Husband and wife have been married for seven years and quarrel every day.

Chongqing Evening News Yesterday, Ms. Zhang turned to the Chongqing Evening News hotline 962 1 16 for help. Her husband has been married to her for seven years, and every day is a cold war. Husband and wife quarrel almost every day, cold war. "I always wanted to divorce him, but he said," You divorced voluntarily! "Ms. Zhang said that she and her husband have known each other for more than two years, and they have been together for a long time, and their feelings have been very good. However, after seven years of marriage, the two have quarreled with each other every day, and Ms. Zhang often suffers from insomnia and headaches.

1. Why did you quarrel?

Xiao Wu: I have been with him for more than two years, but he has always said that I am a "baby face" and I am very kind to him. I have been married for seven years, and I can't tell why every time I quarrel. He is not as wise as I am. If I had known, I wouldn't have quarreled, let alone you. I think I just found out now that he is really heartless to you. "Xiao Wu: Every time we quarrel, the first sentence is: I love you! I just want him and his mother to have a good life! But this time, he said I was a baby boy!

2. Why do two people have a cold war every day?

"I just want a divorce, but he said I want a divorce because I love you." Ms. Zhang said that the two people are used to the cold war every day and will not pay attention to what their husbands say. In this regard, Zhu, a consultant of Chongqing Red Dot Psychological Counseling Center, said that for Ms. Zhang, she is a more emotional and trusting person. She usually has a good attitude towards her husband, but he always perfunctory himself when encountering problems. So it is normal for two people to quarrel and have a cold war. If it has reached a certain level, we can also consider making some concessions and compromises appropriately.

3. What do you think of such a marriage?

Netizen "Donuts": He also took my child out as a punching bag, which is really unscrupulous. Netizen "Xiao Song fan": I think feelings are mutual, and such a marriage is not worth maintaining. Netizen "Li Jia": Feelings are mutual. You can't start the cold war just because of a little thing, or even every day. Netizen "I don't love you": I will miss you very much during the cold war and can't wait to get back together with you immediately. Netizen "Little Sun": During the Cold War, it was actually more challenging. Both husband and wife are adults and should have their own independent space to deal with this problem by themselves. Netizen "I miss you": Two people should communicate more, not just let contradictions accumulate.

4. What about the cold war between husband and wife?

The cold war between husband and wife is a normal marriage phenomenon, but if the cold war lasts for a long time, it will make the other party bored. And the cold war is the enemy of husband and wife's feelings In order to avoid the cold war, couples should communicate more and give each other time after the cold war. If one side wants to end the cold war, it can explain the reasons to the other side and ask for understanding and compromise.

Step 5: Solution

Zhou Xiaoyan, Senior Partner of Chongqing Bai Rui Law Firm: The main reason for Ms. Zhang's situation is that they don't get along well. When the relationship between husband and wife is not harmonious, let the husband and wife communicate and negotiate calmly. By being reasonable and talking about feelings, let your husband know that he can only think of you if he loves you very much. If your husband always says, "I divorced voluntarily!" " Then this relationship will be kicked off by him. When he gave up the idea completely, the relationship between your was repaired.