Clean home, clean heart? In fact, the real parting is to achieve "these"!

In recent years, I have often seen people discussing "breaking up" on the Internet, but many people don't know what "breaking up" is when they first see it.

Not only cleaned up the home, but also cleaned up the mind.

The concept of "breaking up" originated in Japan and was put forward by Japanese chores management consultant-Eiko Yamashita in 2000. It is not only a set of home finishing skills, nor a verb, but refers to getting to know yourself by sorting things, sorting out the "baggage" in your heart, and making life more enjoyable.

Trim: cut off the unnecessary parts. She: Throw away the excess waste. Leave: get rid of the obsession with things. Leaving things alone will also become the energy of bondage.

Do you often tell yourself "it's a pity to lose it" and "you will need it sooner or later anyway" when you are sorting things? Behind these excuses, there must be reasons I don't want to face, so I can't let go of things.

Giving up means learning to "give up" in behavior, that is, throwing away all unnecessary things. After all, the real protagonist is not the object, but himself, and the timeline is always now. The key to choosing an item is not whether it can be used, but whether I want to use it or not.

Why can't things be lost?

Eiko Yamashita, a Japanese sundry management consultant, summed up three kinds of people who can't throw things.

1. Escape from reality:

This kind of people don't want to stay at home and look straight at the mess, but rather let their lives get worse and worse in a vicious circle.

2. cling to the past:

Because I remember the happy times in the past, but I can't bear to throw away some memories that I can't give up, so I am very persistent and precious about the old things.

3. Worried about the future:

They are committed to preparing for "future uneasiness", such as hoarding a large number of garbage bags and toilet paper. Because their deep fear of "loss" cannot be eliminated, "having" something gives them a great sense of security.

In fact, I can't throw everything away just because I have feelings for things, but "I want to put down things that are no longer suitable, and I like them again."

Embrace the life of breaking up, starting from these three points.

1. Time is always "now"

Compared with the clutter of space, accumulating too many things from the past and the future is the worst problem. Nostalgic people like to keep things in the past, and fearful people are used to preparing for the future, but remember, don't let these thoughts become obsession, not everything is worth saving. The time you need to think is always now.

2. The protagonist has always been "self"

The process of picking up sundries is essentially the choice and abandonment of everything. And these objects are actually a combination of things and feelings. Even the same thing, the feelings you give it are very important. But articles containing negative emotions are still too heavy. After all, we don't need to bear such a heavy burden of life. It is like a mirror, which can reflect itself. It reflects the self you want to treat as non-existent and unwilling to admit.

3. Breaking up is also a kind of mental decompression.