Hainan News Network August 6 news: Ms. Liu's attitude towards her son and the way to educate her son are very unique. Ms. Liu is engaged in the construction industry. She has an industry and a beautiful house in Haikou. Her family conditions are excellent, but what she fears most is that her son has a sense of superiority because of his money. Once such a bud is discovered, she will immediately take various measures to "kill" her sense of superiority in the "cradle". Her son Susu was sent to Massey University in New Zealand to study architecture at the age of 18. Now she has studied abroad for four years. Ms. Liu only promised to subsidize her son's tuition, and his living expenses abroad depended on her own hands.
The reporter wrote some educational experiences of Ms. Liu, which I believe will inspire many parents.
As long as the son likes it, he must fight with him.
Susu is the only son of Ms. Liu. In the eyes of many relatives, Ms. Liu is "not like her mother." Once she finds out what kind of food her son likes to eat, she must compete with him to eat, and she won't buy any toys her son wants to buy. Ms. Liu's explanation for her behavior is that this is to prevent children from developing self-centered bad habits. As a result, Susu developed the style of "Kong Rong let pears". When he sees delicious food, he will definitely share it with the whole family. Every time he divided the fruit, he gave the biggest one to the old man and ate the smallest one himself.
There is no shuttle service when you go to primary school.
At the gates of some key schools, it is common for parents to queue up to pick up their children. Susu's experience is unique. At the age of 9, he transferred to a school in Baipoli, Haikou, and went to the fourth grade of primary school. Ms. Liu only sent him once at the beginning of school. Susu usually takes a bus from her home in Haidian Island to Donghu Station to get the fare, and then walks a long way to school after getting off. Several times, kind Susie saw an old beggar on the overpass after school and donated all her fares to others, so she could only walk a few kilometers home.
Have a sense of superiority and be sent to other places to study.
Ms. Liu's company is developing smoothly, from houses to cars. When Susie was in the first grade of junior high school, Ms. Liu suddenly found that her son who had lived with her for several years inevitably had a sense of superiority. This 10-year-old child actually claimed to be "the boss's son" and instructed the employees of her company to do things for her. In order to avoid the spread of this sense of superiority, Ms. Liu was determined to let her son "live independently", so she sent him to a closed private school in Beijing for middle school and strictly controlled her pocket money.
Pick up clothes discarded by others
In an environment far from her mother, Susie once again felt that she was a "poor child" and became very frugal. When she graduated from junior high school, Susie returned to her home in Haikou from Beijing, and the gift she brought back was actually seven T-shirts she picked up from school. These T-shirts were disdained by her classmates and discarded. In order to encourage his frugality, Ms. Liu called on the whole family to put on the T-shirts he brought back and show their support with practical actions. Unexpectedly, Susie went home on holiday the next year and found three pairs of shoes. He also told his mother whether these shoes are brand-name shoes or new ones. It's a pity that all the other students threw it away. He washed these shoes clean and didn't buy new shoes for a year.
Speaking of Su Su's frugality, the list is endless. Before going abroad, his mother gave him 400 yuan to buy the cotton-padded jacket that he had long liked, but Su Su insisted on waiting for the clothes to be discounted in the shopping mall for more than 1 month until the clothes were 50% off. When he was about to go abroad, in order to keep in touch with his family, some relatives and friends lent him an old mobile phone, a Motorola model 33 10, which was very big, heavy and old. Another relative and friend gave him a new Samsung mobile phone worth more than 5,000 yuan, but Su Su insisted on not taking it with him. He only took the old foreign mobile phone and said, "What are poor children doing with such a valuable mobile phone?" Now that the mobile phone is broken, Susie has been reluctant to buy another one.
After going abroad, in order to save money on haircuts, Susuto's mother gave a set of haircutting tools. When his hair grows, let his classmates shave it into a bald gourd ladle, and then shave it when it grows.
Work hard to earn living expenses.
