When people talk about marriage, they should first look at whether the other person is the same age as themselves, and age is the first choice. Of course, the local family environment is another matter. A suitable marriage can last for a long time. There are too many suitable factors, such as age, height, appearance, education and family background.
However, there are still many people who don't take the usual path and abandon all worldly things according to their own ideas, as long as they are men they like, regardless of their age and whether their parents will accept their views on marriage and love. To put it bluntly, everything is self-centered. As long as you are happy, nothing else matters.
Many men like to find women much younger than themselves as wives, which is normal for many people. After all, men are more mature than women, or a mature man can give women a better sense of security or provide better materials.
But for some women, if you find a man much younger than yourself, it seems that it will not be accepted. First, because women have to bear the heavy responsibility of bearing children, over-age women may not be able to bear children. Second, women are older than men, and the age gap is too big, which will cause many hidden dangers to women.
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There are still many women who are willing to challenge the limits of marriage and find a man much younger than themselves as a husband. Then will they actually be happy in such a marriage?
I am afraid that onlookers will always feel that way. Only those who have really had such a marriage history know what it is like. Sister Wang, 46, said with emotion: "Don't try to find small fresh meat. In the end, you will know that marriage is really difficult. He asks a lot and can't satisfy it. "
Everyone knows how difficult it is to have a Beijing hukou, so Beijing locals will have a geographical advantage. Therefore, many men and women who want to take root in Beijing are bent on finding a Beijing girl or marrying a daughter-in-law in Beijing.
Sister Wang is from Beijing. She grew up here, but she didn't go to other cities after her academic success. She has been staying in Beijing and her life has been smooth sailing. I thought she would live a stable life like this. Unexpectedly, all her misfortunes were in marriage, and one voice married two men. None of them can bring her a happy married life.
Sister Wang's ex-husband is her colleague. After graduation, she went to work as a secretary in a company. Because of my good writing skills, I signed a contract after the internship, so I stayed in the company to work. In fact, for her, she can have a stable job in the future, find another man to marry and have children, and several major events in her life have been completed.
Later, a new employee of the company was her ex-husband Yang Tai, who was not a local. Because of his strong working ability, he was hired by his current company. Two people often chat and discuss together because of work, and even contact each other because of work after work.
It may also be because of fate that two people are together like this. At first, Sister Wang's parents knew that two people were in love, so their daughter soon lost contact with this man, because Yang Tai's family was from a small county, and both parents were rural people, which was totally different from Sister Wang. Her parents don't think this marriage will last long, so it's better to break off the relationship as soon as possible, even if they find a local Beijing resident in the future, it's better than their daughter looking for him. He has a good ability now, but there is a family behind him, and that family is in rags. In the future, the two old parents will not have to rely on this son to provide for the elderly. The burden on his shoulders is too heavy for his daughter.
In fact, Sister Wang's parents didn't look down on foreigners, but the man's family was really poor, not to mention it was difficult to buy a house or even rent a house in Beijing, but Sister Wang still insisted on staying with this man. Even though her parents repeatedly objected, she stole the household registration book and quietly got the certificate with this man.
Sure enough, everything confirmed what my parents said.
After getting the license, my parents were so angry that they stayed in bed for a week before getting out of bed, but it was already a fact, and it was meaningless to change it again, so they had to promise to get married together. Later, Sister Wang got her wish and stayed with him. She simply gave a banquet, without paying a bride price, and her parents didn't want to interfere with her. Only after she suffered a loss did she realize how important it was for her parents to say something.
Obviously, parents have had it before, and they are very accurate in judging people.
Not long after marriage, she found that her husband secretly sent his salary back to his hometown every month. Originally, both of them rented houses. Her husband didn't say that he was planning for the future of two people. He didn't give his salary to himself, but to his parents in the countryside.
Sister Wang was a little unhappy and asked her husband why he sent the money back without his consent. Her husband said that he used to send back extra money every month, and all his relatives knew that he had settled in Beijing now. He also has a younger brother who is the boss. He can't do his best in housework, so it's filial piety to pay more money.
Forget it, but what makes people angry is that sometimes relatives in my hometown call my husband to help me find a job every once in a while. People who don't know how developed my husband is think that he still lives in a rented house in Beijing. My husband is also a good-looking person and never tells his parents about these difficulties. As long as his family needs money or help, he will try his best to help.
