Sent me a voice in the middle of the night: Hua, getting married, I'm so angry! Getting married! !
Love rat in Mu Mu's mouth is her ex-boyfriend Z Mu Mu, who stayed with him for three years. In the end, because of the problem of different places, no one was willing to compromise and broke up.
Actually, Z is not love rat. As soon as he graduated, he was admitted to the civil service in his hometown. He hoped that Jiang Mumu would return to his hometown, or find a stable job, or take the civil service exam like him. But Mu Mu doesn't want to go home. She doesn't want to live a comfortable life. She wants to work hard outside while she is young.
Because of this incident, both of them were very unhappy and finally parted ways.
Mu Mu thinks Z doesn't cherish her, so he thinks to himself: Since you don't cherish me, just wait and see, and I will definitely make you regret it. Today you ignore my love, tomorrow I will make you unattainable!
From then on, Mu Mu worked hard in the city and Z lived a comfortable life in his hometown. After three years apart, they have no contact.
However, just a few days ago, Jiang Mumu saw the news of Z's marriage through a circle of friends. At that time, Mu Mu was bombed. Thinking of wandering in the city, I changed jobs five times in three years, lived in a rented partition room, failed many times in blind date, and was single for three years. Z, on the other hand, works stably in his hometown, buys a car, buys a house and gets married. The most exasperating thing is that Z's bride is quite good-looking. She has an oval face and big eyes, taller than Mu Mu and thinner than Mu Mu. It's unbearable!
Mu Mu gnashed her teeth, but what could it do?
I comforted her on the phone for a long time, and she burst into tears as soon as she got angry. She said, Hua, do you know why my blind date has never been successful? Because I've been thinking about him, and I've thought about him coming back and getting back together with me countless times, but who knew he was married? Do you think he loved me?
I was really caught off guard. What should I say? You can only listen patiently and enlighten.
02
I have to mention my other friend Lily here.
Lily and I are college classmates, a particularly lively Hunan girl. When she was an intern in her senior year, she fell in love with a senior who graduated from the same school. Lily fell in love with her at first sight, but her seniors meant nothing to her.
Lily didn't want to give up, so she started the course of chasing men. After a semester's hard pursuit, she finally got the handsome man back, and the senior promised to go to the audition with her.
But the senior didn't like Lily after all, and broke up with her in less than half a year. Later, Lily, who was lovelorn, went abroad for postgraduate study.
Lily came to see me last September. I haven't seen her for years. She has completely changed her appearance. She is not as naive as she was in college, but a little more mature. When they met, she was wearing a big red dress, similar to the way Nini looked back in the last scene of the movie "That year in a hurry".
We made an appointment with a coffee shop, and I think she must have many interesting experiences abroad to share with me.
However, I overestimated her.
No sooner had I sat down than Lily began to ask me: I heard he was here, too. Do you know how he is now?
I immediately knew who Lily was talking about, but I didn't care, so I answered her truthfully: you said XX, XX, he got married last year, didn't you know?
Lily's face suddenly changed when she heard this. The next topic always revolves around her ex-boyfriend. She asked me many questions: When did he get married? What does his wife do? Does his wife look good?
I was particularly speechless, and I managed to answer at random. Then I persuaded her that my ex-boyfriend had passed and I didn't ask the troublesome things. Moreover, when we were together before, our ex-boyfriend broke up. Ex-boyfriend doesn't cherish him at all, and there is no need to take care of irrelevant people.
Lily listened to me and stopped asking.
03
I thought it was all over, but what I never expected was that I got a call from Lily that night. She told me that she had gone to find her ex-boyfriend.
Lily said that she had planned to meet me at noon and go home that night, but when she heard that her ex-boyfriend was married, she was not calm. The more she went back to the hotel, the more she wanted to know about her ex-boyfriend. Then she changed her ticket to meet her ex-boyfriend before she left.
Lily got her ex-boyfriend's phone number through another friend and asked her ex-boyfriend to have dinner together.
In order to meet her ex-boyfriend, Lily dressed up for a long time and put on delicate makeup. She thought her ex-boyfriend would regret seeing her now.
However, to Lily's surprise, her ex-boyfriend came with his wife. An old love party originally planned turned into an awkward dinner party, and Lily was on pins and needles.
In fact, the ex-boyfriend's wife is plain and slightly fat, which is nothing compared with Lily.
But so what?
Lily is an extra in this dinner!
Lily said to me, Hua, you said he didn't want to see me, and he wouldn't come unless he came. What do you mean he brought his wife? I really can't wait to find a hole to get into ... well, it's really nothing now!
It really makes no sense.
But to be honest, I always thought Lily's ex-boyfriend was a person who didn't appreciate it, but after this incident, I felt that his image in my heart seemed to be much higher. In this case, I did not choose to hide my wife, but took her with me, which not only fulfilled my friendship as a landlord, but also gave her enough respect. I don't think Lily should blame him for being sensible.
04
I once chatted with a group of female friends, and everyone was talking about my ex. Then I found that it seems that most girls are particularly interested in my ex, and I want to know how her ex is and what kind of girlfriend/wife she has found now.
But what can you do if you know this?
There are only two answers. One is to find a girl who is better than herself like Mu Mu's predecessor, and the other is to find a girl who is worse than herself like Lily's predecessor.
Either way, it's causing you trouble.
He found a better one, your self-confidence was hit, you were angry and inferior. Why can he meet such a good one?
He found a person who is not as good as you, and you will be even more puzzled and unconvinced. Why did you lose to such an ordinary person?
Since both results are unpleasant, why do you have to do something that makes you unhappy? ?
05
Many girls always naturally regard their boyfriend's ex as their rival in love, and always feel that their boyfriend and ex-girlfriend have some shady relationships.
In fact, most boys are not like this!
On a business trip in the first half of this year, I happened to meet Lily's ex-boyfriend on the high-speed rail and talked with him. I teased him: you are very interesting, take your current job to see your predecessor.
He replied with a wry smile: If it were you, what would you do? She called me crying and begged me to meet, but I couldn't refuse!
I said, well, yes! But I especially want to know, Lily is so excellent now, so excellent, do you really have no regrets? What do you men think of your wife and ex-girlfriend?
He pondered for a while and said, what is there to regret? Ex-girlfriends and wives can't compete. The ex-girlfriend is the past, and the wife is one of our own, who will accompany us all our lives. We know exactly what kind of people we want to spend our lives with, how old we are, what kind of figure we want, whether we can do housework and so on. Once we find such a person, we will not give up easily. Otherwise, why don't so many cheating men divorce their wives no matter how good they are with Xiao San?
After listening to his words, I felt a lot. Men are really more realistic than we thought.
Therefore, your ex-boyfriend won't care that you are better off than him, because he has long since stopped paying attention to you. Your emotions don't matter to him at all. You don't feel well, but you are competing with yourself.
Time to wake up. People around you walked away one by one without looking back. You stay where you are and cry, and no one will come back to coax you.
After all, you are still in the same place, but he has already left, and those who stay in the same place are the most painful.
Finally, a word for you: don't drink thin cold wine, and don't miss old friends.