With the increasing age of first marriage, it is necessary to popularize "love education". The real "love education" is not to teach young people how to fall in love, but to educate or help young people learn to deal with emotions and emotions. With the increasing age of first marriage, it is necessary to popularize "love education".
The age of first marriage is rising, so it is necessary to popularize "love education" 1 According to the news of Anhui Provincial Civil Affairs Department, the average age of marriage registration in Anhui Province in 20021year was 33.3 1 year, and the average age of first marriage was 3 1 year, with 0.89 years for men and 30.73 years for women. "After 2008, the age of first marriage in Anhui has gradually increased, from about 26 years old at the beginning to more than 30 years old now." (Xin 'an Evening News in March 13)
The first marriage age is over 30 years old, and breaking the psychological barrier is the first step. Young people are influenced by many factors: the improvement of education level, the increase of living cost, and the improvement of young people's requirements for the quality of marriage ... Many times, young people's psychological pressure comes from "not loving"-they don't know how to deal with intimate relationships, and extreme events caused by feelings occur from time to time. Therefore, it is urgent to popularize "education of love".
At present, at all stages from primary school to university in China, love education, family management and other courses have not been formally included in the education system. The quality and level of relevant training institutions are uneven, which leads most young people to fall in love and enter marriage in ignorance, just like "working without a license".
The Guiding Opinions on Strengthening Marriage and Family Counseling Education in the New Era, issued in August of 20, requires all localities to actively explore premarital counseling to help the parties prepare for marriage and learn how to manage marriage. The "14th Five-Year Plan" issued in May 2 1 year also explicitly requires strengthening pre-marital guidance and pre-marital health care. But instead of "making up lessons" before marriage, it is better to start education at the stage of love. Love is the foundation of marriage. Only when young people understand the meaning of love can they respect marriage more.
"Education of love" is a systematic project, which must not be confined to the classroom. Last year, Ningxia University, Wuhan University and other universities set up elective subjects such as love psychology and marital economics, which attracted wide attention. But true love education should also include more psychological contents to help young people understand the meaning and connotation of love and marriage and improve their ability to manage their emotional life.
Civil affairs departments should give full play to the leading role, explore and develop love education courses with education departments, and build a curriculum system for love education. It is not unreasonable for colleges and universities to take "love education" as a supplement to the education of college students' outlook on life, but local governments should also take the lead in establishing complete marriage and family consultation institutions to achieve full coverage of "love education".
In addition, at present, some cities in China have been equipped with market services such as love education, and professional and scientific consultation and guidance can help solve personal emotional problems and reproductive health care problems. Public service advertisements and mainstream media should also create an open and smooth public opinion field for "love education".
Professional "love education" needs more professionals. For colleges and universities, experts in psychology and sociology with an open mind, experience and knowledge are the best choice, and gaining the recognition of young people is the first step to carry out education. For the "love education" in society, we can learn from the model of "social worker+volunteer" marriage and family counseling center adopted by Ningde City, which not only makes full use of resources, but also makes the "love education" specialty more grounded.
In fact, the real "love education" is not to teach teenagers how to fall in love, but to educate or help teenagers learn to deal with their emotions, feelings and differences with others and establish healthy intimate relationships. This should be a "compulsory course" for every young person when he grows up. Love education can and should exist, which is not only the proposition of love and marriage, but also one of the key words of personal growth and social development.
The age of first marriage is rising, so it is necessary to popularize "love education". 202 1 marriage registration big data has been released recently in many places in the Yangtze River Delta. According to the news of Anhui Provincial Civil Affairs Department, the average age of marriage registration in Anhui Province in 20021year was 33.3 1 year, the average age of first marriage was 3 1.89 years, and the male was 30.73 years old.
Delaying the age of first marriage is a social topic that has attracted much attention in recent years. As early as 20 18, the data of Jiangsu Provincial Civil Affairs Department showed that in 20 17, the average age of first marriage in Jiangsu was 34.2 years, including 34.3 years for women and 34 years for men. The average age of first marriage in Jiangsu in 20 12 years was 29.6 years old, and it was 32.4 years old in 20 15 years. In other words, almost ten years ago, the average age of first marriage in Jiangsu reached 30.
30 years old is a big pass, which undoubtedly made people feel anxious before, but when this news came out, many men and women felt a little relaxed. It must be said that the formation of this situation is determined by the level of economic development. Under the influence of the comparison of opportunity cost of marriage partners, the improvement of education level, the increase of marriage cost and the popularity of cohabitation, the average age of first marriage of urban and rural residents in China today shows a trend of continuous delay.
