A friend of mine made an official WeChat account, which mainly introduced some concepts of parenting, and also mentioned parent-child reading. When he really took care of the children, he found that the previous theory really looked beautiful and it was difficult to use. His original idea was that children could read freely at the age of 6, but he found that the facts were far from the truth. By the time he was 6 years old, his children didn't want to study at all, and their desire to study was very low.
Finally, he couldn't help it. When reading to children every day, he always points to the topic and asks them to finish reading before continuing reading. Slowly, the children are willing to read.
We can exchange some experiences, but every child is different. Education is difficult because it is the most difficult to cultivate children's initiative. You can tell your children that it is difficult for them to learn actively. This requires children to have the psychological motivation to read.
To tell the truth, it is difficult to read by yourself, and children are more inclined to read by adults. Because I will encounter many problems when reading: words I don't know, words I don't understand, or questions arising from reading.
Moreover, fluent reading can produce pleasure, and intermittent reading can make people feel disgusted. Therefore, children can't read at first, and the independent reading experience will be very poor.
There are at least two points to let children read independently:
1, the theme is of interest to children.
If you find a topic that your child is interested in and familiar with, then your child's desire to read will be higher. But even so, children may encounter a second difficulty.
2. You can't have too many new words.
If there are too many unfamiliar words when reading, then children can't grasp the content well, and this reading experience is very bad. Therefore, it is very important to find a suitable reader, and at the same time help children solve the problems in the reading process. At first, everyone had better sit together. You watch yours, I watch mine. In this way, children can ask their parents at any time, and this transition period will be easier to pass.
Children need your encouragement and support.
At first, children were skeptical about their abilities, or unwilling to "study hard". Ta wants to find a shortcut. At this time, parents must remember to stick to it and push their children out. Push your children out at a critical period, give them encouragement, and encourage and affirm them in time after t a reading, then your children will gradually fall in love with reading.
Here are three little suggestions for you. I hope your children will fall in love with reading as soon as possible.
My grandson has been interested in science since childhood. When he was a child, he liked watching cartoons. When he was in kindergarten, he bought him many books with pictures. At first, he asked adults to take them. After he entered the first grade of primary school, he read it by himself. Every night, before he falls asleep, he must read in bed for a while, without looking or sleeping. At first, I read books about science. Later, I read story books and fairy tales. I am the king of reading in my class. Asked what to do if he didn't know some words, he said to guess. Because children are interested in reading, they often buy books at home. He takes turns reading books, reading story books today and science books tomorrow. We often talk about black holes and magnetic levitation. You know, he is only a freshman. I think to make children interested in reading, we should first start with what they are interested in. For example, some children like to read stories, and some children like to watch wars, so take your time, guide them little by little, and then read other books. There must be books at home. At first, I bought books for my grandson. My daughter said he was so young. Can you buy him so many books? I said he can watch it later if he doesn't watch it now. Therefore, in order to make children like reading, you must first put the books at home and let the children have a choice. Don't play mahjong and watch TV at home, which has a great influence on children.
When my daughter was still babbling, she would read all kinds of paintings to her every night. At that time, my daughter was an only child, so I had the energy and patience to read books and do various actions. Eighteen kinds of martial arts are really used. Over time, my daughter gradually likes listening to stories.
When the daughter can speak, she will stop reading books in infancy and choose various famous picture books. She chooses which book to read and how many books to read every night. Even if I choose ten books, I will read them patiently, and then she will fall asleep contentedly. Finally, no matter how late you go to bed at night, read a book before going to bed, or you will cry there.
The truth about cultivating children's reading is flying all over the internet. I only talk about my own experience.
First of all, children will definitely not be interested in reading at first. What parents should do is how to attract children's attention to books. I think interacting with children is like playing games. Children will soon like reading with adults. For example, when I watch Guess how much I love you, I interact with my daughter. I usually finish reading this book when I play games. After reading it, she will let me watch it again, and I will cooperate with various movements until I am too tired to watch it.
Secondly, you should be able to persist in reading. Persistence requires perseverance. If you can persist, you will generally see the desired results. I also insist on reading to my daughter every day, and I will bring some books when I visit my relatives. In a word, persistence is victory.
