Listen to story one:
I graduated from college and work in the planning department of a company. The minister said to us newcomers, "The company will plan a week-long national promotion plan, and the chairman will have a look at it himself. Everyone is young and we must seize this opportunity. "
After hard thinking, I decided to surpass others in the number of planning schemes. Within the specified time, I submitted four plans to the minister. A few days later, the minister told me that the chairman wanted me to go to his office.
A kind old man is sitting in the room. Sit down, young man, I have a story to tell you.
"The king of the forest tiger gave birth to two babies at one birth. All the animals came to congratulate, but the mouse disagreed. Because it just gave birth to 10 mice, it feels that the' king of the forest' is not as good as it. The monkey knows his mind and says, Mouse, 10: 2 exists objectively, but you forget that human species are much better than yours!
"My story is finished. I have read your four planning cases, and I can see that you have achieved 100%. But you forget that when you put 100% effort into four planning cases, you only put 25% effort into each planning case. When you put 100% effort into one planning case, you get 100% planning case! "
"Quantity is just a sign, and quality is fundamental. What I want is quality, not mediocrity, even if you have a lot." When I became the director of the planning department two years later, my opponent often said the same thing.
Listen to story 2:
When I transferred from the planning department to the sales department. This year, the company's board of directors decided that the current middle managers will lead their teams to carry out a one-year work, be responsible for their own profits and losses, be rewarded at the end of the year, and be eliminated at the end of the year. Soon, the company assigned a list of cities in charge, and when I saw several cities assigned to me, I couldn't help but feel cold. They are all remote and underdeveloped areas. Isn't this obviously embarrassing? The next day, I submitted my resignation application to the company.
The chairman called me into the office again.
"There are three watermelons on the plate, one is 300 grams and the other two are 200 grams. Which one do you want? "
"I want a big one, 300 grams." I said angrily.
"good! Then I want 200 grams. Let's eat together Mine is relatively small. Finish it first. Then I should put the rest on the plate You were angry just now and tried to take advantage, but what happened? I ate small, but my two pieces are 400 grams, which is cheaper than yours! "
"Similarly, you don't understand the nature of those cities. Why come to the conclusion that there is no market prospect there? Superficial things can confuse people, but a successful businessman will not be confused by the size of the surface. The market is made, regardless of size. This is your resignation letter, and you can choose to submit it again or withdraw it. "
Listen to story three:
On the day I was promoted to senior manager of the company, the chairman told me a third story in the office: "In a warehouse, several people dropped a watch, and everyone wanted to find it, but they couldn't find it. Later ... "
I didn't expect it to be such an old story, so I interjected: "Later, a child came to the warehouse while these people were resting, and fell on the ground. Because he heard the ticking of the watch with his ears, he found the watch ..."
"Very well, it seems that you have heard of this story, but do you understand it?"
"Of course I know, that is, we should learn to listen. Listening can find many unexpected things! "
"Yes, but are you listening to me? Son, self-confidence is a sign of a businessman's success, but self-confidence and conceit are different. You are now the senior manager of the company. If you don't listen to your employees, you will be out of touch with the market. Do you understand? "
This story has followed me ever since. I demand that I have both confidence and affinity.
The story of listening
Listen to the story, I know.
The hostess specially explained the arrangement: "Remember, you should hold this fish in a silver plate with exquisite decorations around it. Don't forget that there is a lemon in your mouth. "
At the dinner, both sides enjoyed themselves, and at the banquet, the last main course of the dinner was served. However, when the serving chef brought the steamed sea bass to the table, the originally pleasant atmosphere at the party suddenly quieted down.
The grouper looks delicious in a silver plate. The food around the silver plate was decorated according to the hostess's orders, and the chef serving the food had a lemon in his mouth, just as the hostess ordered.
In modern society, the relationship between people is getting closer and closer, and the pace of life is accelerating with its absence. It seems that everyone's hearing is declining day by day.
There are countless jokes that cause misunderstanding because they don't pay attention.
In addition to the basic courtesy of listening attentively and not interrupting the topic at will, knowing how to ask questions in time is also an important part of improving listening.
