On the issue of marriage, it seems that the man buying a house is a "hard" requirement for marriage, but in fact, how many young people who just graduated buy their own houses? Most of them still rely on their parents' help. Especially now that house prices are so high, even if many young people have their own houses, their parents are responsible for repaying their mortgages.
Of course, there are also some young people who are more independent and belong to buying a house and getting married by themselves. Such people usually get married later. Some of them didn't even get married until they were 30. They have to work hard for a long time before they can afford a house. Besides, they are excellent and self-reliant.
How is it different from what I have done before? In the past, buying a house seemed to be a man's business, but now more and more women are beginning to realize the importance of owning a house.
Modern women's thoughts have also become more independent. With the development of economy, many excellent girls can buy houses with the help of their parents before they get married. The purpose of buying a house is simple, that is, to give yourself a sense of security and a home. If my marriage changes in the future, I will have a place to live.
A few days ago, the topic of "whether girls should buy a house before marriage" was also particularly hot on the Internet.
Some people say that behind the increase in women buying houses, women's desire for stability and a home that belongs to their own world and space is more reflected. After all, what you can hold in your own hands is your own, and others can't take it away. Men are unreliable, marriage is unreliable, and you will not have no way out.
It stands to reason that it should be good for a girl to buy a house with a shelter. Since the woman can buy a house for herself before marriage, it also fully shows a woman's ability. Such girls should be more popular with boys, but this is not the case.
By my side, there are many promising young girls who have a house but are single all the time, not because they don't want to find a boyfriend, but because many boys "backed out" after hearing about the house and won't continue this relationship.
I think the reason for this is not only that the girl is too good, the man may not be able to control it, but also the consideration of marriage, because on the issue of marriage, apart from bride price and dowry, both sides attach the most importance to the discussion of premarital property and other related issues.
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I have a friend, Mei Juan, who is an excellent girl. She graduated from a famous university, and her monthly salary has exceeded 10,000 within two years of graduation. Whether it is appearance or figure, it is a more outstanding one. In addition, after working for two years, she started her own business and fought for her career.
Three years have passed since she started her business, and she has her own small studio, and it has been very difficult all the way. Meijuan has really paid a lot to set up her own brand, and I have always admired such a girl with clear goals and worked hard for it. Now, at the age of 28, she has her own house. Although there are only two bedrooms and one living room with an area of more than 70 square meters, her conditions are already very good among many peers.
Mei Juan has a boyfriend, Xu Hui, who is not as good as Mei Juan, but Mei Juan did not abandon him. Well, they have been in love for more than three years, and now they are going to get married.
Boyfriend's family is also very liberal. They are going to buy a three-bedroom and one-bedroom house for two people in the city. What they mean is that the down payment of this house will be borne by the man, and Meijuan will decorate it, and finally they will repay the loan together after they get married. They will live here when they are old. The name of Meijuan Xuhui is written on the room book.
Originally, it was agreed that there was no problem, but the problem was that Xu Hui's parents suddenly changed their original thoughts after knowing that Meijuan already had her own house: "Either the name of the house is not added with Meijuan, or Meijuan sells the original house and the money is used to pay the down payment together."
Facing the demands of her boyfriend's parents, Meijuan hesitated. After all, this is a major event that concerns her life. If the wedding room doesn't pay, it's appropriate not to write her name. However, the decoration is her own now, and they also want to sell her original house. This is undoubtedly a trap that she can't accept.
Just as Meijuan hesitated, Xu Hui's parents gave in and put forward another condition that surprised her: "If you don't sell a house and don't get married, if you think it's unfair, sell the house and give 654.38 million yuan to Meijuan for safekeeping, and the rest must be counted as married property."
When Meijuan heard this, it was not obvious that she had suffered. Of course she didn't agree, so the two men quarreled, and there was no result in the end. Meijuan broke up with her boyfriend decisively.
This man is very careful about the accounts. He didn't want to suffer anything, but he tried to take advantage of Meijuan, thinking about how to "cheat" Meijuan's premarital property. Such a family began to calculate you before marriage, and there will be no good result after marriage.
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Buying a house has always been a tradition for men, but girls are required to bear the decoration and household appliances in the house, and most of the burdens borne by women are "hidden expenses". When the relationship is not harmonious after marriage, when two people are not together, the woman can't take anything away, which is undoubtedly equivalent to helping the man get rid of poverty. In any case, the victims are actually women, and the demands of the Xuhui family are even more unreasonable.
In my opinion, Mei Juan certainly doesn't need to sell the house, because it is her own pre-marital property. And if you have a heart that loves her all your life, why do you insist on letting her sell the house? Besides, I'm not in pain. I don't want to sell a house or get married just to show that I want to take advantage, not really get married.
Women should learn to protect their own interests. Keeping an eye on her doesn't mean that she is a "woman with a heart." Who can guarantee that she will be happy all her life after marriage? No matter who you are, it is normal to "save a hand" for yourself before doing anything. Now it is because many simple girls believe in love too much that they fall into the trap of "poverty alleviation marriage". A woman knows nothing, but she is cheated and thinks she is married to love. As a result, she regretted it after marriage.
Just like not long ago, a girl and ex-boyfriend from Weibo Hot Search planned to get married, and spent more than 300,000 yuan on decoration alone. As a result, before marriage, she broke up because of property problems, but her boyfriend's family was unwilling to return a penny to the girl and could not take away the decoration. What can girls do when they meet such hooligans?
I said, before you get married, you must care about what you should care about. Don't be afraid to talk about money and hurt your feelings. Before marriage, you just hid it and didn't care. It is easy to cause quarrels after marriage.
Besides, if it's really about money, there's no need to be sad. If the other party has never stood on his own interests and considered the problem for himself, then the interests of two people are different. If he can't balance, he is not a good match at all. The purpose of marriage is not pure, how can we have a happy life after marriage?
Both men and women must keep a clear head before marriage, say what they should say and take into account what they should care about. They must not be embarrassed to speak out for fear of hurting their feelings.
Besides, as a man, don't be too stingy.
If you really like her and want to give her a lifetime of happiness, you must show your sincerity. Getting married is no longer a matter for two people. Slowly, you will find that there are too many complicated relationships in marriage, and no one can guarantee to be kind to a person all his life. It is also right for a lover to leave a way out.
Moreover, as far as the current development trend is concerned, there will be more and more women with real estate before marriage in the future, and men should not feel how great it is to have a house. Respect each other, or you will get nothing.
Marriage is a close contest, and no one should help anyone "help the poor". Everyone belongs to relatively equal, and only in this way can the marriage go well. Marriage cannot be full of calculations. Once there is a calculation, no one will end well.
Woman, be careful, the man who carefully calculated your pre-marital property.