Parent-child relationship psychological counseling

Hello, friend. According to your own description, your family is strict with you, but you 13 years old went to school outside, left home early, went home once a month, and had little time to communicate with your family. Now you and your family are in a contradictory stage and are eager to change. It is not difficult to see from your words that you think you lack the "care" of your family, so you even use "parent-child" as your title, which reflects your desire for your family to be close to you.

In fact, blood is thicker than water Maybe every parent treats their children differently. Some parents think that "a dutiful son is born under the stick", some parents like their children to grow naturally, and some parents hope that their children will have a bright future and the phoenix will be nirvana! Every family model is different from parents' own cognition of life and society. But no matter what the difference is, the constant is the "love" for family! You don't agree with the way of caring, but your family just gives it to you, keeps you away from them, and even thinks they don't love you. Parents' hearts are also suffering, because they love their children, but they are ungrateful. The contradiction will accumulate deeper and deeper!

Finding the root of this contradiction is only the simplest beginning to solve the problem, not a key that can be opened! After all, the times they lived in, the information they received, and the way of life for so many years cannot be simply changed! After all, you are 22 years old and have 22 years of life experience. Two generations who don't often live in the same environment must have different acceptance, expectation and understanding of love! But if you want to resolve it, you must work hard to find the root of the contradiction and express it to each other calmly! Your family doesn't accept your opinion just because in their eyes, you are a child! They didn't see you grow up! Try to change yourself first, don't be too introverted, everything is introverted. Who knows if you don't tell me? But don't argue, because you argue that it only shows that you are a child! Try to express your gratitude to them first. There is not a parent who can't be moved by the child's sincere thanks? ! They have a hard life and are strict with you. This is just their love. They don't ask you to really report anything, but with your sincere thanks, they will really see your growth! Communicate frequently and express your understanding of the world, love and what kind of love you are eager to get.

Rome wasn't built in a day, so don't expect to solve the family contradiction! Change what you can, and then accept what you can't!