Text/Zhang Junxia
I had my hair done in the barber shop downstairs the other day. The boss's surname is Luo. He is just in his early thirties. He is usually a very enthusiastic person. On this day, I don't know why, he looks listless, and even an old customer like me is too lazy to say hello. I smiled and reminded him, "I'm going to the party later." You are so absent-minded and want to do something bad to my hair? "
Ronaldinho gave a wry smile, shook himself and said, "It's all the party!" " It turned out that when he first started to learn hairdressing from his teacher, he met another boy who was also an apprentice. They get along very well and agreed to go out together in the future, at least to start a business in the provincial capital.
Two years later, they really came to the provincial capital together and jointly opened a barber shop. Starting a business in a different place is not easy. In the first six months, almost no customers came to the door, and no money was made, but the rent and other expenses could not be less. When they were poorest, they used to eat only instant noodles for a week.
Later, Ronaldinho had the idea of retiring. He said that with his own skills, if he goes back to his hometown to start a business, there is no need to be so painful. When I was sick, no one took care of me, so I had to endure sadness. There are no familiar faces walking in the street. Might as well go back. There are at least family members and familiar friends. Maybe you won't get rich, but you will never be reduced to the point where you can only eat conveniently.
As a result, Ronaldinho came back. With the support of his family, with the current barber shop, business is not so hot, but it is enough to solve the problem of food and clothing for a family of three, and he is also enjoying himself. Just yesterday, friends who worked together came back and asked Ronaldinho to go out to meet. After eating a meal, Ronaldinho's sense of self-satisfaction was shattered:
At that time, after Ronaldinho left, friends continued to insist on eating instant noodles intermittently for more than half a year, and business was still sluggish. He simply closed the shop and went back to learn from famous teachers. I had to pay tuition at first, and then I got 35 yuan for a haircut. Later, the salary was second only to that of the master, and finally he came out to open a shop. It took him five years.
Today, my friend owns two branches in the provincial capital and has bought a house and a car. Ronaldinho finished his friend's story and sighed and said, "If I hadn't come back then, I would be brighter than him now!" " I laughed and joked with him: "People have been eating instant noodles for more than half a year, and you have only deserted for a week. Who is to blame? "
At that time, my best friend Xiao Zhi fell in love with someone. They work in the same company. The boy is not tall, but he has thick eyebrows. He has a strong working ability and treats people well, and he has been appreciated by the supervisor.
At that time, Xiao Zhi fell in love with that boy, and the boy also expressed his affection for her. They often walk by the lake in the park after work, and there are always endless topics to talk about. Just as their feelings warmed up, Xiao Zhi's mother expressed strong opposition to this relationship, because the boy's hometown was in the countryside and there was no house in the city.
"This young man is good. If he has a house, I won't stop you from falling in love. " Mother said to Xiao Zhi.
"What's the matter with no house? I can fight him in the future, sooner or later. " Xiao Zhi said stubbornly.
"That's easy to say, but look at what life Xiaoli is living now!" Mother's reminder silenced Xiao Zhi. Xiaoli is a neighbor's girl. She married a young man without a house in spite of her family's opposition. Now that the child is five years old, a family of three still lives in her house. Xiaoli, who used to love dressing up so much, now goes to the night market to sell snacks rain or shine every day, and looks much older than her peers. She doesn't want to buy slightly better clothes because she wants to save money to buy a house. ...
Xiao Zhi finally chose to give up this relationship and leave the company. She married a man with a house, but the man was not so satisfied with her. Xiao Zhi met her first lover because she was going to work in a high-end residential area. She happened to meet him coming downstairs, accompanied by his wife and children, and a puppy, apparently for a walk.
That night, Xiao Zhi called me a little jealously: "His wife looks very ordinary. If I didn't take the initiative to give up, she would have nothing ... "Unfortunately, the fate between men and women is a lifetime if I miss it for a while. If you want too much, you are doomed to have no result.
In the circle of friends that day, I saw a friend send two photos:
The first photo was taken when I graduated from middle school 20 years ago. Eight sisters living in the same dormitory stood arm in arm on the campus lawn, all youthful and invincible.
The second photo was taken 20 years later. The eight sisters met and returned to the campus of that year, or the grassland of that year, or the position and order of the photos taken in that year. When everyone appears together again, everyone's face is more or less vicissitudes, but the degree is different.
In these two photos, the host highlighted a person's face and said with emotion, why, she looks the youngest and slimmest! Look at that face carefully, not only young, but more importantly full of vitality. It seems that the years have left no trace on her!
I can't help but comment under the photo: must her life be very comfortable? The friend replied: No!
It turns out that they were excellent sisters in those days and insisted on running together for half an hour every day. After leaving the campus, others gradually gave up such persistence. Only she has been running for 20 years, rain or shine. On the day of the party, she deliberately got up for half an hour and ran to catch the bus. She's really alive.
Her life is not smooth sailing. At first both husband and wife were laid off. Later, she developed stomach cancer. In the worst time of her life, she still insisted on running. She said that running can make people forget their troubles and regain their courage to face difficulties. Now, her life has finally come out of the trough. The story of her tenacious struggle against the disease and persistent running for more than 20 years was reported by local TV stations and became a local celebrity. Many people chased her to run together. Thus, the town has a special scenery in the morning, that is, a morning running team composed of more than 200 people, and the leader is her!
Let's see my friend again. Because she likes playing mahjong, sedentary makes her more than 30 kilograms fatter than that year. However, a 40-year-old man is panting after climbing the building. She couldn't help feeling: "If I kept running like her, I wouldn't have made my health so bad ..." When she was young, she agreed to run together and you wouldn't see anything for one more day. After a long time, the gap between each other from appearance to mental state is getting bigger and bigger, which is the difference between giving up and persisting.
In daily life, around us, we can always hear many people sigh: if I had persisted in that year, my career would have developed to this day; If I married that person, the quality of marriage would not be so bad; If I had listened to my teacher earlier, I might have been admitted to a famous university. ...
There is no turning back in life. You have so many ifs, but you are unwilling to take action. Why do you want results?
Now, if you have a lot of life plans, but continue to "if", you will miss more opportunities. When you are really old and weak, you can only rely on countless "ifs" to support your memories. This is the worst result.