Text | Jin Yunrong
20 17 12 10, the global women leaders summit was successfully held in Beijing. The conference invited outstanding women from all over the world to give speeches on the theme of "the woman I want to be", to influence women with strength, help women find themselves, lead women to grow up, and build the personal brand and influence of female leaders.
Dongfang Fengxing Media signed a contract with Jin Yunrong, a master aromatherapist, as a psychologist who has been engaged in psychological consultation for more than ten years, then studied art therapy related to psychotherapy, and served as the chairman and chief lecturer of IFA International Society of Aromatherapy Therapists in Greater China.
I was not a particularly beautiful girl since I was a child, but I was not sad. I never said that my childhood was sad. Because I grew up in a particularly happy family, I won't feel inferior. At most, I have the same envy as other girls.
For example, I especially envy a classmate whose mother is a school teacher, and I envy the only rich girl in my class who can learn piano.
When I was admitted to Kaohsiung Girls' High School, the best high school in Kaohsiung, Taiwan Province, I began to envy those children who grew up in the city, who were fashionable and well informed. And I'm just a girl from a small fishing village, which seems a little far away from them. It is also for this reason that I don't like to get along with everyone, but stay quietly and read Kafka's books.
Maybe I was too addicted to extracurricular reading at that time, which delayed my studies. When I suddenly woke up, I was already a senior three. At this node, only by catching up can we be admitted to the university. With my efforts, I was barely admitted to China Culture University, the highest institution in Taiwan Province Province. At that time, the admission rate of universities in Taiwan Province Province was only 2.76%, and I was admitted to China Culture University with a score of 0.5 points higher than the admission score.
At that time, you could only choose the most common major. I study in the Department of Youth Welfare, and my major is psychology. This also caused the first detour in my life, but I gained love on this detour and met my current husband. It's been 36 years since I appeared.
After graduating from college, when my classmates were preparing for the TOEFL test, I gave up this opportunity because of family conditions. Instead, I took an examination of civil servants and worked in the psychiatric department of a hospital. After many twists and turns, I was transferred to the marriage clinic as a marriage therapist. Not going to America has become the biggest regret in my life, but this detour has accumulated countless experiences and helped young people and couples in need.
Slowly, I embarked on the third stage of my life, gave birth to a child, and the child arrived. When he was ten years old, my husband and I, like all confused parents, wanted to send him abroad to study and receive a better education. Although the original intention was good, but the ability was limited at that time, how much income do you think a psychotherapist can bear such expenses? After careful consideration, I made an important decision to regain my professional knowledge of English simultaneous translation.
At that time, there were hundreds of cosmetics companies in Taiwan Province province within a month or two, and experienced oral translators were needed at the brand launch conference. Because I had experience in translating products for cosmetics companies when I was a student, I naturally took over this project. Therefore, I learned a lot about beauty and makeup. He became a beauty expert by mistake and was invited to teach the audience beauty and makeup in Pretty Woman. I regard this as the third detour in my life, and I got another qualification in my life on this detour.
Of course, the rice bowl is not enough to pay all the expenses for children to go to school, so my husband and I went into business. This is the worst decision and the most correct one. The worst thing is that I did something I didn't like for nearly 16 years. The best thing is that my son received a good education at that time.
It was not until he finished graduate school and entered the British Prime Minister's Office as a press officer that he already had a certain economic strength. I just announced to you: "All my detours are over. From now on, I will completely do what I like. " So I began to go back to psychotherapy, and I was exposed to aromatherapy and color therapy.
You know, life is definitely not calculated every year, but every ten years. As long as you know what you want, it doesn't matter if you take more detours. Every detour will have some value. Of course, if you stand on the road of life, there will be more detours and more intersections. When you are in a dilemma, you should follow the trend.
What does it mean to follow suit? When the water in your life flows to a place, stop and see how strong it is. If you follow its flow, you don't have to face resistance or struggle hard, just follow it. When you reach the end of the current, you will find that you have accumulated too much energy. At this time, when the current changes direction, you will have full energy.
I especially appreciate the words of a philosopher, who said, "God, please grant me grace to accept what I cannot change;" Please give me the courage to change what I can; But please give me wisdom and let me know how to distinguish them. "Everyone needs this kind of wisdom. If you really reach a point in your life and don't know how to choose, first calm down and think about the people around you. Is there anyone who needs to be responsible and pay off debts? Those debts refer to love, responsibility and kindness.
When you really make this decision, tell yourself it's your choice. No one will put a knife to his neck to make a choice. This is a choice made by free will. Is anyone responsible for my choice? No, when you do a job that is not particularly prominent for your family, that's your decision; When you give up your career achievements for your children, that's your decision. If you do, you will be responsible for everything.
A most beautiful girl is sweet enough for the person you love to sit and lie beside you. If you don't become the annoying girl who always complains, the only way for you to become a girl who doesn't hate and complain is to take responsibility for your own choices and take your responsibilities, which will be easy for you to do, because you will tell yourself that this is my decision.
This is life, life will have ups and downs, be loyal to your choice, and take all responsibility for your choice. Don't forget that life is measured in ten years, not in every month or year.
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