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This morning, I focused on "self-exploration of expanding consciousness" (page 165- 168); Then, learn to distinguish hard information from soft information.
Identify soft information and hard information
First, Mr. Li said hard information and soft information.
1. Teacher Li mentioned the terms excellent information and soft information in the article "There is a kind of" social lack "called" growing up ".
Due to the limitation of consultation time, I generally regard "different from other children" as "hard information" and temporarily recognize that children who drop out of school are of course different from other children! What I need to know in detail is "very personal". The information my parents gave me carries my own judgment and is of course "soft".
All questions can only be directed at "soft information".
2. Students are grave diggers of psychological teachers, not admirers.
She asked, "Do you think you are a good psychological teacher?"
Through this word "good", I feel her cunning again, which is another "pit"
This sensibility is called "recognition of soft information" in technical terms.
Soft information is only a subjective description, not an objective fact.
Hard information is an objective fact, and soft information is the content with the judgment of visitors.
Second, Li Zixun's hard information and soft information.
Student record
People often suffer not because of things, but because of the explanation of things. The purpose of consultation is to help visitors establish effective explanations. The information presented by visitors' speeches is rich, including hard information and soft information. Hard information is objective and the amount of information is very small; However, it can be questioned that soft information should be read by consultants.
Student record
"Voice analysis". Learn to find the inner structure from the visitors' words. What visitors say is more important than what they say, and the way they speak represents the way of being a man. It is necessary to distinguish between "hard information" and "soft information" (autonomous information) of visitors. At the same time, Mr. Li also put forward a "wall theory", saying that to go to the other side of the wall of a room, you don't have to go through the wall (hard information), you can take the door (soft information). Learn to soften difficult ideas (by asking questions).
Li Zixun said:
The clients who come to psychological counseling have some hard information and some soft information in the stories they describe. For example, if a person says that I am 30 years old, this is hard information, and we generally don't check it. But if a person says I feel inferior, it is an evaluation and a soft message. We don't think this person feels inferior just because he says he feels inferior. We will wonder why he said he felt inferior. When he kept describing it in an inferiority complex. Moreover, when people unconsciously show inferiority in interpersonal relationships, people around them will think that this person is inferior, which is called projection in psychology, and people around him are projected by him.
Hard information is objective and the amount of information is very small; Soft information contains evaluation information.
Third, how do we distinguish between hard information and soft information?
The visitor said that my husband lived away from home for two years, and it was all my fault that he did so. Please tell me what I should do before he goes home.
Hard news: My husband has lived away from home for two years.
Soft news: I'm not well. My husband just left home.
Fourth, when communicating with children, pay attention to the soft and hard information in children's mouths, and pay attention to soft information.