine social order in the past three years, and the order of occurrence is gambling, gathering people to make trouble, partnership theft and making trouble.
How to reverse the situation?
In fact, the delay of "marriage age" and even the increase of single people have become a worldwide trend. For example, in the 1950 s, only 22% of the American population lived alone. Today, more than half of Americans are single, and 310 million of them live alone, accounting for about17 of the American adult population.
Kreymbourg, a professor of sociology at new york University, clearly pointed out in his book "Single Society" that "our society has changed from a society that protects people from harm to a society that allows people to give full play to their talents", and delaying marriage or even becoming a single family is one of the choices to give full play to their talents.
Therefore, to treat the phenomenon of "leftover men and women", we need to rationally distinguish attribution and treat it rationally. On the one hand, the phenomenon of forced "surplus", for example, it is difficult for rural men to get married because of objective reasons such as poverty, which requires the comprehensive guidance and intervention of the public.
A commentary published by Xinhua Daily Telegraph in February this year said that when individuals are unable to solve the marriage problem of leftover men, governments at all levels and social organizations should lend a helping hand. Because the rural leftover men are not only the individual crisis of the leftover men, but also the rural crisis, which may also affect the urban development.
On the other hand, please be tolerant of young people who postpone marriage or even hold a single concept because of their own choices, such as "leftover women" and older youth in most cities. For example, the phenomenon of "forced marriage", which seems to be getting worse in recent years, is worth facing up to.
It must be noted that this trend has some inevitability of competing with the society, as predicted in Single Society-we are learning to be single, which brings a new way of life.
More bachelors than Hunan? There are more than 30 million bachelors in China, with an average of 1 10,000 per province. There are more than 50 bachelors in every village here. Seeing this situation, I can't help but think of the big slogan posted everywhere in the past, saying that family affairs are the first in the world and family planning is the first in the world. Because it was the one-child policy at that time, some first children were found to be girls, so they did it themselves. Some boys were born for the first time and wanted to have girls, so they were arrested by the squad and sent to the county hospital for the holidays. There are more bachelors now, isn't it because there were fewer girls then?
What you said seems rare in other places, but it's all the same. Especially in rural areas, there are too many bachelors, which has now become a serious social problem. The older you get, the harder it is to talk to someone, and the stronger women's sense of superiority. All kinds of bride price and garage, because things are scarce, there are fewer women, and the competition will be fierce, which will raise the "price" and make it more difficult for men in ordinary families to find wives.
This issue should not be labeled as "Hunan". In the case of a serious imbalance between men and women, "single man" has become a problem that can not be ignored in all parts of the country, but the areas with better economic development are relatively better, and the more poor areas are, the more serious it is. I think this should be one of the original intentions of the country to liberalize the second-child population policy. Since ancient times, there has been a saying that "there are hundreds of women in a family", which shows that unmarried women of school age have always been "tight, short and handsome", which is a livelihood event that needs the attention and solution of the whole society.