The average person's thinking speed is several times faster than his speaking ability, and so are the speakers and obedient people. It's mainly communication misunderstanding, and that's the problem. Because the thinking speed is too fast, it is sometimes difficult for the speaker to express his true feelings incisively and vividly, and it is easier for the listener to misinterpret what he hears in his own thinking. When such a group of people arrived, it was still a long way off.
The solution is to listen carefully, repeat what you can't fully understand with your own ideas at an appropriate time, and make a confirmation with the other party. In this way, the misunderstanding of communication will be minimized.
The bride is the groom's half-brother? I broke up with her because of you. Listening to the story, they don't want anything, they just want to spend more time with us. The stubborn little man only wrote me a letter, from my primary school to high school. In this letter, she kept asking about her parents, and only I knew that she loved her parents in her heart. Acquaintance is a kind of fate, no matter how far this relationship can go, cherish today's fate. This is why smart water has been echoing in our ears.
Stories about listening
Franklin had a habit of arguing when he was young. An old friend of Quaker called him to his side and severely scolded him, saying, "You are hopeless. You suppressed everyone who disagreed with you. Your opinion has become too precious for anyone to bear. Your friends find that if you are present, they will be very uncomfortable. You know too much, no one can teach you anything, and no one will tell you anything, because that would be thankless and unpleasant. So you can't absorb new knowledge, but your old knowledge is very limited. "
Don't argue about anything, listen, keep it in mind, help yourself and remember; You can't pretend the wind is blowing. You can learn a lot in this way. Some questions don't need clarification. Think about the purpose, or it's not worth wasting your time.
Stories about famous people who are good at listening and succeeding.
Pu Songling Cao Ting Road 1 Q.
Pu Songling, a writer in Qing Dynasty, built a thatched pavilion on the roadside to record the stories told by passers-by. After decades of hard collection and his own creation, he finally completed the epoch-making brilliant masterpiece Strange Tales from a Lonely Studio in the history of China ancient literature.
2, Sima Guang police pillow inspirational
Sima Guang is a playful and sleepy child, so he has been punished by his husband and laughed at by his peers. Under the inculcation of her husband, he is determined to get rid of the bad habit of sleepiness. In order to get up early, he drank a full stomach of water before going to bed. As a result, he didn't wake up in the morning, but peed in bed.
So smart Sima Guang made a police pillow out of logs. When I turned over in the morning, my head fell on the bed board and I woke up naturally. From then on, he got up early every day to study, persevered, and finally became a knowledgeable writer, writing "Zi Tongzhi Jian".
3. The story of Dale Carnegie
One day, Dale Carnegie went to new york to attend an important dinner, where he met a world-famous botanist. Dale Carnegie didn't say a few words to the botanist from beginning to end, but listened attentively.
However, after the dinner, the botanist spoke highly of Dale Carnegie, calling him an "inspiring" person at the dinner and an "interesting conversationalist". In fact, Carnegie didn't say much, just let himself listen carefully, but he was favored by botanists.
4. Why did Zhu Yuanzhang, a grassroots person, finally ascend to the throne of the emperor? Is it okay to rely solely on his talent? The answer is definitely no, so many aides in Zhu Yuanzhang's mansion have played an indelible role in his success. From Chen Youliang being defeated by Buyang Lake, to Zhang Shicheng being wiped out by Pingjiang, and then to the army's Northern Expedition to unify the whole country, Zhu Yuanzhang would recruit his staff to his side, listen to their opinions carefully and ask them for advice before making major decisions.
And this is even more obvious after Zhu Yuanzhang became emperor! From the first day when he became emperor, there was a fixed time every day, and some famous Confucian scholars were invited to listen to them explain Confucianism in the back garden, listen to them talk about the way of governing the country, and listen to their suggestions and suggestions. Zhu Yuanzhang listened carefully every time. This daily norm of being good at listening and being good at training provides the most authentic source for Zhu Yuanzhang's decision to stabilize the country at an early date and realize the country's prosperity!
Joe girard is regarded as the greatest salesman in the world today, and he will never forget one thing. In a promotion activity, joe girard negotiated smoothly with the customer. When the contract was about to be signed, the other party suddenly changed his mind-the bird that had quickly entered the cage flew away.
