Your question can be answered in four parts:
First, the normal "tossing" of the child's growth stage. Relatively speaking, every child will have some "experiences" in the growth stage, or let parents worry, or let teachers worry, but as long as it is within the controllable range, "adults don't have to see with their children." In other words, people's growth and maturity require costs, including not only the expenses of reading, seeing a doctor, dressing and eating, but also the necessary setbacks, appropriate mistakes and normal pains. Otherwise, how can the flowers in the greenhouse stand the wind and rain?
Second, the child's abnormal bad habits. Everything is measured and appropriate. If the child's behavior gradually forms bad habits and gradually deviates from the normal track, then it is necessary to "stop falling" in time, otherwise the long "bear road" is worrying! According to the information you provided, at present, children's communication only takes "common interests" as the "bright spot", and there is no intention of "learning from bad children", but parents need persuasion and scientific guidance, pay attention to their discretion, and don't hit his "buddy", otherwise he will be anxious with you!
Third, understand and accept the teacher's feelings. As a teacher, I hope every student can learn well, but it is almost impossible in real life. Almost every class has "poor students" that teachers have to give up, and I sincerely hope that the so-called "poor students" will not affect the "excellent students" so as not to "bring bad" class atmosphere. The teacher means well, and the teacher has to make difficult choices. Therefore, teachers want students to keep a distance from "poor students" to avoid being infected. Parents need to understand this kind of mood, but understanding does not mean that children are strictly forbidden to communicate normally. If all the children around the children are labeled, which ones can communicate and which ones can't, it will bring great trouble to the healthy growth of children, because children and adults have different standards of distinction and different levels of understanding.
Fourth, parents are worried about excessive negative thinking. "But I can't let go in my heart, and I'm worried that my child will not learn well one day, alas …" As you can guess from your description, the reason why you sigh is not entirely because the child is not doing well, but partly because of his one-sided ideas. This is not necessarily related to the outside world, but closely related to the internal harmony of the self. In other words, you are used to worrying about things, you are used to thinking the worst, and you are used to being in an anxious state. The same thing is not called "thing" in the eyes of others, but it is impossible for you. "Family affairs, state affairs and everything in the world are concerned." Therefore, you need to digest bad emotions and negative thoughts yourself, and make the big things small and small.
To sum up, my advice to you is:
1, accept the normal tossing during the child's growth.
2. Be merciful and don't hit your child's "buddy".
3. Communicate with teachers and guide children to observe discipline.
4, let the children get themselves first-the ceiling of parents' thoughts determines the child's growth space.