But in fact, it is hard to believe that there are people who are higher than their own use value and have too many standards to fall in love.
Recently, one of my students, Lamb, shared her experience with me.
Lamb's best friend is a Hong Kong drifter born in a small area, who has squeezed into the financial industry with her diligence.
At an industry gathering, her best friend saw a financial industry executive who looked like Rainbow Leehom, kept taking photos and sending them to lambs, and called him a cold male god.
As it happens, Lamb also knows this financial industry executive and feels that the other party is very friendly, so he instigated his girlfriend to ask for a mobile phone WeChat. At this moment, Guo Hao's best friend immediately said:
"How can a man with such high use value see it?"
I refused to ask for mobile phone WeChat. Lamb was surprised to see a good girlfriend who used to think the same way.
I have to admit that in cross-border marketing love, the person who is most likely to be rejected is actually yourself, that is, you close the door of the other party.
Speaking of this, in fact, this is one of the most basic standards in love, and it is also the difficulty of cross-border marketing love, and its internal influence is fair.
When everyone saw the lamb's best friend go up, they defined themselves as unworthy people and passed themselves by. To get rid of this prophecy, we just need to look at the relationship between people from another angle.
Emotion itself is only emotion, which is the part of love and non-love between people, and has nothing to do with external standards. In fact, when money and influence are excluded, we are all equal.
After we can recognize high-class men and get rid of the first difficulty of cross-class love, and official website reminds us to be people who can talk about feelings with that person, I need to tell you how to actually talk about it.
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The higher the influence, the more you will find out whether you can change from the psychological characteristics of rights and interests to the role of daily life that can safely release pressure. In the words of Teacher Wu Zhihong:
"Many men, they live in their own clear trajectory. They sometimes use the truth to get along with other stars, but they will soon return to their lonely track. "
In high-class groups, because many people around them are determined to live their own material life, they often use psychological characteristics when getting along with others, so they have kept a safe distance from others so far.
Therefore, this is only the second problem of cross-border marketing. How to relate to each other's daily life characters rather than psychological characteristics?
Everyone knows that there is a kind of girl who is beautiful and has various famous brands. She spent a lot of time in high-end social media places. Although she often gets along with people above her own class, although some high-end men will swipe their credit cards to shop for them, she always lingers outside her emotions.
Because the connection between men and women here is a psychological characteristic connection, and the emphasis on characters in daily life depends largely on the experience of releasing pressure and security, rather than demanding the external use value of the other party. If you focus on the other party, this connection will have a chance to be improved.
I still remember an example of a little witch teacher who was in love enjoying high emotional intelligence interaction. That man is a divorced man with a child, which is of great use.
One day he bought a huge insurance policy, but he could only fill in one person's name. He was very upset and asked the girl:
"Should I fill in your name? _ Is it the name of the eldest son? "
And the girl's reaction is extreme, he said:
"Fill in your son's name. I just want to have you. "
Took the opportunity to give a man a hug.
I have to admit, in fact, it seems that she gave up a huge insurance policy and chose this person, but in fact this is the biggest rule.
The man felt that he was the most important and needed one because of this instruction, and then he bought the same insurance policy to write the girl's name.
When we want to establish a safe relationship with these high-level boys, we still remember that the key purpose is not always the benefits generated by the other party's external standards.
After the establishment of the safety association, girls must also show irreplaceable use value in order to become lovers and even husband and wife feelings.
After all, the couple is the only one, and his being with you represents his chance to give up other options. This is the last problem we encounter: the irreplaceable use value of everyone-psychological shock.
The vision, layout and thoughts of all upper-class people are usually caused by natural environment and experience, but the differences between you and him make it difficult for everyone to communicate with each other quickly on the basis of in-depth discussion.
In this way, there is only another way for everyone to describe their experiences!
High-class people usually ignore their own experiences at this time, because they have to apply a lot of logic and play different roles to maintain their current living conditions.
Emotion, talking about experience and mentality by yourself, is to let the other person talk about emotions with everyone. You have experience and mentality, and the ability to describe emotions can ensure that this step is the ultimate.
Cold reading according to the content of situational information
Mentality * * * The first way is to read cold according to the content of situational information.
Xiao Xin, an ordinary high school girl, complained to me a while ago that it is really difficult to associate with an object with higher standards now.
I have verified the man she is optimistic about on social software. He is a doctoral student at the Spanish Institute of Technology. There are 3 1 suites and two luxury cars in Beijing, which are obviously not of the same grade.
Xiao Xin saw someone else's message that he had six dogs. He told people:
"What a caring little brother!"
_ If the other party replies after more than one day:
"_ heart? How did you see that? "
Xiao Xin thinks he's been taken home. I turned over each other's materials and found that the other party said there was a sentence:
"Since the childhood, I especially like to see the animal world. Careful summary is also because there is no one in this variety show. "
When we saw this place, we wrote a message board for Xiao Xin:
"People who can appease so many small pets are also people who want to convey their sincerity, but I don't know why, there is always a feeling that you are lonely, but the people around you can't seem to make you feel comfortable."
Later, Xiao Xin received a reply from the other party:
"Speaking of my heart."
And took the initiative to clearly put forward the requirements of adding Xiaoxin Weixin.
In fact, here, according to the important message that he doesn't love anyone in Mythical Nature, I can see that he is actually a person who feels that he is surrounded by people with bad experiences. Although he has six dogs, he is actually very lonely and looks forward to a safe person, because he can't communicate in a real practical sense.
There is no doubt that others can't touch each other's heart by replying to him in that shallow way. If you want to shock each other's mentality, the perfect start is to know him.
Experience the present experience.
Mentality * * * The second way is to experience the present experience.
One of my consultants, Xiao Hui, was very happy for a while, and a CEO invited her to have coffee. In the chat, the other party suddenly throws a topic discussion about feelings and adjusts a posture to release pressure:
"Do you think I'm still emotionally attached? I've always felt that love for a person is hard to last for a long time, and happiness will pass in an instant. Why? "
Xiaohui Guan found that the other party was frowning and immersed in his inner world when he spoke, so he unhurriedly replied some words that had nothing to do with the other party's question:
"You make me feel lonely in your heart. You want to talk to me about it today, because I am safe and threatening to you. Am I right? "
On the other hand, my eyes widened in surprise, and then I smiled.
"Thank you for understanding me!"
Xiaohui also released the pressure at the moment _ immediately discussed the topic and said: