Although there are not many such families, it is not without them. Not meeting is a good thing, but it is equivalent to having a curse around you. Then when you encounter such a situation, you must know how to stay away and safeguard your own interests.
Those thoughtful mothers-in-law should understand that a daughter-in-law who is easy to talk to doesn't mean that she is stupid and kind. After all, you have to rely on your daughter-in-law to support you when you are old! Don't say that you have children and don't rely on your daughter-in-law. When it is really needed, it will be late.
Therefore, don't use your little abacus on your daughter-in-law. She owes nothing to your family, especially has no obligation to help your children.
After Li and her husband got married, life has been very good and the relationship between husband and wife is very stable. Li Jie did a little business before marriage. She has also saved some money and bought a house over the years.
It's not bad for my husband to work in the company. Of course, his income may not be as high as his wife's business income. However, their love will not be replaced by material things.
Because both of them have houses, they didn't live with their mother-in-law after marriage. It makes sense that the fragrance is far away and the taste is near. Without cohabitation, there will be no contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. With a certain distance and mutual respect, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can get along.
However, my mother-in-law is a greedy person. Every time she goes to her son's house, she wants her daughter-in-law to give her something, and even always asks her daughter-in-law for money. Li is a very easygoing woman. She gives her mother-in-law whatever she wants. Sometimes I send money to my mother-in-law without consulting her.
After more than a year of marriage, they also have the crystallization of love, a new member in the family, and the living expenses have also increased. Besides, Li He's business situation has not been very good, and her husband's job is still the same. Therefore, their pressure increases invisibly.
The pressure of life no longer makes their husband and wife as relaxed as before. I worry about the future direction every day, especially the work of husband Li has not improved.
Mother-in-law often asks her daughter-in-law for money, and even makes her daughter-in-law bear the living expenses of their family. Li is very anxious, but every time her mother-in-law asks her, she can't refuse.
In this way, day after day, year after year, the income is small and the expenses are large, and their husband and wife are gradually becoming less generous. Anyway, Li still treats her mother-in-law as before. Even if her mother-in-law doesn't understand them, she has no complaints.
However, her brother-in-law's words made her very dissatisfied with her mother-in-law. It turned out that when her brother-in-law got married, Li lent him some money. After all, they are brothers, and it is appropriate to help them when they are in trouble.
However, after the brother-in-law got married, his wife refused to live with her mother-in-law and asked him to buy a house. Brother-in-law's work is not very good either. She spent almost all her money when she got married, so it is still a little difficult to buy a house.
But my brother-in-law's wife was clamoring for a divorce because she didn't have a room, so her mother-in-law put her idea on Li's head. She and her younger son thought that the eldest daughter-in-law would be very accommodating at ordinary times. If they ask the eldest daughter-in-law to give the apartment to her brother-in-law before marriage, she will probably agree.
They told Li's husband about it first, and Li's husband scolded his younger brother at that time, saying that he didn't work hard and wanted to calculate his wife. Later, she said that my mother was too eccentric and my younger son had no money to buy a house. Why should I let my eldest daughter-in-law be his sister-in-law in the house? It's too bullying. Besides, the eldest daughter-in-law usually pays a lot for their family.
The point is that my mother-in-law said that Li should give the prenuptial suite to her brother-in-law, not buy or rent it, which means giving it away for nothing. How could Li's husband be stupid enough to cheat his wife with his family?
As soon as the husband went back, he told his wife about his mother and brother's plans, reminding her to be careful and not to promise to give the house to his brother. If you give the house to your brother, it is estimated that you will never come back in this life.
Lee is not easy to mess with. After listening to her husband's words, she flew into a rage. She thinks her mother-in-law is cruel and treats her like a fool. She is usually easy to talk to, but it doesn't mean that she has no bottom line and can let her mother-in-law kill her.
Obviously, mother-in-law and brother-in-law didn't listen to husband Li at all. Two days later, my mother-in-law found Li and said a bunch of good things to pave the way. Later, I began to talk about how hard it is for my brother-in-law to marry a daughter-in-law. Now I am getting a divorce because I don't have a house. At some point, he said to let Li give the suite before marriage to his brother-in-law.
Li couldn't hold back his anger any longer. She directly angered her mother-in-law: Don't be ungrateful. She and her mother-in-law figured out the money they had given her over the years, and there were other odds and ends, and her mother-in-law was speechless.
Li felt that her mother-in-law would not stop there, so she blocked the back road directly. She told her mother-in-law that if anyone dared to think about the house before marriage, she would choose a divorce.
The second daughter-in-law at home is still divorcing, and now the eldest daughter-in-law is also divorcing, which can scare her mother-in-law. She didn't talk about the house, so she exchanged pleasantries with Li and hurried home.
Don't be too calculating. Li's mother-in-law wants to search her eldest daughter-in-law's house because her youngest son has no room. I have to say, this old lady has a lot of tricks. Everything the eldest daughter-in-law has belongs to others. She has no obligation to give your son anything material.
Nobody is stupid. Helping you in life is still for your husband's sake, but my mother-in-law likes to take her daughter-in-law's kindness as a way to keep asking for it. As a mother-in-law, you shouldn't treat your two daughters-in-law fairly, and you can't let the eldest daughter-in-law go out just because the second daughter-in-law wants a house. This is extremely unfair.
We often say, "Everything goes well at home." They are all daughters-in-law, and the treatment should be the same. We can't just pick one just because someone has money, which will not only hurt our feelings with the younger generation, but also make the whole family unhappy.
Generally speaking, when mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along, they should not be too precise, just thinking about taking advantage of their daughter-in-law and asking her for something. Daughter-in-law has her own bottom line, even if she is easy to talk to. The mother-in-law should know clearly in her heart that the daughter-in-law will easily agree to you without any unreasonable demands.
Moreover, in marriage, women should not be too accommodating. You have no obligation to help anyone in your husband's family. It is your duty to help them, and it is also your duty not to help them. In short, don't let others think you are easy to talk to, just come to you for everything. Under any unreasonable circumstances, we should remember that we should refuse when we should, so as not to bring endless trouble to ourselves.