In recent years, independent colleges have developed rapidly and become an important part of higher education in China. Compared with one or two students, the quality of students in independent colleges is generally positive, healthy, progressive and stable. However, due to the high tuition fees, they generally put themselves in the position of consumers and customers, and have higher requirements for all aspects of the school, but their collective concept is not strong. Students are generally strong in personality, self-righteous, unwilling to show off, and weak in will and adaptability in the face of setbacks and failures. At the same time, due to the weak learning foundation and stability, lack of diligence and fighting spirit, the mood fluctuates greatly and the mentality changes greatly. The idea, system and method of traditional dogmatic preaching in student work have been seriously challenged. How to make students' work more effective? The author explores and thinks about the management of students in independent colleges by combining his work practice and drawing lessons from the ideas and methods of psychological consultation. ?
What are the main problems and challenges faced by independent college students?
Due to the particularity of independent colleges, students began to choose independent colleges, and heavy tuition fees and fragile diplomas became their heavy psychological burden. At the same time, compared with students in public universities, they have left an indelible psychological shadow because of their failure in the college entrance examination, and they have a strong sense of inferiority in their studies. High tuition fees and academic frustration make them feel depressed, and their fragile diplomas and uncertain future make them lose confidence. Taking S College of G University as an example, in the annual survey of freshmen's mental health, more than half of the students have different degrees of psychological problems, including anxiety, compulsion, inferiority complex, interpersonal barriers and so on, which seriously affect their normal study and life. The traditional student work mode is top-down preaching and indoctrination, which imposes the outlook on life and values on students, lacks two-way communication and interaction, ignores the individual differences and particularities of students, and makes the management of students lose pertinence and effectiveness. Because of different concepts, there is an obvious generation gap between teachers and students. In this case, it is difficult to achieve results in student management, and even cause students' resistance and resistance. ?
What are the advantages of psychological counseling ideas and methods in student work?
In psychological counseling, the relationship between counselors and visitors is based on mutual trust. On the one hand, counselors can provide a safe and free atmosphere for visitors; On the other hand, we should accept and pay attention to visitors in a respectful, equal and democratic way, listen patiently, affirm and appreciate them in time. When visitors' views are different from their own, they can express, tolerate and understand appropriately. This "unconditional respect" itself has a good therapeutic effect. In this atmosphere of trust and respect, with the support and encouragement of teachers, students dare to express their problems and troubles, thus stimulating their desire and motivation for self-change, greatly improving their confidence and courage to overcome difficulties, and finally dare to face and solve difficulties and realize their ideals and goals. ?
Ideas and methods conducive to the development of student work in independent colleges?
1. People-oriented, trust and respect every student?
The relationship between teachers and students is a special one. Many times, the success or failure of students' work lies not in their work skills and communication skills, but in the relationship between teachers and students. Rogers put forward the famous viewpoint "unconditional respect". Respect means accepting and caring for students in an equal and democratic way, respecting their values, personality and rights, and accepting, caring for and caring for them. Respect is an important condition for a good teacher-student relationship. It can give students a safe and warm atmosphere, make them feel respected and accepted, and gain a sense of value, thus eliminating or weakening their anxiety, trusting teachers to the maximum extent and expressing themselves. ?
When dealing with students, teachers should put down their "shelves", look at their world from the students' point of view, listen to their voices and look at the practical problems they encounter from the students' point of view. When students disagree with their own views, they should show tolerance and understanding. Fully mobilize the enthusiasm of each student, guide students to participate in class management, let each student have the right to speak and have the opportunity to display their talents, and don't neglect anyone. ?
2. Moderate self-opening makes teachers more friendly?
Self-openness, also known as self-disclosure, refers to that psychological counselors share their feelings, thoughts and experiences with visitors in the process of psychological counseling. It can shorten the distance between the consultant and the visitor in a short time, and make the visitor feel trust in the consultant, so as to realize the self-opening of the visitor and increase the enthusiasm and effectiveness of the consultation. ?
Teachers' self-opening in communication with students is conducive to the establishment of a harmonious relationship between teachers and students. Teachers' public exposure of their life experiences, experiences or feelings, including negative experiences or experiences, will invisibly increase teachers' intimacy, make students feel more trust, and help students express their true feelings, and gradually form a good and harmonious relationship between teachers and students. ?
Teachers' self-opening in student work is generally divided into two levels. Shallow self-opening is to show students their views and feelings about class work, including positive and negative; A deeper self-opening is to share your past life experiences and related experiences with students frankly. No matter what level of self-opening, teachers should pay attention to sharing positive content as much as possible and less negative content. ?
3. Take the initiative to pay attention to students and treat students with a developmental perspective?
Active attention is a skill of psychological counseling, which is to pay selective attention to the highlights, strengths or potentials in students' speech and behavior, so that students can have a more objective self-image, positive values and a positive attitude towards life. ?
The students in independent colleges are a group with a flamboyant personality, and generally have shortcomings such as strong sense of the times, weak sense of responsibility, strong sense of society, weak sense of collectivity, strong sense of sexuality and weak ability to resist pressure. The focus of students' work should be to explore the bright spots of students, understand their characteristics, discover their strengths and potentials, and provide them with more opportunities for social practice and exercise, especially for some students who are not confident, practical and depressed. ?
4. Provide useful information in time to help students solve problems?
Information providing technology is a very important link in the process of psychological counseling. It provides visitors with relevant information when necessary to help them understand problems, make decisions, plan actions and solve problems. ?
College life is strange to college students, and they have never experienced anything. They don't know that universities should be responsible for their future role choice, and should establish their own life goals and career goals. Therefore, another focus of student work is to provide relevant information to college students in time, and guide students to understand the social development trend and social environment, so as to establish and formulate their own life goals and career goals with the times. ?
Reference materials?
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