After 49 years of love, the woman not only refused to marry, but also exposed his amazing affair between men and women, and pointedly pointed out that the man still used himself as a "shield", which was amazing.
Aside from gossip, by looking at the essence, this seemingly irrelevant news is actually a good negative teaching material for marriage.
What kind of man is worth marrying? For many unmarried women, this is a big problem.
Material? Although the material is important, it is not the most important. Before it, there were three views, feelings and character.
Without feelings, marriage will be a utilitarian transaction. A marriage that is together to complete a lifetime, to reproduce and reproduce, and only to fulfill obligations, except for daily necessities, will only be full of calculations of various interests, and it will be tiring to think about it.
If there is no compatible three views, it will be a nightmare for two people to live together, and it will be a kind of torture for two people to be in the same space.
Both sides have different perspectives and attitudes towards problems, which leads to the atmosphere that chickens talk to ducks in case of problems, even if it is a small problem, the views are opposite.
It's obviously about one thing, but no one can understand who agrees with whom. The last little thing may turn into a big thing, completely destroying feelings and marriage.
Needless to say, marrying a man with a worrying personality is enough to put out a woman's fire for the rest of her life and drive her into endless darkness. She will never be happy.
These are simple to say, but in fact they are not easy to practice. If it is so easy to understand, how can so many girls make mistakes and wake up after marriage and regret it?
On the one hand, human nature is complicated. People will not write their own shortcomings on their faces, will not put "scum" in public, and will maintain their positive image.
Simple girls, even if many girls know, plus a layer of lover filter, they are hard to distinguish. Because of love, they can always find a suitable excuse to convince each other's "scum".
When we can't draw a definite conclusion by looking at personality, material and feelings, how can we simply judge whether this man is worth marrying? Personally, I think it's important to see if the man is responsible.
Directly show my attitude, no matter what kind of shortcomings men have, there may be exceptions, but the man who doesn't take responsibility must be "love rat".
Let's just say that the reason why the male artist who has been making a lot of noise recently was "bombarded" is really not because he played very hard, not because how many people collapsed. It is obvious from many friends' comments that it is precisely because he fell in love with a girl and remained unmarried for nine years that it led to one-sided ridicule.
Love that doesn't aim at marriage is just a joke. It's true. Young people may think that love belongs to love and marriage belongs to marriage. These are two different things.
I am also a young man, but I don't agree with this view, but I can understand it. If it is a love for the purpose of marriage, you should be responsible, and you need to shoulder heavy pressure, not to mention the pure love of marriage. Regardless of the road ahead, it is really important to live in the present. After all, you are not responsible.
I also advise some girls, when your other half puts forward the idea of "only falling in love and not getting married", no matter how convincing his reasons are, don't blindly believe it, because it is mostly an excuse not to be a man, and no matter how good it is, it is just whitewashing yourself.
A man without responsibility is a delicious bait trap, which makes you get deeper and deeper. Don't move when you want to go out, and be bloody when you leave.
Compared with other examples, Meng Xiao is still good, because one of her jokes accidentally ruined her feelings for six years. After realizing that her boyfriend is an irresponsible love rat, she finally chose to leave this man and stopped her loss in time.
She didn't lose much. Apart from six years of emotional burning and vulnerability under temptation, she at least avoided the love rat trap and did no actual harm. Her life can start over.
Afterwards, she also reflected on her misconduct:
"I also know that the joke test is really bad. I also conducted a review afterwards. I'm usually not a girl who likes joking and disrespects each other. Is it a whim or a whim, but for the test results, I can only say that maybe this is the fate? "
What kind of joke did Mr Meng play? I'm also a little speechless because of a pregnancy test stick.
Meng Xiao and her boyfriend are ordinary families. Meng Xiao went to college, and her boyfriend came down to work after graduating from junior high school. Although he didn't get into a good university, in any case, he is fully worthy of his boyfriend. It is not difficult to find better conditions.
However, Meng Xiao is a girl who is single-minded about her feelings. Since she met and fell in love with her boyfriend in college, she hasn't thought about leaving a way out for herself. What boy's job is unstable, not local, two people are not suitable. She ignored the voices that had been questioning her relationship.
"I knew him at that time. He was in sales. When I was in college, my family didn't give me much living expenses. Occasionally made a fortune and went to his real estate company. He should be my immediate superior and take care of me. Later, I quit. He always accompanied me, often asked me out to play, invited me to dinner, and often asked me to be caring and attentive when I didn't meet.
After a long time, he confessed to me that I was still young at that time, and he was my first love in the true sense. I feel that he is also very motivated at work, good-looking and good to me. I thought nothing else was important, so I agreed. "
After the two established their relationship, Mr. Meng really had a good time. Although the boy's economic conditions are relatively difficult, he can't satisfy many of Mr. Meng's wishes, and most of the dates are eating roadside stalls, but Mr. Meng still feels that as long as two people are together, they are very satisfied and happy.
