First: divorce is a matter between two people, and onlookers can't fully understand the inside story, although there is a saying? Can outsiders see clearly? But emotional things are still just two people's things. When a friend intends to divorce, I think it is a sign of uncertainty when asking for the opinions of the parties. If a person really thinks clearly and makes a decision, then he won't ask his friends for advice. Only those who are still hesitating need the guidance of their friends.
However, feelings are originally two people's things, and feelings are different. When one thing comes out of two people's mouths, it must be different. As a friend of one of them, what he heard must have been expounded by his friend from his own point of view, but what he felt inside was only clear to both sides. It is irrational for a friend to make his own judgment without knowing the whole story, whether it is to persuade peace or not.
In fact, divorce and breakup are the same. Many times couples will break up when they quarrel, and divorce when they get married. This is just a trick to hope that the other party will keep himself. It may be flirting between couples or between couples, and it may be reconciled every other day. If a friend makes his own judgment at this time, instead of maintaining a neutral attitude, it will be quite embarrassing for him to wait until his friend is really reconciled or divorced.
Second: don't involve others' feelings in emotional matters, even good friends. In fact, in life, we often encounter such things. When our good brothers or girlfriends encounter emotional problems, they will stand up and definitely stand on the side of friends. When you are sad, talk to her directly, and spit out the bad places of your boyfriend. But the next day they made up, which made them quite embarrassed.
Both boys and girls will become mentally retarded and unable to think in their feelings. If they remain rational as friends, they will only affect their feelings with friends in the end. After all, persuasion or disagreement will affect the feelings of friends and partners. If they make up, they are bad people. If they do break up, friends will blame you and think it's your encouragement. Therefore, no matter how good a friend is, don't get involved in emotional things. This is also the basic principle of being a man. An adult should be responsible for his feelings.