The netizen replied: the divorce filed by the man in marriage is basically zero. Men rarely have the idea of divorce, and generally don't talk about it unless they really feel that they can't live any longer. Men are naturally afraid of getting married. Really, I'm not lying to you. All men are subconsciously afraid of getting married. Because marriage means responsibility. Just living with you, men will feel relaxed, but if they get married, men will feel a lot heavier on their shoulders. In fact, men subconsciously tend to take care of women, but he doesn't show it. But why do men file for divorce? Men are weak in marriage, and women are generally stronger than men after marriage. In marriage, men are in a state of being squeezed by women. After marriage, women will have many demands on men. Which one do they want? Although some of them are only small requirements, they are simply cages for men full of liberalism.
Netizen replied: Men and women have different physiological structures and different psychology. Women often talk about divorce. If the two sides disagree, it can be said to be divorce. When men file for divorce, most of them are well thought out. In "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus", the author says that there are great differences in cognition between men and women. Men are used to "focusing" on the world, while women are "diverging" everything around them. Generally speaking, if there is no extramarital affair, men file for divorce to show that they have had enough in marriage. Whether there is room for recovery depends on the situation. If a man asks for a divorce because of an extramarital affair, the rate of repentance is 100%. Some people say that he abandoned his wife at the moment of cheating, and did not consider his wife's feelings, which may be somewhat one-sided. It is possible that he still loves his wife and wants his family, just for novelty. Then when he filed for divorce, he really didn't want this family. He thought it over before he wanted to divorce and marry someone else. So in this case, the rate of return is definitely zero. There is no need to save it.
Netizen replied: Many people think that men will not easily say divorce. Once the man filed for divorce, it was irreparable. However, this is not necessarily the case. Psychological research has found that, even if divorce is real, 40% people try to get back together after divorce, and 10%- 17% people finally remarry after divorce. This also includes the case where the man filed for divorce. In fact, whether the marriage can go back does not depend on who filed for divorce, but on whether the two sides have increased their emotional investment and management and made efforts to improve the marriage relationship after discovering the marriage problem. Then, if you still cherish this marriage after one party files for divorce, how can you save the other party? When you know that your partner is getting a divorce, your first reaction may be that you are unwilling to accept it. Confusion, anger, resentment and sadness fill your brain, making you want to question and accuse your partner. Such an emotional reaction will make it difficult for you to think, and your impulsive behavior will even escalate the conflict. Therefore, what you need to do is to give each other some time and space first, such as going out for a walk alone, or staying at a friend's house temporarily, and give each other a chance to re-examine this marriage.
Netizen replied: It is difficult to have a definite answer to this question. It is better to live a good life and strive for your own happiness than to bear the humiliation and unrealistically hope that the man will come back. It is really painful for a woman to divorce, but I always think that marriage needs the management of two people and the joint efforts of both sides. If the man asks for a divorce, no matter what the reason, the marriage is full of holes, even if it is gorgeous, there are corpses everywhere behind it. In the face of a sudden divorce from a man, my suggestion is to take care of yourself first, regardless of whether the man will turn back for the time being. No matter whether the marriage lasts for a long time, ask the woman to prepare for the worst and psychologically accept the embarrassment of being a divorced woman. I have encountered several cases. The life of every couple has always been sweet and happy in the eyes of others. My wife is held in the palm of my husband's hand every day, and every day's life is like an idol drama that keeps opening the dog abuse mode ... Unfortunately, life is not a TV series, and even the best screenwriter can't describe it. The well-known model husband suddenly filed for divorce, not because of the bad relationship between husband and wife, but because the wild flowers outside could not live without him. When we broke up, my husband was still affectionate and loved you 100%, but he was really one thousandth of her. Love rat even said the reason for breaking up so confidently that she sighed when she wanted to go back ... The couple are self-made billionaires. This man doesn't want to have only one daughter at home. Although he is obedient to his wife, he must have a son to carry on the family line. But his wife tried and failed because of her age and physical reasons. After finally refusing to get pregnant, the two sides inevitably came. The bloody thing is that even if the husband has an illegitimate child outside, he is still entangled with the woman. After all, he is still the biological father of his daughter and the father of the child.
Netizen replied: Compared with women, men are more rational creatures. What is reason, but there must be cause and effect. When a man does anything, he usually lists a series of reasons to decide it. So the first question is, why do you want to file for divorce? You don't think this marriage can last? Is it because I like a younger and more beautiful girl outside, and I can't stand the entanglement of family chores, or I can't stand this person around me more and more. In three cases, the first divorce, a man who can't stand the temptation, is not worth TOEFL for a lifetime. Secondly, marriage and family relationship is a relationship of mutual compromise and understanding. Any form of confrontation and intransigence will push the two sides further and further until they go their separate ways. Third, if love and marriage cannot make each other better and better, they can only make each other worse and worse. You are not who you used to be, and I am not who I used to be. If the mutual oath treaty makes us lose our best self, it is not as good as a piece of paper.
Netizen replied: man: "pay attention to" the world, and divorce is generally well thought out. Women: "Divergent" worldview, often talk about divorce, and divorce is necessary if a word does not agree. It means that the problem between you is deep. This situation depends on the attitude of the woman, and who is the problem. If the problem lies with you, you must sincerely admit your mistake and correct it with practical actions. When necessary, you can play emotional cards, evoke the other person's good memories and let the other person give up the idea of divorce. The return rate is basically zero. No matter whether he chose to abandon his wife and children or just to pursue novelty, in fact, his divorce means that his feelings and marriage are over, because it is the result of his careful consideration. In this case, there is no need to save it. This situation depends on the man's attitude. If he always stands in the position of his mother-in-law, then such a marriage will be difficult to maintain. Don't try to save a divorce before it's too early. Because if you take on problems unilaterally, you will lose your dignity sooner or later.