That evening, according to the address left by the customer, joe girard came to consult. Seeing his sincerity, the customer told the truth: "You failed because you didn't listen to me from beginning to end. Just as I was about to sign the contract, I mentioned that my only son was going to college, as well as his sports achievements and his future ambitions. I was proud of him, but you didn't respond at that time, and you turned your head to talk to others on your mobile phone. I changed my mind when I was annoyed. "
These words have reminded joe girard of the importance of "listening" and made him realize that if he can't listen to the other party's speech from beginning to end and identify with the customer's psychological feelings, he will inevitably lose customers. When he faced customers again in the future, he paid great attention to what they said, regardless of whether it had anything to do with his transaction, and gave him full weight of 12, which achieved unexpected results. Finally, he became a sales master.
Stories about listening
The story of mountains and rivers meeting bosom friends
During the Spring and Autumn Period, there was a man named Yu Boya in the State of Chu, who was proficient in temperament and superb in piano skills. But he always feels that he can't express his feelings about all kinds of things in a superb way. After the teacher knew it, he took him to Penglai Island in the East China Sea by boat to enjoy the natural scenery and listen to the sound of the sea. Boya only sees rough waves and splashing waves. Seabirds are roaring and singing; As if the harmonious and beautiful music of nature echoed in his ears. He can't help playing the piano, and his voice turns at will, melting the beauty of nature into the sound of the piano, but no one can understand his music. He feels very lonely and miserable.
One night, Boya traveled by boat. Facing the cool breeze and bright moon, he was full of thoughts and played the piano with melodious sound. Suddenly, he felt someone listening to his piano. When Boya saw a woodcutter standing on the shore, he invited him aboard. Boya played a song praising the mountains. The woodcutter said, "majestic and solemn, like the towering Mount Tai!" " When he played the surging waves, the woodcutter said, "It's mighty, as if seeing rolling water and boundless sea!" " Boya said excitedly: confidant. This woodcutter is Zhong Ziqi. Later, he died early. When Yu Boya learned this, he gave birth to the last piece of music in front of Zhong Ziqi's grave, then broke the string and never played the drums again.
The story of Boyazi period has been passed down through the ages, and the beautiful music of high mountains and flowing water still lingers in people's hearts and ears, but the stories of hard to find a bosom friend and hard to find a bosom friend are staged from generation to generation.
There are few bosom friends like Boya and Zhong Ziqi in the world. Meng Haoran once sighed: "I will pick up my pipa and play it, but, alas, who here will understand?" ; Yue Fei also said in a sleepless night: "If you want to give your heart to Yao Qin, there are very few bosom friends. Who listens to the broken string? " Su Shi compared himself to Gu Hong, and wrote the sentence, "I refuse to give birth to all the cold branches, and I am lonely in the cold of Shazhou". Jia Dao, on the other hand, said, "Two words win in three years, and tears flow when singing. If you don't appreciate your confidant, you will return to Laoqiu. " .
And how rare is the generosity and pride that I let "a scholar die as a confidant, and a woman is self-respecting"? A bosom friend is hard to find, and a friend is hard to find. Whether it is a beauty or a blue face, "it is enough to know one thing in life!" It has become people's eternal wish.
This story comes from Liezi Tang Wen. The idiom "high mountains and flowing water" is a metaphor for bosom friends and wonderful music.
What are the stories about listening?
There is such a passage in the primary school Chinese textbook. Listen attentively: In Spain, Susan, the receptionist at the information desk, used her excellent patience, listened attentively again and again, and used her poetic language to make a lonely and helpless boy happy and confident. She influenced the boy's life and made him.
After teaching this text with almost pious heart, I sat in the office for a long time, lost in thought ... When Susan talked to a strange boy, she kept a kind, peaceful and patient attitude. It is this kindness, peace and patience that makes this little boy have the kindest, purest and clearest heart. Yes, listening is a skill, a cultivation, and even an art; For our teachers, learning to listen is a responsibility, a pursuit and a professional consciousness. But what have I done in this responsibility and this pursuit? When students violate discipline, Kubinashi stops the so-called teaching; Students don't finish their homework, which is the so-called I hate the indoctrination of iron not to produce; When there are contradictions between classmates, I am the one who hits 50 boards indiscriminately; When the students approached me shyly and stopped talking, I was smart enough to convince them ... when am I not alone? When am I not the only one who is outraged? But I am still so self-righteous; Still so smug; Still as grandiose; Still so aggressive, like a savior ... have I considered the students' feelings at that time? Did I see the look in their eyes? Their eyes are clearly full of vacant! Panic! Boring! Fearless absentminded!
