The 35-year-old female boss got married, and the wedding photos exploded the circle of friends of colleagues.
I saw her mature makeup nestled in the arms of her husband in a suit and tie, with a soft smile. Mr. Wang is slightly fat and has a Chinese face. Although he is not handsome, he looks very reliable.
The comments are full of blessings. But it suddenly occurred to me that when she said that she would wait for a lover to get married again, there were still colleagues who sneered behind her back and said that older women demanded so much.
What I don't understand is why she is so eager to get married when she can live well alone.
The female boss has a good family condition and her parents left her a house. She struggled for years, bought a house and a car, and lived a carefree life.
Every month's salary is either saved or spent on hobbies. When you meet a favorite brand-name bag, you can win it without feeling bad. You can go abroad with your good friends or parents twice a year, so you have free time and free space.
After marriage, let alone whether the standard will be lowered economically. At least in time, she is no longer so free, not to mention all possible marriage tragedies.
With her experience at her age, it is impossible not to see these risks. Why did she get married?
Later, I watched the movie Nothing in the West, and I was deeply impressed by Shen Guangyao played by Wang Leehom. His mother once said to him: We miss you and can enjoy life, such as marrying a girl you like and having children. Be careful not to give me grandchildren, but give them to yourself and enjoy being a parent.
So do girls. It's not that I can't live well without marriage, but I still want to feel the fun brought by a good marriage.
When it is cold, I also want to put my cold feet on another person's stomach, watching him grin and hug my feet tightly;
I also want to wake each other up unscrupulously when I can't sleep at night, and he won't blame me at all, even if we count sheep together until dawn;
I also want to take advantage of him when he does push-ups, give him orders and watch him bite his teeth.
I think in my limited life, there is such a stable happiness that I can feel and experience.
02
It is probably the endless marriage tragedies that make the majority of girls lose confidence in marriage.
For marriage, there is a saying on the Internet: Is the mobile phone not fun, or is the wine bad? You must get married.
But most people want to get married, not because they are short of money, but because they are eager for happiness.
My good friend Xiaomei, whose parents divorced when she was a child, has never been able to handle the relationship well.
In the meantime, Xiaomei saw too many tragic details to look forward to marriage.
Over the years, she gradually grew up and became independent, admitted to a good university, found a good job, and jumped ship step by step to become the leader of the team. At this time, she was only 26 years old.
Still, she's pretty. Ever since I was a student, there has been an endless stream of suitors.
Xiaomei will also fall in love with one or two boys she likes, but she never talks about the future and will not affect her life choices because of the other.
But in college, she met a boy with a * * * voice, and the other person really understood her, understood her and loved her.
For the first time, Xiaomei felt that the iceberg of "lonely life" in her heart had melted. How happy it is to be understood.
She wanted to hold on to this relationship, but she gave up at the thought that two people were not in the same place.
After graduation, Xiaomei returned to her hometown to develop. And that boy, after spending a year appeasing his parents, submitted his resume to Xiaomei's hometown company.
Xiaomei is excellent, and boys are also very motivated. He spoiled Xiaomei inappropriately, paid her to buy things she liked, and went shopping to let her sit on his shoulder.
Xiaomei said that they would get married when they bought a house on the number.
Some people say that I have always believed in love, but I just don't believe that there will be such a lucky encounter.
Because they don't believe that they will meet true love, some people are determined not to get married, and some people make do with it.
Finally, those who are determined not to get married give up the possibility of a happy marriage, and those who get married will have children and then live forever.
We should still look forward to marriage, and look forward to someone coming to you through the vast sea of people, hugging you affectionately and saying to you, I'm sorry I'm late.
If there is such a person, then marriage is a happy temptation that people can't refuse.
03
Getting happiness is an instinct, but it also requires the ability to avoid the risk of marriage.
Women who are in love feel extremely happy, but you must grow up to cope with the worst situation you can think of before you can get married.
For example, Xiaomei, a pessimist in marriage, saw the possibility of happiness and looked forward to entering marriage.
But she kept her head. When the boy first came, she didn't associate, and she stayed together until he found a job and saw that he was practical and enterprising.
At the same time, she also worked hard to earn the capital to settle down for herself. Even if one day, her feelings change, her world will not completely collapse.
For marriage, women must have two preparations.
First, the economy is self-sufficient.
You must consider getting married after you can support yourself. Only when you really earn money can you understand what life is like and what kind of marriage you want.
Meanwhile, love is the icing on the cake. Don't expect love to feed you, or you won't even think about what it would be like to lose this relationship.
Second, prepare for the worst.
One principle of risk control is extreme risk, that is, assume the worst situation that may be encountered, and then make a plan to face this situation.
The same is true of marriage. Maybe one day, you will quarrel, have differences, even some people cheat, some people go bankrupt, and even you will divorce. You should be able to bear these possible consequences.
Some people say that it is unlucky to consider divorce before marriage. In fact, only by considering the upper and lower limits of this marriage can you be more calm.
The meaning of love is that it is impossible for each of us to read all the books and enjoy all the movies in this world.
But I can tell you the books I have read, and you can also introduce me to the movies you have seen, so we have seen both books and movies.
I want this kind of love to enrich our life and give us more wonderful experiences about life in the form of marriage.
Marriage is risky, but sometimes we are willing to take a little risk for happiness.
Find the right person among thousands of people and spend the rest of your life together.