Marriage and love is a personal behavior, but it does reflect some social problems, such as missing the childbearing age, strengthening the downward trend of fertility level and increasing the reproductive risk of elderly women, which will bring further challenges to social development. In this regard, public policies should make a difference, further promote the introduction of marriage and childbearing support policies, and encourage and advocate marriage and childbearing at the appropriate age; At the same time, do a good job of supporting the bottom, meet the basic housing needs of urban lower-middle-income families, protect the special rights and interests of pregnant women and the safety of mothers and babies, and enhance the inclusiveness of birth policies.
Three days ago, the Civil Affairs Bureau of Xiangyang City, Hubei Province announced that in 20021year, the average age of first marriage in this city was 35.23 years for men and 33.96 years for women, which was delayed by nearly five years compared with 29.4 1 year and 27.27 years for 20 1 year.
In recent years, the number of marriage registrations in Xiangyang has also dropped from 55,506 in 2065,438+04 and 46,783 in 2065,438+06 to more than 28,300 in 2026,5438+0.
When the data came out, there was an uproar.
What happened to Xiangyang, which is located in the middle reaches of the Han River and aims at "a trillion industrial cities"?
Low fertility rate
Xiangyang is located in the northwest of Hubei Province. Xiangyang, as the central city in the central region, the central city in the Hanjiang River basin and the sub-central city in the province, has developed rapidly in recent years. In 20021year, Xiangyang's total economic output reached 530.9 billion yuan, ranking second in Hubei Province for five consecutive years.
As an ordinary prefecture-level city, this achievement is not bad, but perhaps because of the existence of Zhuyu in Wuhan, Xiangyang has not been strong.
What's so special about Xiangyang that it ranks first in the published list of average age of first marriage?
Shi, director of the Population and Health Research Center of Zhongnan University of Economics and Law, mentioned in an interview with China that Xiangyang's problems should not be confined to Xiangyang, but should jump out of narrow geographical restrictions and look at its macro environment.
China Marriage Report 202 1 analyzes the present situation of marriage in China and its causes, and holds that the family planning policy in 1970s and 1980s brought two major problems, namely, the declining birth rate and the unbalanced sex ratio of the birth population, which affected the population of marriageable age for a long time, making it difficult to match the marriage market, thus delaying the average age of first marriage.
According to the relevant data published by the National Bureau of Statistics, the post-80s, post-90s and post-00s populations are 2190,000, 654.38+880,000 and 654.38+470,000 respectively. The population of post-90s is about 3 1 10,000 less than that of post-80s, and the population of post-90s is about 4 1 10,000 less than that of post-90s.
At present, the population of 25-29 years old (post-90 s), the main force of marriageable age, has dropped sharply, which has a negative impact on the number of marriages.
At the same time, there has been a serious imbalance between men and women since family planning. 1982 (M: F, F = 100) The sex ratio at birth 107.6, 1990 exceeded10, and was close to/kloc-0 in 2000. Relevant data show that after 00, the sex ratio between men and women is 1 19, and men are closer than women130,000; After 90, the sex ratio between men and women is 1 10, and there are nearly 9 million more men than women.
According to the marriage data published in various places, the average age of first marriage for men and women in Jiangsu Province in 20021year was 28 years old and 26.52 years old respectively. Compared with the previous year, the average age of first marriage for men was slightly delayed, while that for women was slightly advanced. Hangzhou is 28.5 and 27. 1 year respectively, 0.2 and 0.3 years later than last year. Wenzhou is 29. 1, 26.7 years old, 0.4 years later for males and 0.3 years later for females. ...
Huang Zhen, the founder of MarryU, a new generation marriage platform, believes that in addition to the above reasons, the phenomenon of late marriage in China is also related to the unique environment.
"The only child is a special generation born under special policies. In the process of growing up, I encountered reform and opening up. Its parents usually have a strong brand of material shortage. They have their own standards in addition to the spiritual level, and they also have certain requirements for material life. "
Huang Zhen believes that this generation's demand for marriage and love is more diverse and complex, which bears a distinct imprint of the times. Coupled with the changes in the concept of marriage and love of contemporary men and women and the realistic pressure brought by the high cost of childbirth, the desire of contemporary marriageable men and women to have children is reduced, which in turn reduces the demand for marriage.