After a long time, Sister Wang is naturally unhappy, because her husband is also limited, he is not rich, and he is still swollen.
In fact, for Sister Wang's parents, I still hope that my daughter will have a good life. When my daughter went out to rent a house in a rage, her parents had already thought about it. A year later, my other house, when the lease came, I took it back and decorated it for them.
They saved a lot of rent when they moved to the new house. Even so, Sister Wang didn't see where the extra money went. She must have been sent home by her husband.
A few years later, my husband's younger brother was getting married, and his parents called his eldest son to borrow money, saying that his younger brother was going to get married and buy a house and had no money. But in recent years, his husband sent all the money home, and there was no money left, so he asked Sister Wang for help, but Sister Wang refused.
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I didn't expect this man to be unreasonable and wanted to negotiate with Sister Wang to sell the house he lived in. He is really fantastic. Sister Wang knew the parents' names written in this room and pretended to agree. When her husband found out, he came to let her do the work of her parents-in-law. Sister Wang saw that the man was hopeless and filed for divorce directly. She doesn't want to stay with him.
After the divorce, she drove the man out, and the house where her parents lived caught up with the demolition, so she asked her parents to move to their own home and take care of her son. Although my daughter is divorced now, her parents think this is the result of her not listening to persuasion.
After the divorce, Sister Wang began to work hard to improve herself.
After the house was demolished, two houses were divided. Parents feel that their daughter will still have security in the future after divorce, so they gave both houses to their daughter, and left two old people to support the elderly after living in this house.
People in the unit don't know where to know that Sister Wang's house was demolished and got two houses. The news spread in the unit, and many people who can't take root in Beijing cast envious eyes.
After that, many men began to contact Sister Wang intentionally or unintentionally, trying to win his heart. In fact, Sister Wang knew the intentions of these men for a long time and ignored them.
Later, an intern came to the unit, which caught the attention of Sister Wang. As soon as interns enter the unit, they are like a pistachio, which always creates some happiness for everyone. The little boy's name is Zhang Le.
At the annual meeting, Zhang Le gave an impromptu performance to everyone, and Zhang Le pushed the whole party to a climax.
It was the party that drew them together that day. Sister Wang began to pay attention to this boy and often played a joke on him at work. Zhang Le also began to notice Sister Wang.
Sister Wang is 45 years old and 27 years old.
Unexpectedly, Zhang Le likes Sister Wang and openly pursues her in the company. For the pursuit of such a little boy, Sister Wang began to feel a little shy, feeling that she was too old to eat grass, but Zhang Le, a little fresh meat, was very attentive and seemed to really like her.
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So they got together smoothly and got married, but it didn't last long. Facing such a little boy, Sister Wang felt very tired.
Because they are too different in age, they have always been a cynical role, and Sister Wang takes care of him everywhere in life. Although they are colleagues, Sister Wang is very serious about her work, but Zhang Le thinks playing is the most important thing. She always looks like she is smiling.
Before long, all his bad habits were exposed, such as playing games all night, sleeping secretly at work and so on.
Moreover, he has many idle friends, who often ask him out to drink and eat together, and sometimes spend the night outside.
He obviously has income, but his monthly income is not enough for him to eat, drink and be merry. He always said that there was no money in the middle of the month, and Sister Wang had to support him a little.
What annoys Wang Jie most is that there are many women's contact information in his mobile phone. Those women would ask him out for a drink every once in a while, and he just explained that he was just a friend.
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Finally, Sister Wang discovered the ambiguous news of two people. Zhang Le's deception is a real scam. When he was discovered, he begged Sister Wang to forgive him and promised that it would never happen again.
In Sister Wang's view, she is completely looking for a "parasite", and everything depends on her life. This man's confession to himself is not love at all, but his own strength base.
She didn't find a husband, but she got herself into trouble. She wanted a divorce, but now she is old. I wonder what she will find after the divorce.
She is raising this man now, and she must always be on guard against whether he will betray herself. This is very tiring.
Write at the end:
It is normal for women to find small fresh meat now, which makes many people envy. However, it is estimated that after reading Sister Wang's story, you will have your own answer in your heart, and many things may not be as harmonious as they seem.
Unmatched marriages are doomed to be sad.
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