Meng Xiao said that he wanted to be a college counselor after graduation. His boyfriend bought a house in a small third-tier city and lived a stable and leisurely life, but his father felt that this was a sign of no promise.
Meng Xiao said that dad is a controlling person, which puts him under great pressure. But because I am an only child, I often can't bear to go against my father's wishes. But after so many years of obedience, it seems that I don't understand what the meaning of life is now. "In fact, I really want to say to my father: I can't live what you think, don't expect anything from me!"
In the past, college students were all assigned graduation work packages, and the units rushed to get them. I remember when I was very young, a cousin was selected by the unit after graduation and worked as a garden manager somewhere in Shenzhen in the past two years. At that time, I didn't know what was the use of going to college. I just heard adults say that there is hope for going to college.
Now there are tens of thousands of college students every year, which makes many people worry about their future jobs as soon as they go to college.
This kind of pressure comes not only from the current social situation, but also from the blind expectations of parents.
In recent years, many young people choose to end their lives to escape the pressure of reality because they failed in the college entrance examination and could not face their parents. There are also many young people who are depressed and collapsed because of their parents' heavy expectations. They don't know what they live for, just keep running on the route planned by their parents, and pursue one goal after another in a depressed way.
China's parents always like to explain everything by saying "We are all for your own good". What an overbearing and unreasonable sentence! You can't fight back!
20 16 professor Xu Kaiwen, deputy director of Peking University mental health education and counseling center, once revealed in a speech that 40.4% of freshmen in Peking university think that life is meaningless, and they just live according to other people's logic.
This result looks sad, and I can't help asking, what is the meaning of life?
There may be no answer to this question, but everyone has the right to pursue the answer in his heart with his own way of life in the long years. Rather than being defined and required. This meaning should be colorful and free, not the same as the screws produced by the assembly line in the factory workshop.
However, parents, teachers, schools and public opinion have mastered the definition of this meaning. Then we are required to follow the rules under this established standard, dare not make mistakes, rarely ask ourselves, and lack the courage to live ourselves.
We see too many young people, who will be infinitely magnified when they encounter a little setback, thinking that the "sky" is going to fall. The "heaven" here refers to the standards set by the outside world in their hearts. So they dare not be frustrated formally, and they can't face those who are defined, so they are either depressed or commit suicide.
People often say "midlife crisis". What is "midlife crisis"? Young people are busy chasing, and only after middle age do they realize that life is wasted and meaningless. Sister Meng thinks that what should be paid more attention to is the "youth crisis". Only by solving the youth crisis can young people really live the life they want, which is the most effective way to avoid the middle-aged crisis.
Finally, I want to say to those young people who are in the crisis of youth that the education we receive, the books we read and the road we take are not to make ourselves an excellent person in the eyes of others, but to make ourselves.
Everyone else has done it, so let's be ourselves.
Since the established concepts of parents and society cannot be changed at once, we must learn to adjust ourselves first.