But in fact, I don't understand. I can't be friends or enemies. What should an ex-lover do?
You see, the couple who had a crush on each other and then broke up in class are still classmates. Other, how to define?
After many years, I finally understand that after breaking up, I just need to be a familiar stranger.
Sister Xiaoling, who just broke up, agreed very much. "Yes, yes, if we are just strangers."
Unfortunately, her ex-boyfriend doesn't seem to think so.
Sister Xiaoling, as an older young woman, has been forced into marriage by seven aunts and eight aunts. Whenever we meet, she is always deeply helpless: "why do others want to marry me in such a hurry?" Obviously I will be the bride in the future, won't I? "
"Your family is afraid that you will die alone and helpless." We comforted her.
However, as a professional without losing education, ability and appearance, Sister Xiaoling has deep resentment in her heart. "I never said I wouldn't get married without getting married. I just want to find a congenial person, but this person hasn't appeared in front of me yet. Can't I wait for him? "
"Must be done. Parents who have been married for only a few decades, looking at their only child, have abandoned the rationality of the past. In their view, even if it is noisy and embarrassing in the future, it is better than being alone, and the latter is even more pitiful and unbearable in their eyes. "
Later, Sister Xiaoling couldn't help being bombarded by her parents and relatives, and finally embarked on the road of blind date.
So, there is the current ex-boyfriend L.
Male l is several years older than Xiaoling, with similar education and family background, and the height difference is reasonable. The biggest difference is that male L has been an ordinary employee for nearly ten years, while sister Xiaoling is already a manager of the unit, but the middleman said that this person is virtuous, honest and reliable, so looking at the rules comprehensively, it is quite suitable.
"But this seems to be just." Sister Xiaoling is exhausted when she talks about her ex-boyfriend. We only talked for three months, but we broke up for a month.
It turns out that although L male has a high academic background, his EQ is absolutely low. Never do your homework before going out to eat. It is always after two people meet that they ask, "Where to eat?" When I get to the place where I eat, I always say, "Eat everything."
"At first I thought he was a gentleman and would take care of girls. Later, I found that he not only really didn't think about it, but every time I booked a place to eat, he would say,' This store is expensive and not delicious', "complained Sister Xiaoling. "His good mood was completely ruined by one sentence."
Besides, I like to haggle over every ounce. Although I don't eat AA, I basically take turns to pay the bill. Once the L-man finds it more expensive than last time, he will always "kindly" persuade Sister Xiaoling, "We should be thrifty so that we can live a good life."
Whenever this happens, Xiaoling's sister wants to leave him a back and say, "I'm not waiting!" "
Many people say that whether a man really likes you depends on whether he is willing to spend money for you. This kind of rhetoric is too extreme. Only when a man's heart is in you will he care about your needs, so it is worthwhile and meaningful to spend money. Otherwise, the so-called handsome guy who swiped your card just sent you away with money. After all, it can be solved with money, which may be the simplest thing in their eyes.
But Sister Xiaoling's idea is that working hard and making money is not for luxury, but for two people to go to their favorite places and do their favorite things and be happier. Instead of l, like a miser, he can only get in and not out, and others are not allowed to be different from him.
Three months later, Xiaoling's sister with different ideas said "goodbye" to L man. However, L-man stubbornly believes that Sister Xiaoling has committed the common problem of girls: melodramatic, and began to try to convince each other with a bunch of reasons. "You said the world outlook, outlook on life, values are not as important as imagined. Who says this different person can't live together? I will listen to you whatever you say in the future ... "
Sister Xiaoling patiently explained to him, "This is very important to me, so this is why we are not suitable."
After a long struggle, L man finally spoke: "What about what I bought for you before?"
It is said that breaking up is a personality problem. Sister Xiaoling resisted the urge to swear and gritted her teeth and told L man, "I got a discount on the package you bought me, and I also got a discount on the meal you ate." Don't worry, if you promise only a lot more, you are entitled to your breakup fee! "
"Well, goodbye." This is the response of L man at that time. It's just that the L male who received the notice of transfer probably didn't expect Xiaoling to be so determined and so happy. Perhaps it was because of regret that she staged a plan to mourn the soldiers. "I just said that, I didn't say that I really want you to give it back to me, and I don't want to break up."
"I don't know if I was out of my mind, so I talked to him about this love. You know, before I met him, I really thought he was very stable and kind. " Sister Xiaoling, who is taking refuge, looks haggard.
Yes, Xiaoling's sister is taking refuge. Although it has been nearly a month since we broke up, L-man is still adamant, blocking Xiaoling's sister everywhere, claiming that he can't break up.
"I think this relationship will only consume each other if it continues, so can't I break up?" Sister Xiaoling really doesn't understand why things have come to this day. "I didn't cheat him of money, color, and feelings, because I also got to know him seriously. Then why do you go to my door every day? "
"Why don't you call the police? This can all constitute harassment. " A group of people who have no idea about L men can only make bad ideas.
"Forget it, it's not over." Sister Xiaoling sighed and kept a trace of reason. "I hope he can think calmly in a few days, and I hope to break up and be together."
I put my hands together and said to Xiaoling's sister, "I hope you can finish your flight as soon as possible." Amen. "
Maybe at the end of a relationship, the person who is broken up or dumped will be the most wronged, unwilling and hurt, so they put everything down to save it and ask "why". If they don't get the answers and results they want, they often end up in hysteria, which makes them even more flustered. Even lovers who used to be sweet and greasy hated each other, only hating that the vows that Ta had made could not be fulfilled, and they had to repay this deception in minutes.
In fact, where are there so many? Why?
A "no love" exhausted all the mysteries.
But these three simple words often hurt us to pieces.
But when we think about it carefully, we regret this relationship, and what is even more distressing is ourselves who were so willing to pay at that time. So, even if you break up, don't cry. This can only explain two problems: if you do what you should do in this relationship, and that person is distracted and looks at more gorgeous flowers, then congratulations, you have successfully got rid of a scum and got rid of deep suffering; If you two have tried, changed and compromised, but you are still unhappy together, whether unilaterally or bilaterally, then this relationship is problematic, which shows that maybe you two really don't have enough fate, but you are not the other half who should come in life.
In any case, when a relationship ends, don't let yourself be too humble and embarrassed. There are reasons to be together, and there are reasons to break up. Once it's over, live a good life, keep the beauty of love, forget those quarrels and unhappiness, let yourself grow better and meet a better future.
Even if one day we meet at the street corner, please don't care, smile or pass by, that's enough.