My heart is shaking and my hands are shaking. Holding the mouse tightly, I clicked the words "listen to education" on the computer. There is a passage on the screen: Listening means understanding, respecting, accepting, expecting, sharing pain and enjoying happiness. Its significance goes far beyond giving children a chance to express themselves. It may bring a kind of lost personality and self-esteem, light an ideological torch that is about to go out, and cast a long-lost pursuit of faith. Listening has become the key word of the new curriculum reform, and listening is another way of saying education. So, I try to ask about listening in education.
Late at night, I packed my textbooks on my desk, walked out of the office and walked all the way to the boys' dormitory as usual. As soon as I entered the dormitory, my intuition told me that it was not quiet here one minute before I came! These boys! I calmed down and asked softly, "Are you really asleep? Can you tell me what happened? " As soon as the voice fell, a harsh voice sounded: "Teacher, WBH students are crying, which makes us all fidgety." When the light came on, my eyes fell right on WBH's face. He stared at me stupefied, confused and helpless, with a little panic: "Teacher, I didn't mean to, I just couldn't sleep!" " "Can't sleep? Then sleep with me, just as I sleep late, and you can accompany me. " Originally, it was just a joke of mine. I didn't expect him to pick it up so soon: "Good!" In this way, he came to my dormitory and we chatted. This conversation really shook my heart. What is deposited in his heart is actually a topic about death! "I'm dead? I can't see this beautiful world when I die. I am so worried! " Looking at this elegant and excellent child who just turned ten, my heart was hit hard, but I still held back my inner surprise and looked at him gently, still smiling. Then, a series of words popped out of his mouth: "Pessimism ... death, life ... psychological disorder ... despair ... loneliness ... self-mutilation ... drunkenness ..." My smile remained, but my heart sank with his expression, and I only felt cold all over. What should I say? But what can I say? At this time, everything is so redundant. I can only hold his hand tightly, pat his face and give him a silent comfort. Later, he told me that he told his father these words, and his father said that he was imagining things and looking for trouble; He also told these words to his mother, who actually sent him to see a psychiatrist. He finally spoke very well today. I didn't expect me to understand him like this. Looking at his cheerful face, my heart suddenly breathed a sigh of relief: he was just looking for an audience, a bosom friend who could listen attentively. My listening won him respect and trust, which brought our hearts closer and closer silently ... In the days that followed, he ran for the captain of a few brigades, and he always smiled so brightly and confidently during his heavy work and study.
Indeed, listening is another manifestation of education and a special kind of education. Dear friends, when a student makes a mistake, why can't we calm down and listen to his explanation? No child deliberately wants to make mistakes; When a student comes into your office panting and wants to say something to you, why can't we stop what we are doing, look him in the eye and listen to him quietly? When a student greets you excitedly on the road and wants to share his happiness with you, why can't we stop in a hurry ... "Love doesn't talk, silence lasts longer", let's learn to listen attentively! In this way, you will hear the students' voices, and you will enjoy the greatest happiness and happiness in education.
A short story about the word 100.
Etiquette story-learn to listen
Once a famous host interviewed a group of children and asked him, "Children, what do you want to be when you grow up?" Some children say they want to be a doctor when they grow up, while others say they want to be a reporter when they grow up.
One of the children naively replied to the host: "Well ... I want to be a pilot of an airplane. I want to fly an airplane into the blue sky!" " "
The host then asked him, "What would you do if one day your plane flew over the Pacific Ocean and all the engines stopped?"
The child thought for a moment and answered the host: "I will tell the people sitting on the plane to fasten their seat belts first, and then I will hang up my parachute and jump out."
Everyone is wondering whether the child is selfish or not. Indeed, the audience at the scene thought it was ridiculous, and they all wondered if he was a clever little guy. Unexpectedly, two lines of tears flooded the child's face, making the owner realize that the child's sympathy is far from words.
So the host wiped his tears and asked him, "Can you tell us why you did this?"
