Why is it that after breaking up, it is useless for parents and friends to persuade? Zhengzhou came to education for several reasons.
The persuasion of relatives and friends is not persuasion, but pressure and oppression: in the face of emotional cracks, you want to repair and let the other side turn back. So open the banner of your parents and friends and let them persuade you to get back together. But these people don't really understand the specific situation between you, and they don't understand the root of your problems. Blind persuasion is just a cliche. How could she not know these questions? In this case, everything said by relatives and friends is oppression for her.
Maybe she will come back under the pressure of these relatives and friends, but only temporarily. She always has a scar in her heart, and she will think that you are a group of relatives and friends, standing on the opposite side of yourself, and you are weak. Everyone doesn't know himself. You are all "bad guys" who oppress her. Think once and be angry once. Finally, it will explode.
Third parties should not easily get involved in the affairs between lovers: this intimate relationship is between the two of you, and only the two of you have experienced everything, and only you can feel the sadness and pain. The contradiction of breaking up is rooted in you two, and how to solve it also needs you.
When you have emotional problems, you are both very painful and confused. You can ask others to help you solve them. When relatives and friends lack emotional experience or professional knowledge, they just rely on your one-sided words. On the one hand, I don't understand, on the other hand, I am unprofessional, so my persuasion is weak and thin. If you can't talk about her heart, it will only strengthen the defense psychology of the other party and arouse her rebellious psychology.
Feelings are private: in your's relationship, everyone has his own secret psychology, which is to keep the relationship pure. She may cry with her good friends, but she certainly doesn't want to see this relationship make a big deal. Parents and friends all know that you are in conflict and broke up. Some persuasion, and then things got worse. For her, showing her broken feelings to everyone in this way is tantamount to tearing off her fig leaf and becoming angry from embarrassment.
It is suggested that after breaking up, give each other a cooling-off period and think about why the relationship has come to this step. Instead of just pestering and asking for help. There is no futility in breaking up and saving, either bringing the relationship closer or pushing it further and further.