Finally, adults really have a great influence on children. I prefer reading novels, so sometimes I throw some books to my daughter while reading them, so that she can flip through them. My husband and I didn't watch much TV, and we didn't play mobile phones online, so my daughter didn't know how to play mobile phones when she was a child. Now that I am old, I know that there are interesting and beautiful things in my mobile phone. I won't download these things, and I won't allow her to download them on my mobile phone, or I will change my password.
Now my daughter is in grade two. She didn't attend any interest classes because she spent all her time reading books. I often scold her for reading to her too much, mainly because I am afraid that her eyes are not good since she was a child. Last year, she asked me to recommend some novels I read. I recommended Living and Xu Sanguan Selling Blood to her as classic works. Unexpectedly, I have watched it more than ten times now, saying it is very good, and occasionally I will discuss the plot with me. Ask me if you don't understand anything, and I will answer patiently and ask her why she likes this book.
A little ashamed, my daughter now reads far more than me every day. Now that I have a younger brother, I will take my younger brother to read with me, and sometimes I will read to my younger brother at night to entertain myself.
In fact, my daughter's good habit of reading really benefits from her childhood companionship.
Judging from the question you asked, I think telling children stories and reading with her are not children's favorite, because if children like reading, they will pester us to tell her stories and accompany her to read books every night.
My girl Bao is less than three years old and has her own small bookcase. Every night, she puts those books on the bed and asks me to read them to her. I'll read it to her first and read the first half again. I'll leave the second half to her to answer. Although she doesn't read as fluently as we do, she knows the general content, and she will make some facial expressions according to the pictures to match her answers. It's fun and interesting. Let her say it for the third time, and remind her of something she doesn't remember. 、
As for me, every time she actively participates, she will give corresponding praise in real time, increase the child's self-confidence and be proud of her efforts.
She usually chooses the books she wants to read, or we consult the children first when we provide picture books. In this way, basically, the child is doing what he likes in his favorite atmosphere, accompanied by his favorite parents. This will get twice the result with half the effort.
No matter how old or young your child is, please communicate with him first, because children have their own ideas and concerns from birth. Children are respected by their parents, and they are more likely to devote themselves to their work.
Parents * * * saw this matter, the method was wrong, and the efforts were in vain. I am an intermediate picture book lecturer, and I hope to analyze this problem from a professional perspective, which will help you.
According to behavioral characteristics, parent-child reading is usually divided into three types:
Or endlessly ask questions to children, and the level of questions is very low, and children have no or little answers, and they have not entered the reading situation at all.
There is no * * * between parents and children, and children's reading level will not be improved because of the participation of adults, and the process of children becoming independent readers will be very slow.
The characteristics are that parents' reading level is not high, they ignore the role of words, misread pictures, or over-interpret and associate at will.
I have seen some parents read to their children, turn to a certain page at will, or tell their children which page to turn to. They can't and don't know how to ask children effective questions around picture books.
Worst of all, parents will seize a plot in the book, endlessly connect their children with real life, or ask their children, "What does this story tell us?"
This kind of parent-child reading adds a strong educational and utilitarian color to reading, and children will hate reading because they are boring.
This is the most effective parent-child reading method, also called "dialogue" parent-child reading, and parents have certain reading level and skills. Parents are good at hiding "education" in reading activities, turning reading into fun and reading in fun.
Parents regard reading as a project, which is divided into pre-reading, reading, post-reading, and extended activities, and construct various types of dialogues to stimulate children's reading interest and thinking.
When I study with my children, I will deliberately dress up reading as a fun game, plus the following links to play with my children:
1, dress up as an expression
Some picture books, especially those read by babies, contain many expressions and actions that can be imitated.
For example, the picture book "Face", a face without all kinds of emotions, and the picture book "Hug" repeatedly emphasizes the action of hugging.
My children and I will make various facial expressions in front of the book, and then give an explanation: "I have a candy, I am so happy, and my face is like this when I am happy ..."
Let children know emotions and corresponding expressions, and also exercise their language skills.
Story-based picture books often have vivid characters, interesting stories and concise and vivid language, which is simply a complete script. If you assign roles, you can start.
Stories with many characters, such as "Pulling Radish", "Guli and Gula" and "Uncle Gan goes to swim the river", are suitable for story gatherings with many children.
I want a big lizard, I move on, 1 shopping, snowy days ... picture book stories with few characters, which are very suitable for parents and children to play while reading.
