The ancients said, "Brother, settle the accounts clearly." Even brothers should draw a clear line in terms of money, otherwise, sooner or later, they will bury the curse and one day, they will be brought to court.
The ancients also said: "It is difficult for an honest official to break housework." Things related to blood relationship can be big or small, and can't be completely judged by right or wrong. For example, the division of property, parents have five acres of land, to be distributed to two children. According to the normal view, a person must be two and a half acres.
The inside story is that in order to take care of his family, the boss dropped out of school at an early age and went to work in other places. All the money he earned was spent at home. Because he has to support his family, the boss has not been married until he is 30 years old. His parents want to give him more marks to ease their guilt.
At this time, the second child jumped out and said that his brother would like to. No one forced him to make sacrifices for his family, so his parents must treat him fairly. A man owns two and a half acres of land. One stands on the balance of morality and emotion, and the other stands on the balance of fairness. The two sides hold their own words, which seems to be correct and seems to be wrong.
Therefore, when I was a child, my brothers who played naked together became plaintiffs and defendants fighting for property when they grew up. This situation is very common in both rural and urban areas. When I went back to my hometown some time ago, such a thing happened in the village, which provoked a lot of discussion in the neighborhood.
02
Wang Mian and Wang Cheng are brothers, both college graduates, who were once the pride of our village. Recently, however, the two brothers thought that there was a heated discussion about the house.
Five years ago, the boss Wang Mian bought a house. He spent all his savings, didn't use a penny from his family, and borrowed some money from his classmates and friends to make up the down payment on the house. Wang Mian used to punch in at the company, which is no different from ordinary office workers.
With a monthly salary of seven or eight thousand yuan, his ambition can't be satisfied at all. So under consideration, he quit his stable job and started his own business. Fortunately, his years as an e-commerce company just happened to catch up with the dividend period and made a lot of money. He not only paid off his previous loan, but also paid off his mortgage for the remaining 20 years in one go.
Brother Wang Cheng looked at his brother's fortune, his eyes were angry and he talked about a girlfriend. The other party urged him to buy a house and get married, while his eldest brother Wang Mian was still a bachelor who devoted himself to his career. So, Wang Cheng discussed with his brother to see if he could lend this new house to his wedding for the sake of brotherhood.
Wang Mian flatly refused. From the down payment to the loan, the total price of the house has dropped 1 10,000, and now it has increased by 3,000 to 4,000 per square meter. If the two brothers kiss again, he can't give away the house. This is the result of his struggle for so many years.
Wang prejudiced his brother against it and let his parents be lobbyists. Parents generally prefer the youngest child, and Wang Mian's parents are no exception. They found Wang Mian: "Son, your brother is in a hurry to get married now, and you don't even have a date. Give him the house first. Your brother said that he would not use your house for nothing and would give you 300,000 yuan at a time, so he should buy your house. "
03
Hearing his parents' words, Wang Mian almost dropped his chin: "What? I want to pay 1 more than ten thousand yuan for this house, and I want to buy this house for 300 thousand yuan. What does he think? "
My parents were still confused and said slowly, "You are brothers, do you still need to be so clear?" You are rich and better than your brother. You should give him a hand. 300 thousand is a lot, but that's all your brother's savings. Your father and I have to give him some. You can't bear to see your father and I work so hard for this, can you? "
Wang Mian just thinks that parents' comments are typical "moral kidnapping". What do you mean, help your brother if you have money? Is it my original sin to be rich? Is it right for him to be poor? Wang Mian thought: Nobody's money was blown by the strong wind. I've worked hard for so many years, but you don't help me at all. Now you have finally achieved something. You have your own house, but you stand up and take it away. This is robbery.
Under the banner of affection, Wang Mian was disappointed with his younger brother Wang Cheng, and it was his parents who made him feel even more chilling.
Admittedly, his parents did provide him with schooling for more than ten years, but if Wang Mian didn't insist and the teacher visited him, Wang Mian's studies would have come to an abrupt end in the second day of junior high school. Parents are devoted to their younger brother, hoping that Wang Mian, the eldest brother, will go out early to earn money to support his family. If Wang Mian doesn't work hard enough and the teacher helps him, he may just be a plowman with his back to the loess.
04
Faced with the pressure of parents and younger brother, Wang Mian made a rude refusal. He said, "Don't say 300,000 yuan to buy my house. Now 300 thousand is enough to buy a two-bedroom down payment. Look at the house yourself, don't think about my house. Whether I get married or not, this house has nothing to do with you. "
Sometimes, affection is a sharp dagger, lethal enough to destroy a person. When I was a child, my parents always told us that your family is your strongest support, and only your relatives will not calculate you. Indeed, when you were young, your brothers and sisters had a good relationship. Whether you are bullied by street thugs in the village or gangsters on campus, your brothers can always stand up and help you.
But as time went on, the bad blood between brothers slowly appeared. If you live a good life, that brother will not bless you, but will curse you for living a bad life, at least worse than him. Especially after marriage, the affection between brothers is getting weaker and weaker, and the simple brotherhood in the past has become mutual calculation.
Wang Mian didn't give the house to his younger brother, and he didn't do anything wrong, either in family or in law. Why can he get the house that his brother tried his best to get without working hard? 300,000 people want to buy a house with a price of 6,543,800+0,000, and he also said that.
The so-called relatives refer to the loved ones, those who have never thought about it but have not forgotten it, and those who only know how to pay without expecting anything in return. Love and marriage need to be carried out in both directions to be meaningful, and family ties also need to be paid in both directions. If you always want to get benefits from each other and never consider how to pay for each other, then it is not worthy of having relatives.
Since you don't deserve it, you have no obligation to help.