From the perspective of psychology, psychological counseling and sociology, what causes a person to be exhausted and fall into stress and anxiety. Then think about how to face these pressures and what will happen if the methods are improper. A doctor said, "Stress is the body's response to a dangerous situation." When faced with various changes or encounters, our bodies will react. Some people will run away, others will face challenges. During this period, our blood pressure will rise, kidney function will secrete a large number of nephrons, muscles will begin to tighten, and digestion will slow down.
With the rapid changes in Hong Kong society in the past decade and other factors, more and more people have been living in stress and anxiety for a long time. The most stressful people are those who are married and have just had children. The reason for this is the following：
1. After they got married, they became a sandwich class, with high halls and children.
2. These people have more than ten years' working experience. With the social transformation, they become executives of companies, schools or z /- government agencies, and they face great pressure in their work. Three years ago, the Renewal Church conducted a survey and found that the average age of church directors was 29.5 years old.
1 personality: there is a personality that is most prone to stress, and this personality is called "A" personality. Psychologists and doctors believe that people with "A" personality have the following characteristics: First, the pace of life is fast and they come and go in a hurry. The second is that one thing has not been finished, and two things have started again. Third, competitive, competitive. Fourth, not afraid of difficulties, enterprising and adventurous. The fifth is extroversion and sharp-edged. Sixth, the voice is loud and powerful. The seventh is impatience, excitability and temper tantrums. The eighth is that you can't tolerate things you don't like. Ninth, you don't care about yourself and don't know how to take care of yourself. The tenth is not knowing how to enjoy life. 1 1 is in a state of tension all day. Twelve is impatience. Thirteenth, I didn't read the whole book persistently, just read the introduction. I prefer being a leader to leading others. Fifth, I am not in the mood to enjoy the pleasant scenery. This kind of person is a typical "A" personality. Cardiologists say that 7 1.5% of patients with coronary heart disease live in this personality because they consume more physical strength and consume quickly.
2 Balanced Life: Why does a balanced life cause stress? There are many people who don't pay attention to a balanced life and only do one thing all day, such as using the computer at work and after work, and staying in front of the computer from morning till night. The third chapter of Ecclesiastes reminds us not only to be psychologically prepared for different phenomena in life, but also to think that these things are normal.
Ecclesiastes, chapter 3, verses 1 to 8, "There is a time for everything, and there is a time for everything in the world. Sometimes you live, sometimes you die. Sometimes you plant, sometimes you pull out what you plant. Sometimes killing people, sometimes treating diseases. Sometimes it is demolished, sometimes it is built. Sometimes you cry, sometimes you laugh. Sometimes mourning, sometimes dancing. Sometimes you throw stones, sometimes you pile them up. Sometimes I hug, sometimes I don't hug. Looking for time, losing time. Sometimes conservative, sometimes give up. Sometimes it's broken, sometimes it's mended. Sometimes silence, sometimes words. Love and hate sometimes. Sometimes there is war, sometimes there is peace. "
We should not only be psychologically prepared, but also believe that life is not always healthy, and sometimes there will be diseases; You may not succeed, but sometimes you will fail. There is not necessarily a gathering, but sometimes it will be scattered; Not necessarily good, sometimes not good; It doesn't have to be built, sometimes it will be demolished. When encountering adversity, don't ask why, why me. For example, when will you ask why? When you get a promotion and a raise, you won't ask, why me? But when you see a colleague get a raise and you don't, you will ask why not me? When people are in prosperity, they just take it for granted, and when they are in adversity, they feel that it should not happen to them. This passage reminds us that anything can happen to us, and we need to be mentally prepared. Balance is very important. Don't think about hip-hop all day, sometimes crying is good for us; Don't think the party is good, sometimes it is good for us; Don't think that success is good, sometimes failure is the best way to build yourself.
A psychologist in Taiwan Province Province wrote: "The truly constructive time in life only accounts for 20% of your energetic time every day, and during this 20% time, you have done more than 80% of your work." It turns out that only 20% of the time is really effective. When you find that there is no progress in your work, you should relax yourself for a while so that you can continue to do other things. This passage reminds us that we need to admit that sometimes things can't be effective and efficient all day.
(This article is taken from the author: "Farewell Pressure"