3. Draw a picture and say it
Children like graffiti, and some picture books are simple and childlike, which are very suitable for children to imitate graffiti, such as those of Itsumi Taro, Miyanishi and Erica.
After telling the story, take out the blank paper and pen, discuss with the children what to draw, guide the children to draw and recall the story.
Some picture books are full of imagination, so I dare to imagine with my children. For example, when I read Xiao Zhen Long Hair, I will play a game of "bragging" with my children: my hair is very long, from our home to the door of the community. ...
Playing is a child's nature. If reading can't bring happiness and high-quality company, children certainly don't like reading.
Children are willing to study only if they feel that the taste of "reading" is "sweet".
As we all know, children's reading ability is one of the most important abilities in the learning process. Cultivating students' strong interest in reading and reading a large number of good books in various fields can broaden students' knowledge reserves, enhance their understanding ability and improve learning efficiency.
But what puzzles parents is: Why do parents often tell stories to their children and accompany them to read books, but children are not interested in reading? The following xu teacher will analyze the reasons why children's reading interest is difficult to improve and the methods to improve children's reading interest:
The cultivation of reading interest must provide children with a quiet and simple reading environment, without other interference and temptation, and provide a favorable environmental foundation for children to calm down and study.
Nowadays, children are faced with rich information with audio-visual effects, such as mobile phones, televisions, computers, etc., and the input of these information is more attractive to children, while books are not competitive with such information dissemination methods. It is difficult to cultivate reading interest without giving up the attraction of electronic products to children.
Reading interest will increase with the improvement of children's understanding ability, and the mental development of each child determines when children will eventually become interested in reading, and this interest period is the sensitive period for children to read. Each child's reading sensitivity period is different, roughly between 3 and 7 years old. Girls will come a year or two early, and boys will be a little late.
Children aged 3-7 are curious about external things. This sense of curiosity comes not only from the real world outside, but also from the world depicted in the book. At this time, if we can keep children away from electronic products, we can cultivate their interest in reading. With the improvement of understanding ability, children can satisfy their curiosity about the world in books, thus cultivating their interest in reading.
According to xu teacher's observation, children's sensitive reading period will be formed at the latest after a large number of literacy in senior one, because with children entering school, the accumulation of written language will increase exponentially, literacy will be greatly improved, and understanding will be enhanced. So at this time, the mental development will reach a new height. With the increase of literacy, children can read and understand independently. If children choose the right books at this time, their interest in reading will be greatly improved.
If children have become dependent on electronic products, then the time for watching electronic products can be reasonably planned, from 20 minutes each time to 10 minutes, and 5 minutes each time, thus gradually reducing the attraction of electronic products to children.
Some parents keep brushing their mobile phones as soon as they enter the house, but ask their children to love reading. How is that possible? Children are always a mirror of their parents, so if you want your children to do something, you should do it first.
If you don't watch electronic products, you may love playing with toys and eating snacks. Therefore, it is necessary to limit children's time to play with toys and eat snacks, and plan reading time.
For example, if you study for 40 minutes, you can play with toys or eat some fruit, and plan a fixed reading time. Every time when studying, parents can remind their children: it's time to study, let's study together!
Conditional families can arrange an independent room for their children as a study, or open a reading corner in the living room. Then buy a bookcase and put all kinds of books that children like to read, so that children can fall in love with reading while accompanying books.
The improvement of children's reading interest is a gradual process. It is unrealistic for a child who has never read a picture book to expect his children to read children's literature. It is even more unrealistic for a child who has not read many interesting children's literature to ask his children to read famous books at all times and in all countries. This utilitarian way of reading can only make children more and more disgusted with reading and stifle their interest in reading.
At first, children will like to read picture books with rich pictures, and some children don't even like books with many words. It doesn't matter. Let the children read it. When children's literacy and understanding ability are constantly improved, children will naturally be eager to get more information from the text.
Careful parents will find that girls prefer emotional stories, while boys prefer adventure and popular science articles Parents should know how to take advantage of the situation and not try to evaluate or interfere with their children's reading interest.
When children successfully pass the picture book reading period and start reading pure text works, parents should guide their children to choose some books with healthy thoughts and feelings to read. Most of these books are well received by readers. They are not only beautiful in words, novel in structure and rigorous, but also sincere and delicate in feelings, which can arouse children's emotions and achieve the educational effect of reading.