Susu went to study in New Zealand on June 200 1, 10. In 2002, he went to a local language school, and in 2003, he went to a pre-university in New Zealand. In 2004, he was successfully admitted to the architectural design major of Massey University in New Zealand. This school has a history of nearly 100 years. This is a very old school, which is 0/00km away from the capital/kloc.
Before going abroad, Susie had made three chapters with her mother. The tuition is funded by her mother, and the living expenses are earned by herself. One week's stay in Susu, New Zealand 100 Yuan, one day's meal 15 yuan. Susie has done a lot of hard work to earn living expenses. First, he went to a restaurant to help wash the dishes. He always stands for five hours in a row, and the detergent is peeling off, earning 10 New Zealand dollars (local currency) an hour. Later, I went to the construction site to find a job, help people dig, help people look at the construction site, and earn 15 yuan an hour. In the last year, he found it more profitable to help people draw. He works at least 8 hours a day on Saturday and Sunday, earning 15 NZD per hour, and earning enough living expenses for one week in two days.
Mother's kindness
Ms. Liu said that the determination to send her son to study abroad stems from one of his words. When Susie was in high school, she actually said, "There is nothing my mother can't handle." Ms. Liu is worried about her son's thoughts. Her principle is that a person will never suffer when he grows up, and it is impossible to live happily forever. She has always insisted on cultivating her son's hard-working spirit. One year, she sent her son to the airport My son in middle school is not tall, carrying a big traveling bag, dragging a box in his left hand and carrying a prepared bag in his right hand. And she walked beside her son with a small handbag on her back, thinking that the child was really small and she felt sorry for him. On second thought, you can help him, but you can't help him forever. In this way, Susie took a bus from her residence to the airport and checked her luggage. Her mother never reached out to help him.
It is better to teach him how to make a living than to teach him a lot of money. Ms. Liu decided to send her son to "a place she can't handle" and let him survive and exercise by himself. However, when she learned that her son earned his living expenses by painting, the strong mother finally cried with distress. Last summer, every time Ms. Liu talked to her son on the phone, she always heard the wind whistling in the microphone. Susie always says that she is walking. What is strange to Ms. Liu is that it is winter there and she always walks in the wild. Later, Susie told the truth that she was helping people draw. Ms. Liu herself is engaged in architecture and knows that painting is the hardest work. At that time, she felt very contradictory and thought, what are you tossing about? With his own ability, his son should not suffer so much. But then she thought, this kind of exercise opportunity is rare.
Until now, many relatives think that Ms. Liu's method of educating her children is wise. Susu didn't catch any bad habits of Wan's younger brother. She lives in good order abroad, gets along well with her classmates and gets good grades. At Ms. Liu's home, the reporter saw photos of Su Su's life from the Internet. Although the house she rented was simple, it was neatly packed, and even the shoes were neatly placed.
The mother is her son's first female friend.
Has such a strong mother and such a unique way of education attracted her son's resistance? In the face of a reporter's question, Ms. Liu smiled with relief. She said that she and her son have always got along well and never blushed. She is always used to discussing solutions to problems with her son from the perspective of friends. She regarded herself as the first female friend in her son's life, and asked him to tell her everything, even which female classmate he loved. When my son/kloc-was 0/5 years old, he fell in love with a girl with good academic performance in the senior grade. This feeling is more of an element of admiration. He deliberately came back one day late during the holiday because he wanted to tear up the photo of the girl posted on the school honor list. When he told his mother the secret, Ms. Liu was not intimidated by her son's idea. She said to her son, "If you like her, you might as well study hard and be on the honor roll, so that you can be on the same platform with her and talk to her." Later, my son studied hard.
Usually, mother and son often chat online. Susie always calls her mother "Lao Niang". A few days ago, Ms. Liu was ill. In an email sent by Susie to her mother, she wrote, "Mom, I'm really worried about your weak voice on the phone. I hope you get well soon. In the future, you must pay more attention to your diet. Although domestic food is cheap and delicious, don't always go out to eat. I have a lot to say to you, but since I have a lot to say.
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