Xiao Hao is 27 years old. He hasn't had time to find a girlfriend who talks about marriage, but he never imagined that his parents actually sent him a "surprise". Xiao Hao's parents bluntly asked Xiao Hao to take care of his three-year-old brother, on the grounds that the old couple were useless and could not take care of their children. This all of a sudden, completely angered Xiao Hao.
When parents decided to have a second child, Xiao Hao strongly opposed it. At that time, Xiao Hao's father was 5 1 year old, while Xiao Hao's mother was 47 years old. The couple are nearly half a century old in recent years, but they still want to have a second child, saying that there are many children at home. But in Xiao Hao's view, this is simply a big joke. My family conditions are average, but the cost of raising a child can be imagined and I can't afford it at all.
Besides, I am old enough to talk about marriage, and I need money everywhere. If I have another child in a few years, I'm afraid I need my parents' help. But once the parents' second child is born, it will undoubtedly bring many variables to their marriage. But Xiao Hao finally failed to convince his parents, and his younger brother was born.
Now Xiao Hao has no hope for his family. Whether in marriage or otherwise, he can only rely on himself. Unexpectedly, just three years later, my parents actually called themselves home and solemnly told themselves: "Son, my parents are old, and my 3-year-old brother will be given to you." It turned out that Xiao Hao's father recently found out that he had a heart problem and was worried that he could not take care of his second son because of his physical condition. However, this kind of "bag dumping" can scare Xiao Hao. If you take a child with you all day, who will believe that the child is your brother and not an illegitimate child? Angry Xiao Hao even overturned the table at home for the first time, threw out a sentence "I picked it up", and then slammed the door angrily. Seeing their son's reaction, the old couple suddenly collapsed and burst into tears.
But a few days later, Xiao Hao resigned himself and finally promised to help look after his brother. When talking about this change, Xiao Hao only said one sentence: "They gave birth to me, and I owe them, and I want to pay back." But at the end of the message, Xiao Hao added: "My parents gave me life, but why didn't they give me a promising and yearning future?" I can't figure it out, so I have to force myself not to think about it. "As for marriage, Xiao Hao never mentioned it.
So, should parents over 500 choose to have a second child?
0 1. Should I have a second child over half a year old?
From a medical point of view, it is recommended not to have a second child. There are three reasons. First, it is dangerous for older women to have children, which is not good for women's health. Second, if both parents are over 500 years old, the health of the child born is likely to be affected and cannot be as healthy as other children. Third, everything involved after giving birth is very complicated, especially the unprecedented economic pressure. Therefore, if the couple is over 500 years old, it is best not to have a second child.
02. It may affect children's marital happiness.
Secondly, having a second child is actually accompanied by many benefits. If the parents are over 500 years old, usually the children have grown up and even married and have children. At this time, parents choose to have a second child. In addition to investing a lot of money in children's growth, they also need to invest a lot of energy to take care of their children. Invisibly, it is difficult to give more help to your first-born child in terms of life and economy, and in terms of energy to help bring up grandchildren in the future. If a child is a boy, he is not married. Having a second child will even affect the future marital happiness of the son.
03. Can you bear the economic pressure?
In reality, we have to raise money for our eldest son to buy a house and a car, and at the same time we have to face various expenses for our younger son. It is difficult for ordinary parents to bear this financial burden. In the end, it is likely to sacrifice economic "assistance" to the eldest son. Is it really good to put aside the debate about right and wrong for such a choice?
04. Does the elder brother have the obligation to take care of the younger brother who can be his own son?
On the surface, an elder brother naturally has the obligation to take care of his younger brother. But the truth is that my brother is likely to "ruin" my brother's happiness. Brother, can there be no resentment in my heart? Xiao Hao's parents, in particular, seem to take it for granted that unmarried Xiao Hao will take care of his three-year-old brother.
Behind this "course", what kind of despair and helplessness does Xiaohao hide in his heart? Obviously, his parents never seem to really care about or care about Xiao Hao's feelings. Perhaps many people will say that we should respect the choices of our elders. As a child, we shouldn't complain so much, but every family has a difficult experience and should live in harmony. When something goes wrong, don't "arbitrarily" yourself. It is the best policy to discuss together and come up with the best solution, right?
If you were Xiao Hao, how would you persuade him? Refuse or promise? Should we forgive our parents, or should we "resent" their ignorance and incomprehension of their feelings? Welcome to leave a message below and talk about your unique point of view.