What kind of books do children at any age read? If a child without literary literacy reads a famous book, he will certainly not be able to read it. On the one hand, he doesn't understand the human feelings in the text, on the other hand, he can't get pleasure, and it is difficult to get pleasure. Reading without pleasure and * * * can only be a kind of torture.
The general reading rules are: picture books-fairy tales, fairy tales, fables-children's literature (realistic edition)-simplified versions of famous books-popular science books-famous books and so on.
In other words, children have accumulated a certain amount of books in the previous stage, and after their understanding ability and emotional experience ability have improved, they will naturally look for higher-level books to read, and parents don't have to force them.
Generally speaking, the process of cultivating the reading ability of ancient Chinese is as follows: Three Amethyst, Disciples' Rules, simple ancient poems, such as the short story of Li Weng Dunyun, The Analects of Confucius, and longer ancient poems, such as the short story in Shi Shuo Xin Yu, The View of Ancient Chinese, Twenty-four History and so on.
In short, parents who are confused about the difficulty of cultivating their children's interest in reading should be prepared and cultivated from the above links. I believe that after the temptation of electronic products, toys and snacks is eliminated, the children's reading sensitive period will definitely come as scheduled. We should grasp the children's reading sensitive period at the age of 3-7, provide them with a good reading environment, choose books correctly and guide them.
Hello.
I wonder how old your daughter is. How do you usually accompany her to read books?
If the child is young, mother should not be too anxious. The cultivation of children's good habits should wait until the children's mind develops to a certain level of autonomy and internalizes it into an independent requirement. Externally, parents need to create a good environment and insist on accompanying and caring for their children.
If children are old enough to read and can read by themselves, but don't like reading, then find out the reasons from the following aspects:
1. What books do you read? Do children have the right to choose their favorite books freely? Or buy a book for your child that you think she should read? If there are many books at home that children don't like and want to read, there is no way to talk about reading interest.
2. What did you think of parent-child reading when you were a child? At first, children like to listen to a story repeatedly. Have you ever been tired of telling that story? Is there any heuristic guidance for picture book stories, such as letting children participate in writing ending rewriting stories? Have you adapted this story into a game?
3. What is the child's literacy and thinking level? Is the book she is reading up to her current level of understanding? If the content is too difficult and there are too many new words to read smoothly, you can't talk about reading interest. Usually, we choose books for our children through the process of "picture book-Hashimoto-phonetic symbol book-word book".
4. What is the reading environment at home? Does the child have a favorite reading area? Reading corner? A small bookshelf or something. Do any family members have the habit of reading? Family atmosphere is very important. If parents watch mobile TV all day but ask their children to study hard, it is useless.
I hope I can help you.
If you often tell your daughter stories and read books with her, she still doesn't like reading. You need to find out why.
Common reasons are:
1. The difficulty of the book is not suitable for children, it is too simple and too difficult. It is suggested that we can start with topics that children are usually interested in, buy some books, and cultivate children's reading interest first. For example, if a child likes Piggy Page, he can buy Piggy Page's picture book.
2. The reading environment is not suitable. It is suitable for beginners to stay in a quiet and undisturbed place with their children. You can let the child sit in your arms. You turn off your cell phone and concentrate on reading with your children. This intimate relationship will also increase children's interest and attention.
Children seldom see the books they are interested in. You can put a bookshelf in the place where children often play. The bookshelf should be the kind that can expose the front of the book. Then put on her latest favorite, interesting book. This can increase the exposure of books. If the child sees it, he may pick it up and look for it when he is bored.
Reading is reading, not to educate children. Parent-child reading is simply reading to children. The content of the book can be discussed appropriately, but it must not be used to educate children. Parent-child reading should be a happy and enjoyable process for children. If mixed with preaching and expectation, it will only make children feel endless pressure. If the unpleasant experience is not good, the child may not want to study again next time.
Parents choose books instead of children. Children are growing up and gradually have their own preferences. Therefore, every time you choose a book, you should let your children choose what they are interested in. This will also increase her interest in reading.
6. Parents don't attach importance to reading. Parents should try their best to satisfy their children, and read to them as long as they bring books during the interest cultivation period. Instead of saying that you are busy when the child brings the book, you can read it later. Children will like reading when they feel their parents' attention and the joy of listening to their parents' reading at any time.
