But there are also some selfish relatives. When they are in trouble, they will avoid them. When they need our help, they take it for granted to help them. And the next reader, the relatives he met, is so unreasonable.
My name is Zeyang. My wife and I met through the introduction of friends. We have been together for three years. Just before I got married, my family bought me a suite. As my wife's wedding room, the house is small, with two rooms and two halls, but it is a double-degree room. There are several good primary and secondary schools near the new house, and City No.1 Middle School is next door. As the head of the family, we can enter the school directly without taking the exam.
Before we got married, my second uncle, my father's brother, came to my house to congratulate me. I was puzzled at that time, because this second uncle has always looked down on our family since he was a child. He always felt that my dad was worthless, and he still lived in a small bungalow in his hometown after so many years of struggle. Before my family had difficulties in borrowing money from them for help, they all avoided it.
Now that you have come to us, I'm afraid you have something to ask. My father, on the other hand, is gentle and gentle, and generally doesn't care so much about others. Although the house in my hometown is not so good, my parents have struggled for most of their lives and worked hard to save me money for a wedding room. I'm already grateful.
I saw Bo Er bring a bag of fruit and a box of biscuits and put them on the table. He patted the dust on the sofa and sat down straight. Father said, "Second brother, you haven't come to my house for a long time. This is the tea you just bought. How about trying it? "
Bo Er picked up the tea my father brought him, took a sip and said, "Not bad." Then my eyes looked around the scenery of my home. He began to go straight to the topic: "I heard that Zeyang got married, and you bought him a double-degree room in the city?"
The father smiled and said, "Yes, we both worked hard for our son for most of our lives. We bought this apartment on behalf of an acquaintance, so we can buy it. "
Bo Er turned the beads on his hand and said, "My grandson will be five years old next year. I want to put him in Zeyang's new home and borrow his degree to go to school. You should be all right? " As you know, the quality of primary school teaching in our hometown is not very good, and I'm afraid my little grandson can't teach well. "
I sat by and listened to Bo Er's purpose. I also understand that the primary education in our hometown is average, and so are my parents. That's why they bought me this double-degree room. They also want their future grandchildren to have a better school environment.
Regardless of our young couple's newlyweds, what does it mean for Bo Er to directly insert a child? Because if you really want to borrow this degree, you have to leave it on our family account. Bo Er's home is more than twenty or thirty kilometers away from my wedding room, and there is no traffic jam for almost an hour. At that time, he will really agree to Bo Er's request, and he will definitely put his little nephew on my side. How inconvenient it is for our young couple's life.
Moreover, the house my parents bought for me is bound by a double degree. When they bought a house, they said that they could enroll in elementary and junior high schools without taking the test, but it is said that this degree can only be vacant if the previous child finishes junior high school or transfers midway, except for twins or second children. I wonder if my second uncle's degree will affect my children's study.
I was already twenty-six, almost twenty-seven, and my wife was two years younger than me, so we planned to have children at any time after marriage. I calculated the time. If I lend my degree to Bo Er's family, it will take another two years for his grandson to go to the first grade. If he finishes junior high school, it will take five years, that is, eleven years In other words, if my child goes to primary school on time at the age of seven, it will be four years before my husband and wife can have children. By that time, I will be thirty-one. How can I accommodate my grandson?
I said directly to Bo Er, "Bo Er, how is this possible? My wife and I are pregnant recently. I think we can have children as soon as we get married. If my degree is given to my nephew, my children will not be able to go to school. "
My cousin was there at that time, and he said to me, "You can postpone having a baby for a few years. It's better to have the baby later now. You can't watch your little nephew go to a poor primary school, can you? "
I was really angry. I explained the double-degree room to them and calculated the world for them. I said, "I'm almost twenty-seven now, which is already the standard for late childbearing." The family planning department can't control me. How many years do you want me to be late? " Still going to poor primary school? When I was a child, you and I also went to the primary school in the village. At that time, we went to a key high school and a university. What's the problem? "
I'm too lazy to tell this man so much. Your son is a gold ingot and my son is a roadside grass? It's none of my business even if you don't let him read. Seeing that my refusal was so firm, they turned to persuade my parents to put pressure on me. I know my parents' temper is a soft persimmon, but I am different. I immediately said to my parents, "You can either have grandchildren next year or wait for me to regenerate ten years later. If you want to give your degree to someone else, then don't rush me, I mean what I say! "
My parents didn't say anything when they saw that I was so determined. When Bo Er and his cousin saw that they couldn't convince them, they left with a black face.
At my wedding, the Bo Er family put on an unhappy look, as if my family owed them millions, but I don't care, so if you don't want to accept these things, just refuse them. What's the problem?
As the saying goes, "good brothers settle accounts." I like Zeyang's behavior of refusing unreasonable demands from relatives. In fact, in today's society, no one owes anyone, and no one deserves to pay for others. When you get help from others, you should be grateful, even those close to you.
We are two independent individuals, each with its own life, and we should not take it shamelessly just because we are close. Just like Zeyang's second uncle and cousin, they have been looking down on the Zeyang family for so many years. Now that the population is booming, I come to seek academic qualifications. In fact, facing such a situation, it is an obligation to help them and refuse to help them.
There are all kinds of people in this society, some are kind, some are evil, some are selfless, some are selfish, even their own relatives, and some are selfish. Most of these relatives only think about their children, and they will boldly ask you for help when they need help, but when you need help, they will become blind wolves and avoid it. So, stay away from such relatives. Since we can't get their help when we are in trouble, such "affection" is not worth mentioning.