Ma Bao Jingjing said: "Although we have been living with our children's grandmother, and grandma loves children very much on weekdays, and the relationship between grandparents and grandchildren is also very harmonious, I will take my children back to grandma's house every holiday, and the children are very happy. Sometimes I ask his grandmother who is better. Children always say they are fine! Grandma and grandma love me, and I like them both. "
Ma Bao Xiaonan said, "Because I have to go to work at ordinary times, my children follow my grandmother every day. Sometimes I sleep with her at night, and I don't go back to my grandmother's house at ordinary times. Occasionally I want to take him back to see her, but the child refuses to live or die. I always said I didn't want to find my grandmother. I want my grandmother. Sometimes he asks grandma who is better, and he also says grandma is better because grandma is a relative and grandma is an outsider! Let me not know what to say. "
Ma Bao said naturally, "My mother has been taking care of the child since he was born, so he has a very close relationship with my mother. Grandma doesn't have time to take care of us at work. Occasionally, she thinks that the child wants to see it, but the child is very resistant to her. To this end, she often said that children "can't tell the difference between inside and outside." I don't understand how this inside and outside in my mother-in-law's mouth is distinguished. "
As for the difference between grandma and grandma, who is closer? As a parent, I always feel that children have no understanding of this problem at all. In fact, this is all wet. Children actually know this problem better than adults, especially these three aspects. They are very thorough.
Although everyone thinks that grandma is a family and grandma is an outsider, otherwise how can there be a saying of "grandson"? But some grandmothers love their children even more. Especially now, grandma has become the main force to take care of the baby, and one person has taken on the task of helping her daughter take care of the child. In fact, children can feel it at this time. On weekdays, grandma takes care of herself and is good to herself, so they will pay more attention to her.
However, some grandmothers are busy taking care of their grandchildren or have other things to do, so they take less care of their grandchildren. The child's grandmother lives with the child every day and takes care of the child every day, so that the child will regard her grandmother as his family in his heart, and will really regard her as a "relative", and his heart will be alienated from her.
However, now many families are actually grandmothers and grandmothers, and the love they give to their children is the same. Children can also get care and love from both sides. Naturally, they will have the same love for grandma and grandma, and will not deliberately make a distinction.
We always think that children are "confused" about many things. In fact, the child's heart is the purest. When they look at a person, they simply accept and feel good or bad in any way.
In fact, it is cruel for children to tell the difference between grandma and grandma. Why not let them simply accept everyone's love and love everyone, but let them cater to the wishes of adults and make comparisons? Adults should be rational in the face of this problem.
On weekdays, don't always deliberately speak ill of either side in front of your children. In particular, many treasure mothers are dissatisfied with their children and grandmothers or have some misunderstandings between themselves and their mother-in-law. So they always deliberately speak ill of grandma to guide them not to like her, but to praise her. You should know that the relationship between adults should not be substituted for children. They have their own understanding of good and bad, and will not deliberately interfere with their children. Moreover, children are very simple. Once these words are spoken, I am afraid there will be more misunderstandings and prejudices caused by them.
The way of educating children should be more inclined to tell them to respect their grandmothers, because they are elders, no matter who they are, they should respect them, help them build a good character, tell them more about their love at ordinary times, and let them always love every family with a grateful heart.
The difference between grandma and grandma is nothing more than the difference of address. We don't rule out some special circumstances, but most grandmothers are impeccable about their children's hearts. Don't try to mislead children with any emotions between adults. Only in this way can children become more loving and families be more harmonious!