What is career counseling?
? In 2004, seligman, the father of positive psychology, defined four main tasks of psychology. One of the most important tasks is to help people get happiness. This task accounts for more than 80% of the four major tasks. Helping mentally healthy people to know themselves better is the main task of our career counseling.
? So what is the relationship between career counseling and psychological counseling? In his book Career Counseling and Counseling, Mr. Jin clearly pointed out that career counseling is a branch of psychological counseling. The object of psychological counseling service is the mentally unhealthy people, and the service object of career counseling is the mentally healthy people, which is the green part in the picture below. The red part belongs to psychological abnormality, which needs the diagnosis and treatment of psychiatrists, and most of them need drug treatment. The blue part refers to the unhealthy people in the normal psychological population who need psychological counselors to help them recover.
? Then how to distinguish psychological abnormality, normality, health and unhealthy? We can screen our customers by Xu Youxin's three principles.
? We can judge it from three dimensions: duration, degree of pain and social function. The duration of the trouble is less than three months, and the degree of pain can be under your control, so you can study, live, work and communicate with people normally. This situation is 3 points, which belongs to the scope of career counseling. Otherwise, according to the actual situation of visitors, we will introduce them to psychological counselors or psychiatrists. Investigating visitors' problems is the first step of career counseling.
Professional keywords
The three key words of career development are: role, environment and events. A healthy life meets three conditions, namely, being clear about one's role, being clear about the rules of the game, being able to make rational decisions at any time, and having enough action. All kinds of problems we encounter in life are basically due to the above three aspects.
? 1, role
Horizontally, people play different roles at each stage. For example, as learners, parents, children, workers, etc. If we can't handle the relationship between the two, it may cause the imbalance of role energy and affect our normal life. The increase or decrease of the same role will also have an impact on our lives. For example, when a mother has just given birth to a child, the role of the mother will occupy more proportion, while as a leisure person, the role of the learner will decline.
? Vertically, people's roles have changed at different stages of their lives. For example, before work, the main role is learners. After work, the main roles become workers and housekeepers. After retirement, the protagonist became an idle person.
? Regarding the concept of role, it should be clear that role is a concept of dynamic balance. People need to know very clearly what their roles are at each stage, and at the same time, they should also balance the relationship between various roles. A single role is a dangerous thing. Many students only have the role of learners before they go to college. When they went to college, their roles were enriched, which made them at a loss. This can explain many students' maladjustment and various problems after entering the university, especially interpersonal problems.
? 2. Environment
Understanding the environment is actually understanding the rules of the game. What is the untouchable bottom line? Who makes the rules? What does the environment expect of you? What can I do in the present environment? What can I do if the environment is different from my expectation?
? Winners have the opportunity to modify the rules, while losers always complain about the rules.
3. Events
In our career journey, we will encounter all kinds of planned and unplanned events. In the planned time, we should strengthen our actions, and for unplanned events, we should improve our rational decision-making ability.
A person's life is made up of various choices. Therefore, people are always very cautious or tangled when choosing. In order to make a rational decision, we need to see the goal through the options. What is your ultimate goal? Which option will help you achieve your ultimate goal at present? When we look forward, we naturally have a sense of direction.
Therefore, the four major tasks of vocational counseling are to recognize oneself, recognize reality, make rational decisions and increase actions. To sum up, it is eight words:
Let's study life together, plan life and get happiness.