During this period, Meng Xiao went through college graduation to find a job. For her boyfriend, she refused the stable job entrusted by her parents and stayed at the university. She rents a house with her boyfriend and works hard to support Meng Xiao. The only belief is that the boy said he would give himself a home.
Until this year, the money saved by two people is still a drop in the bucket in front of housing prices in big cities, but Meng Xiao is still not so pessimistic.
"Houses in big cities are not affordable for ordinary people. As long as we have a house, we can buy it in our hometown. My requirements are not high, so it is impossible not to complain. But after all, I have been in love for six years, and I still love him, so I am willing to lower my requirements for him. I just want us to get married early and have a good result. "
Mr. Meng proposed this to his boyfriend, and his boyfriend agreed, saying that he would take Mr. Meng home to meet his parents on May 1 day to discuss marriage and house, but something happened not long ago.
On the eve of April Fool's Day, a friend of Meng Xiao sent good news to Meng Xiao. He is a better friend of Meng Xiao. He got married last year and got it this year. He also sent two photos of his pregnancy test stick to Meng Xiao at one time.
While being happy for his friends, Meng Xiao became fascinated by his marriage and future.
"I heard that her husband ate a bowl of happy dinner, and I thought to myself, what would he do if he knew I was pregnant? Would you be so happy? A few days after April Fool's Day, it is my birthday. I thought it was a joke. Explore his mind. So I sent a picture of a pregnancy test stick on my friend's birthday, and the result was completely unexpected. His reaction deeply hurt my heart. " After Meng Xiao's boyfriend found out, he didn't believe it at first, and finally believed it in front of Meng Xiao's eloquence and prepared evidence. He didn't say anything at that time, but was silent for a long time before he hesitated to tell Mr. Meng.
"Otherwise? Did you fight? "
He enumerated various reasons. They were going to buy a house and had no money, so they didn't have a wedding and had no money. Besides, he is not ready to get married so early, and he intends to get married at least on May 1 next year. Anyway, all kinds of excuses are coming. Finally, he came to the conclusion that the child came at a bad time.
Even in the end, her boyfriend began to tell her that she was pregnant. If she has to have this baby, she should reduce the bride price to 68 thousand.
Meng Xiao's heart has cooled since her boyfriend said this. Listening to her boyfriend's words, her heart is numb. Boyfriend has an attitude of "don't be irrational, I am doing it for our own good". Meng Xiao didn't lie in the end, but she admitted it.
"Pregnancy is fake, and the pregnancy test stick is not mine."
Say that finish this sentence, Meng Xiaoming see, her boyfriend immediately long sigh of relief, very happy, but at this moment, Meng Xiao heartbroken.
As if her boyfriend didn't know, she slept like a log, while Meng Xiao stayed up almost all night. The next day, she submitted her resignation to the company, packed her bags and broke up with her boyfriend.
This girl has been under pressure for love for six years, and this time, she pulled away without hesitation, without giving her boyfriend any chance to defend herself and room for redemption.
"I know my family will laugh at me for being stupid. After six years together, I realized how irresponsible and scum this person is. I think I am too. Maybe he is too good, or maybe I am too stupid. But the past is over, and it's no use regretting it. The only thing I can do is to leave him quickly and not end up in his crooked neck tree, so I don't hesitate for a moment.
Who hasn't fed the dog all those years in his life? I don't think this is the end, but mine. "
Meng Xiao's experience is heartbreaking. Although she speaks freely, it is conceivable that she has suffered great psychological trauma.
It may be something that every girl has to experience all her life, not to say that the other person is not good, but it may be a regret that she couldn't have when she was young, but it may be that she didn't have enough vision to meet love rat, so she pinned her years of youth on a future that can't be white. How can she not get hurt? How can it hurt?
I don't advocate people to test their sincerity by temptation, but girls must know how to think in love, not be led by the nose.
Irresponsible men are not only unwilling to take responsibility, but also have the greater characteristic of not taking the initiative.
He took the initiative to establish a love relationship and marriage relationship with girls, but he didn't take the initiative to think about their future. Do not take the initiative to create a better living environment for two people, do not take the initiative to improve themselves and strive to become better people, but choose to muddle along and live a comfortable life without looking forward.
They may think that this is life and marriage, but it is not.
The essence of marriage is to grow up and learn to bear, not only the man, but also the woman. While completing the role transformation, encourage each other and achieve a better self, instead of taking marriage as the grave of life, and you will spend the rest of your life like this.
Both men and women should deeply reflect on those who regard marriage as a grave and are unwilling to get married, or who are still unwilling to take responsibility after marriage.
If you can't check yourself, stay away from girls and boys with good family, don't hinder others from pursuing happiness, and don't get married. People who can't afford the burden of life are not worthy of marriage.
The above pictures are about boys using pregnancy test sticks, and they are about sharing pregnancy test sticks. Yes, I have a very accurate boy and girl. I hope this will help everyone!