Most middle-aged marriages have actually gone through more than ten or twenty years. It stands to reason that this marriage has been rock-solid for so many years, and no matter what setbacks and challenges will appear in the road ahead, you will never leave the person you love the most.
But this is not the case. Most middle-aged marriages in modern love life have hidden crises. After so many years of getting along, the initial love has been erased, and now it has reached a very critical bottleneck in life. If we can't break through this dilemma, both husband and wife may face separation. This is an unprecedented test for couples in a middle-aged marriage crisis.
Sister Gan is 48 years old this year. At that time, her two children went to college in another city, and her husband often traveled abroad for work. She got pregnant soon after she got married. For so many years, she has been a full-time housewife at home. When there are no children and husbands at home, she is alone at home. In fact, such a lonely life is not so good. In order to pass the boring time, she told her husband that she wanted to rent a store and open a convenience store. Some things kept her busy.
Convenience stores sometimes need to move some heavy goods, so Gan Jie, a weak woman, can't cope. Later, she hired an extra helper, Brother Wang. Usually when there is no business in the store, two people can sit together and chat. Brother Wang often asks Sister Gan for skills in getting along with children. After he separated from his ex-wife, he never knew how to ease the relationship with his children.
And Sister Gan often tells Brother Wang about her marriage and family. She doesn't care how much money her husband can earn. What she really wants is companionship and guardianship. Whenever this time, Ge Wang will comfort her. Don't think so much. You see, I'm alone, too I am living so well now, don't expect too much. ?
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At first, GanJie didn't take Wang Ge's words to heart. She just smiled gently and didn't speak. However, after the relationship between the two became more and more familiar, Gan Jie began to be willing to confide in him. My marriage is just empty. You see, my husband doesn't have a phone call or a message a day. There are things in the store during the day, and I can only hold my mobile phone in a daze at night. It is better not to have such a marriage! ?
And Wang Ge's response to her is,? From this point of view, your husband has gone too far. How can a husband and wife stay out of touch all day? What's the difference between a marriage like you and a bachelor like me? We are really in the same boat. ? It is in this way that two people have feelings in the process of complaining to each other, and the relationship between the two people has begun to change unconsciously.
Maybe it's because I've lived alone for too long. Sister Gan knew that extramarital affairs should not happen, but she finally accepted it. After all, it's really happy to have someone around. But this affair finally reached the ears of Gan Jie's husband.
Soon after, when Gan Jie's husband came back, he saw his wife flirting with a man in the shop. He was very angry. The first thing he said was divorce. Maybe everyone thought that Sister Gan would feel guilty and explain her behavior in order to save her husband's heart, but I didn't expect her to look just as if she had done nothing wrong.
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Maybe a man didn't think that his wife would take an affair for granted, and he didn't know how to answer it at the moment. He works hard outside just for this family, and wants to make the family live a well-fed life.
If he had a choice, wouldn't he like to enjoy family happiness at home every day? They have been married for so long that they are already an old couple. It's really a bit unreasonable to think about that. Unfortunately, Mrs. and Mrs. Gan did not persist in this marriage. Until the day of separation, they still could not listen to each other's voices.
In fact, it is not easy for everyone to live. In real life, there are indeed many couples who have to separate for their livelihood. But now the mobile phone is so developed, call your lover or send a video after a busy day's work, so that the other party can feel your concern and care. How long does it take for such a small gesture?
In fact, no matter what a woman gets, she still wants her husband's love and care. If a man always takes his busy work as a shield and doesn't even have a word or a message all day, it will only push her further and further. Since men work so hard for this family, it is necessary to understand that it is actually one of their responsibilities to take care of their wives all the time.
Marriage life without money is difficult, but both husband and wife can still share joys and sorrows. However, a marriage without love is difficult to continue, no matter how rich it is. A man should never neglect his wife in order to make money. At the same time, women should be more considerate and tolerant of their husbands.
Extramarital affairs are really fascinating and can make people lose themselves, but in fact, indulging in extramarital affairs is just destroying everything they have at present. Don't be silly!