My answer to this topic is: I will not choose to forgive, because I have experienced betrayal and I know what I will get if I choose to forgive.
A year after falling in love with his first love, he chose to betray this relationship because of a cold war. At that time, I chose to forgive, but I was not loyal, but betrayed again and again. Later, I chose to let go and let him find the happiness he wanted.
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I have a classmate. From school uniforms to wedding dresses, she and her first love did not go all the way to the marriage hall. There are also many breaks in the middle, all because of betrayal. My classmates choose to forgive again and again, but it is even worse. Even after marriage, this man is restless. When my classmate was pregnant with a second child, he chose to betray again.
I once read a sentence: Sometimes we are willing to forgive someone, not because we really want to forgive him, but because we don't want to lose him. What we don't want to lose is pretending to forgive.
I think those who are willing to forgive are because at that moment, they feel that love is more than everything. But have you ever asked yourself, is it worth it? Cheating and domestic violence are only zero and countless times. You think that if you choose to forgive, you can touch each other and get his love, but in fact you just touched yourself, and you just intensified.
Sometimes forgiveness doesn't mean starting over, but it may mean repeating the same mistakes, and the final result of repeating the same mistakes is bring disgrace to oneself. The restored things can't go back to the original. Rereading a book will only produce new feelings, and there will be no new ending.
So when you are unfortunately betrayed, please choose to love yourself first.