Experience has proved that children's growth is directly related to the correct family education methods. Educating children is the bounden duty of parents and the need of society. It should not be regarded as an extra burden or insignificant. Parents' educational responsibility for their children is a special form of their social responsibility. If parents do not pay attention to the methods of educating their children, bully their children by force, engage in parental dictatorship, and educate their children by force, the result will only be family discord, making children feel that their parents are ruthless, rebellious and desperate. In my opinion, the correct way is to persuade children's shortcomings, impress them with emotion and reason, and inspire them to abandon the old and establish the new. Five qualities in family education
In family education, as parents, we should pay attention to the cultivation of the following five moral qualities for children:
Happiness: Because a happy experience helps to shape a noble and outstanding personality, it will also give people good memories, especially to make children love their lives more. Therefore, parents should let go of their hands and feet, let their children find their own fun, enjoy everything in the world, and try to get happiness and warmth from their parents.
Honesty: Because honesty means not deceiving each other and keeping your word. It can be said that this quality is extremely precious. As parents, a feasible way to educate children's honesty is to set an example by their own way of life and let them proudly say, "Our family never tells lies!" " "
Goal: Because goal is the hope of life. Children also have their own plans and wishes, no matter how naive these plans and wishes seem, parents should and must listen patiently and give encouragement. At the same time, children can accept knowledge, music and art, so that they can find their own good wishes and home there.
Courage: Because a person needs courage to bear the sadness and failure in life, parents don't need to whitewash life. They should tell their children frankly that pain itself is a part of life, and what is needed is to face it squarely, not to escape. Children's courage should be cultivated from an early age.
Be loved and be loved: because what children need is lasting and eternal love. Parents should guide their children to become caring people. First of all, parents should ensure that they have a kind love, so that their children can gradually gain love. Nonsense is a taboo.
The author believes that the education of children mainly comes from three aspects: one is family education, the other is school education, and the third is social education. Family education is the earliest, most direct and most frequent education, which includes conscious education and unconscious education. Generally speaking, conscious education means that parents educate their children from the aspects of thought, character and knowledge. Unconscious education refers to the unintentional educational influence of parents' speech and behavior on their children in daily life. No matter what kind of education is important. However, people often pay attention to conscious education, but ignore unconscious education, but they don't know that unconscious education will have great negative effects if it is not paid attention to.
Unconscious education is instilled into children by parents unconsciously. Some parents have not realized the importance of this kind of unconscious education. Their nonsense can't be underestimated. Children are still young, they seem to know the world, and their ability to judge and distinguish clouds is still very weak. They can't tell right from wrong. If they listen more, they will be influenced by it, which is very unfavorable to their growth.
In my opinion, you should be careful when you talk at home, and you must not talk nonsense for a while. What should not be said in front of children is better not to be said, lest the speaker be unintentional and the listener be interested. Remember: "Nonsense" is the taboo of family education. Learn to appreciate children.
An educator once did an experiment in a primary school: several children were divided into three groups and took an arithmetic test for a week. The first group was sleepy once from beginning to end, and the test results were praised. The other group was criticized and ignored for the third time. What was the result? The praised children have made remarkable progress, and the criticized children have also made progress, but it is not obvious. The neglected children's grades have hardly improved.
It can be seen from this experiment that children with similar abilities have different potentials because of their different "waiting for encounter". Children become better and better because they are appreciated by educators, lack self-confidence because they complain, and stop because they are not concerned. An American writer once said, "For children, one praise is worth ten scolding." Educators, whether parents or teachers, should learn to appreciate children.
To appreciate children, we must encourage them more, be good at understanding their advantages and seize their bright spots. In this way, children will feel that adults have been watching them with concern and appreciating them. The child was in a good mood at that time, and later "going to the next level" will become an ambition and strength. This is conducive to cultivating children's self-confidence and self-motivation, giving play to their potential and promoting their healthy physical and mental development.
The road of children's growth is like a long runway. Adults give them praise and appreciation at an appropriate time, just like shouting "Come on" to them, which will stimulate children's fighting spirit. Even children who are dissatisfied with their performance will ignite the fire of hope that they are unwilling to lag behind and create amazing miracles. Seize the best educational opportunity.
If parents want to achieve good results in ideological education for their children, they must choose and use the most appropriate methods and means according to different problems, and study and seize the opportunity of education at the most effective and easiest time.
At the beginning of the new semester, children often take the new semester as the starting point for their pursuit of new goals, which is a major change for children. This change has enhanced children's self-esteem and sense of adulthood, and children's enthusiasm has also been mobilized. At this turning point in life, parents should seize this opportunity to make a fuss about the word "new".
At the first sign, when children's good thoughts and behaviors sparkle, parents should give appropriate affirmation, encouragement and positive induction with great enthusiasm. When a child's bad thoughts and behaviors are budding or abnormal, parents should pay attention to his every move with keen insight and help the child from the perspective of care and love.
When the behavior is frustrated, when the child's self-esteem is damaged for some reason, it is easy to have serious psychological obstacles, often showing depression, decadence and other emotions. At this time, parents should help their children analyze the causes of setbacks and sum up the lessons of failure.
When excited or impulsive, when children are encouraged and praised by their parents, relatives and schools, they are prone to pride. At this time, parents should correctly guide and inspire their children, so that their temporary impulse can be transformed into lasting conscious action. When children are happy for success, they are full of confidence and happy. If parents can set clear and higher goals for their children on the basis of encouragement, children will work harder.
When school education is inconsistent with family education and social influence, students' ideological understanding will often form a contrast, thus causing resistance to education. Teachers and parents should accurately understand the causes of children's contrast and give guidance to improve children's ability to distinguish right from wrong.
In short, only by finding the best opportunity to implement education, prescribing the right medicine and aiming at the right goal can we really improve the effect of children's ideological education. Key words: Zheng Qiangxin, strong parent-child relationship in parenting education, parent-child counselor in Cinda culture, Star Point education, Dalian youth literacy training, Dalian Star Point, Dalian parenting education parent-child gratitude training, grateful youth internet addiction education, children's rebellious summer camp, Dalian summer camp, Dalian winter camp, teenagers' potential to stimulate parent-child effectiveness training, puppy love for teenagers' psychology.