The content of the message can be divided into the following categories:
1 Daily/Chat
"What are you doing?"
"Did you have breakfast? What to eat? "
"Are you busy today? Tired? "
If you seriously avoid answering such questions, it sounds perfunctory, for example,
"Nothing."
"Oh", "Hmm" ...
"Not bad", "That's it", "I don't know" …
Please stop exploring him in time if he replies with such feelings, boredom and embarrassment. Shift your focus to yourself and share your daily life with him.
"The noodles I ate today are really delicious!"
"I ran five kilometers at night ..."
"I saw a good movie."
Avoid if you are interested, you will naturally talk about the topic. If you don't reply, consider it pure sharing, at least he won't be too exclusive. I'm a little worried about what you think of him.
Whether I can tell you, how to tell you, will also consume his energy. As for your topic (or other people/things), there would be no such "pressure".
2 emotional needs category
Your message urgently needs his emotional comfort/expression.
"The thought that we are going to a different place makes me cry. Too uncomfortable ... "
"How do you feel about me? I want to hear it from you. "
"I feel bad that you haven't returned my message for so long."
This kind of news usually makes people feel accused and complaining. He will think that you are blaming/dissatisfied with him.
At the same time, it is also possible to instinctively avoid facing such problems. I think this kind of emotion should be solved by myself.
3 invitation
"I want to see you now."
"Let's go to Universal Studios this weekend!"
"You come to pick me up after work today."
It is often difficult to make a temporary decision to avoid the need for meeting planning. Even if he stays at home at the weekend, if he doesn't plan to travel, your request will still be decided by "ruining the plan/need to consider".
You can ask it in another way,
"I heard that Universal Studios is very interesting. Can you accompany me when you are free? "
Four sensational articles
When the relationship is contradictory or silent, lovers hope to express their feelings through small compositions.
To avoid it, it can't carry a lengthy description of emotions and feelings.
Not only is it difficult to give "touching" feedback, on the contrary, it may be annoying.
Especially when brushing multiple messages.
His subconscious will automatically block/filter the content about emotions and conflicts.
The more sense of need and dependence is exposed, the more attractive and valuable it is in the eyes of evaders.
What they are easy to accept is concise expression, gentle attitude and firm self-framework.
If you can convey to him a kind of "steady/calm/calm" core, then he will naturally be attracted.