The child's answer revealed a child's sincere thought: "I'm going to get the fuel, I want it back!" " "
The reason why I share such a story with you is because we all need to listen to it in life, especially in class. Listen to the teacher's lecture, listen to your partner's speech, don't listen to half of it, and don't easily project your own meaning on others' words.
The teacher wants every child to be a qualified listener. When others talk to you, raise your head and look at the speaker, and always pay attention to what others are talking about. Nodding and smiling means that you understand each other's thoughts. Be a patient listener even if you have different opinions. Don't interrupt each other, just express your opinions. You can wait until the other person has finished.
Guess what? People have two eyes, two ears and two hands, but why only one mouth? I just hope people can watch more, listen more, do more and talk less. The teacher wants to be a qualified listener with everyone. This is the etiquette story I want to share with you today. Learn to listen.
A short story about learning to listen.
Annie works as a cashier in KFC chain store. Every night after work, loneliness creeps into Anne's mind: she always eats dinner alone, and then picks up a novel to kill time. ?
New york is a big city with millions of people. People come and go every day, laughing and surprised, but no one notices your existence. Is there anything more desolate in this world? Thinking of being so lonely, Anne is like a frightened rabbit, curled up in her own little world. ?
After living like this for several months, she didn't know what to do. She doesn't know how to make friends, especially close boyfriends. Is this the life she faces four years after graduating from college? ?
That's not the saddest thing. Anyway, she can read all kinds of love novels, laugh and grieve with the heroine in the book, and let time pass slowly. But in the middle of the night, lying alone in bed, this is the hardest time. She doesn't know whether every normal person will have this kind of demand. ?
One day, Anne was told that she was going to see Ms. Linda, the head of the company's personnel department. She doesn't know how she came here to meet the head of the personnel department, and she doesn't know how she can talk about herself in Kan Kan, because she is always not good at expressing herself. In the past, this situation always left her at a loss and speechless. ?
Linda, the personnel supervisor, is an understanding person. She said to Annie earnestly, "If you like, I can help you overcome difficulties and make friends, but first, you must put aside those love novels and take some classes at art school in the evening." Don't deceive yourself by reading those untrue novels. Also, your work in the company has great development potential. I hope you can work hard and be promoted to the executive team of the advertising department one day. Because of this, you need to learn more painting and color skills. Most importantly, you shouldn't stay at home all night. " ?
Annie still remembers the manager saying that it is easy for young people to make friends as long as they are willing to go out to participate in activities. As long as you learn to express your own characteristics and be a lively girl, there will be many suitors. Change and do what you want. At the same time, we should pay attention to what others do and listen to what others say to make ourselves a good partner; Don't believe other people's slander; Unless you can give some feedback to others, no one in the world will be kind to yourself in vain. ?
Soon, Anne's life really became colorful, and she overcame her own difficulties. She really didn't expect that she could win so many friendships just by learning to listen to others. She remembers that Ms. Linda once told her: "Most people have a strong sense of self and want to have a chance to express themselves, so you don't have to worry about what to say at all, just listen to each other quietly and intently, which is enough." ?
It turns out that good interpersonal relationships are so simple. Before, Anne locked herself in a small world and refused to communicate with others. Now, the situation is completely different.
A story about "being good at listening"
Once, people from a small country copied it to China and paid tribute to three identical gold people. The emperor was very happy. However, the people of this small country are not kind, and at the same time, a question arises: who is the most valuable of these three gold people? The emperor thought of many ways to ask the jeweler to check, weigh and watch the work, all of which were exactly the same. What shall we do? The messenger is still waiting for a return. A vast country, you don't even understand this little thing? Finally, an old minister who abdicated said that he had an idea. The emperor invited the emissary to the main hall, and the old minister confidently took three straws and inserted them into the ear of the first gold man. The straw came out of the other ear. The straw of the second gold man fell out directly from his mouth, and the straw of the third gold man fell into his stomach without any noise. The old minister said: the third gold man is the most valuable! The messenger was silent and the answer was correct. This story tells us that the most valuable person is not necessarily the most talkative person. God gave us two ears and one mouth, which was supposed to make us listen more and talk less. Being good at listening is the most basic quality of a mature person.