7. There is no special time for children to read. From 1 year and a half, children can be given fixed reading time. At that time, the children themselves will take the initiative to ask for reading. Of course, it is best to start with 1 year and a half, but if you miss it, it is not too late to start now.
What I have summarized above is my experience of reading for my daughter for four years. I hope these analysis and suggestions can help you!
Speaking of reading, it should be something that parents are more anxious about now. In the past two years, the most frequently asked questions by parents are also about reading.
1, when most parents ask me about Chinese learning, they often talk about several phenomena: my children just don't like reading at ordinary times, and they don't study at ordinary times. What can teachers do to arrange reading books for children in class? Now children like to listen to the teacher.
Another phenomenon: Teacher, my children usually read a lot of comic books and some fantasy novel, but they just don't like reading classic works. What should I do?
There is another phenomenon: teachers and children can basically read 1 book every day, but they will not lose a lot of points in writing and reading comprehension. What is the reason?
Why talk about these status quo? Mainly universal. In addition, from the beginning of children's parent-child reading to the primary school stage, children will inevitably master their own reading methods and take the initiative to read, but why can't many children do it?
I think there are the following points:
1, if you tell stories to your children from an early age, this method is very good at first, that is, parent-child reading can also help children improve their knowledge, but children are lazy about reading, thinking that in the world of reading, parents read to themselves.
2. Many parents also choose to listen to books, which may be the most convenient way to read. But in my opinion, it's really second-hand information, because we don't know how the original text was written at all, and all we get is the narrator's own understanding. Then everyone's life and growth experience are different, and the understanding of the same sentence will definitely be different. Therefore, after listening more, children's interest and systematic thinking are not strong enough.
So what should we do? I think we can start with the following points:
1. When you are young, let your children read with their parents, but set some thinking questions to expand their thinking and let them think.
2. Choosing books is very important. When I first started reading, my children's books were all selected by their parents. So what kind of books should they choose? I think it can cover a wide range, such as history, literature, science and technology, which can not only expand the scope of knowledge, but also see children's interest in that field, thus helping children to learn more about this field.
3, read and write, and cultivate children from an early age. The process of reading should be recorded, commented, expressed and extracted.
Reading is a long-term accumulation process, and few people are born to like reading, so teachers and parents need to give her correct guidance in the process of children's growth. Simply put, it is very important to effectively guide and stimulate interest.
As front-line teachers, it is not difficult to find that all children who can read and read articles quickly and fluently usually have good reading habits, which shows how important it is for parents to cultivate their children's reading habits from an early age.
But how to cultivate children's reading habits?
From birth, children's perception ability is improved in little by little changes. I can't even tell the colors when I was a baby, and I can't understand how short a baby is. When they grow up, it seems that Logger Vick and Xiong Da Xiong Er are not the same species, and the toys that can arouse children's interest in different periods are different, as are reading and stories. Personally, I think it takes about twenty months to cultivate children's interest in reading. At this time, children can have simple communication with adults and understand what their parents mean. We can try to make up stories or play stories for children, or adapt story books. The protagonist of the story can be familiar people around the child, such as parents, grandparents and grandparents. The content must be positive, healthy and understandable by children. It is most important to arouse children's interest or interest. She can follow your story and get half the battle. Sometimes she can even participate or continue. Stories can be told in various forms. As long as she likes it and gets used to it, it won't be a problem to get used to it slowly.
As children grow up, they can watch cartoons and basically look at pictures in picture books, which requires the assistance of parents. Let the children look at the pictures first and the parents tell stories. Then let the children look at the pictures and tell them to their parents. Praise, encourage and admire more. A child's sense of accomplishment will encourage her to learn more stories for you. What needs attention here is the choice of picture book stories. We must choose story books suitable for children's age. Only when she can understand them can she arouse her interest, and they are the best award-winning works of famous works. The truth brought by a good story book can sometimes be remembered for a lifetime.
If you form a good habit of reading in your child's early childhood, that is, before your autonomy is formed, it will be helpful for your future study in primary school, junior high school and senior high school.
To sum up, parents should pay attention to the choice of reading content and year when cultivating their children's reading interest. Parents' accompanying reading is of course important, and the pertinence of guidance is even more important.