You are your own hope.
My unfulfilled dream is still mine.
It's none of your business, so let them have nothing to do with you.
Why not have a brand-new dream?
I didn't have to be there in that dream.
The hit drama "Little Joy" finally ushered in the finale. Three families preparing for the college entrance examination are not only facing the pressure of further education, but also facing the problem of parent-child relationship. Among them, the relationship between Song Qian and his daughter, played by teacher Hong Tao, has aroused extensive discussion. She is a gold medal physics teacher and a single mother. She resigned to take better care of her children. She pinned all her hopes on her daughter and was very strict with her.
In front of the desk in her daughter Eiko's bedroom, transparent glass and shutters are installed to monitor her every move at any time, so that her daughter has no private space of her own;
She strictly controls her daughter's diet. She is not allowed to eat snacks and hot pot, and can only eat her own food. In order to supplement Eiko's nutrition and improve her memory, she eats sea cucumber and bird's nest.
She strictly controls her daughter's study schedule, and the time needed to walk from home to school is counted in the schedule in minutes. My daughter had a good time during the break after the exam. She said, "What is there to be happy about?" In her opinion, children must not slack off before they succeed.
At her daughter's swearing-in meeting, she not only forced her children to write a test paper for Tsinghua Peking University, but also added "Be sure to get 700 points!"
Regardless of her child's dream of going to the space agency, she simply and rudely denied the child's choice and directly revised her daughter's college entrance examination wishes in private during the college entrance examination. In her view, her daughter's dream is nothing more than a passion when she was young, and the choices and decisions made for her are the best. Drove her daughter into depression and jumped into the sea.
Under the strong pressure of her mother, her daughter Eiko was wronged and angry, and the long-suppressed contradiction finally broke out.
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She always pays and pays in her own way, but never considers the feelings of her children. She completely controlled her daughter's living space and interfered with her daughter's choice and future, but never thought about whether this was what the child wanted. She thought that the children would understand her good intentions and appreciate everything she did, but on the contrary, everything she did was as heavy as a stone, making the children breathless.
Parents always try their best to give their children the best, but never ask if this is what you want. This is the defect of education and the most helpless place for children.
Today we tell you about Lv Hou, who is also a strong mother.
For a long time, Lv Hou's image in the eyes of the world is more negative than positive, and words such as "the most poisonous woman's heart" and "the snake's heart" are attached to him. Looking through the ancient books, we can find that the reason why we get such an evaluation is that besides killing Mrs. Qi, it is more because she killed Liu's ministers at will. As a result, only two of Liu Bang's eight sons survived. But what Lv Hou has done is to protect his son Liu Ying, so as to stabilize his son's position and power. But is this what Liu Ying wants?
Once the orchids in the greenhouse leave the shelter, they quickly wither, while the wild vines on the roadside can thrive and become towering trees. Mrs. qi sang a scarecrow song, which aroused her desire to kill. She is going to call Liu Ruyi, the king of Zhao, to Beijing. At this time, Liu Bang's successor came into play. Before he died, he appointed Zhou Chang, an ancient scholar who stuttered, as the prime minister of Zhao. Because Liu Bang thinks that Zhou Chang is a very honest and frank person, and he is very kind to Lv Zhi and his mother. He has enough courage and wisdom to protect Ruyi from Lv Hou. At first, Zhou Chang naturally lived up to his expectations and suffered the first wave of injuries. Without thinking, he refused Lv Hou's order and refused to let the prince of Zhao go.
Hearing this, Lv Hou smiled angrily and said yes, if you don't let the prince of Zhao come, you can do it yourself. Don't you often leave? Even though he knew it was a diversion, he had no choice but to go to Beijing. As soon as we met, Lv Hou pointed to Zhou Chang's nose and cursed him. You are an old man. Don't you know that I hate Mrs Qi and Liu Ruyi the most? Why not let Liu Ruyi go to Beijing?
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One day, Han Huidi went out hunting in the morning and left early. Liu Ruyi, the prince of Zhao, is too young to go with him. At this time, two people separated. Lv Hou got the report immediately, and sent someone to bring the poison, forcing it into Liu Ruyi's mouth. When Hui Di came back from hunting, Liu Ruyi had died of bleeding and poisoning.
Emperor Liu Ying, who was only fifteen years old, couldn't understand his mother's behavior and had his first fierce quarrel with her. Lv Hou looked at her son dumbfounded. She couldn't understand why he was so angry. She can't understand her son any more than Liu Ying can understand her. She had to repeat Liu Bang's exclamation: The child is nothing like me, but what should be done is still to be done. After all, she has only one son, and he will personally manage the world in the future.
Emperor Hui of Han Dynasty is a kind monarch, who treats ministers and people with a kind and warm heart. One day, he couldn't help crying to Lv Hou after seeing the tragic situation that Mrs Qi was mutilated by her mother in the toilet: "This is not a person. I am the queen mother, and I can't rule the world in the end. "
She is narrow-minded and ruthless, pinning all her hopes on Liu Ying. In order to stabilize Liu Ying's country, she did not hesitate to hurt other sons of Liu Bang. But she never imagined that this not only did not make Liu Ying feel the good intentions of being a mother, but made him gradually collapse, drinking all day and turning a blind eye to politics until he died young.
According to historical records, in the face of his son's untimely death, Lv Hou's performance in front of the mausoleum of Emperor Hui of Han Dynasty was nothing more than much thunder and little rain, and he didn't cry.
Lv Hou's behavior reminds me of Zhu Yuanzhang, who had an interesting conversation with Prince Zhu Biao. We all know that Zhu Yuanzhang killed many heroes after the founding of the People's Republic of China. One day, Prince Zhu Biao remonstrated with Zhu Yuanzhang, saying that he had killed too many people for fear of hurting people. Zhu Yuanzhang did not answer. The next day, Zhu Yuanzhang took a branch full of thorns and gave it to Zhu Biao. Zhu Biao didn't dare to answer it, for fear of stabbing his hand. Zhu Yuanzhang said: You dare not pick it up because it is covered with thorns. If I pull out the thorns one by one, do you dare to pick them up? Zhu Biao said with a smile, then I dare to take it. So Zhu Yuanzhang killed the hero in order to remove all obstacles and thorns in his son's succession. In fact, what Liu Bang did was similar to Zhu Yuanzhang's, except that Lv Hou killed Han Xin and Peng Yue, and Lv Hou did it more thoroughly.
Lv Hou thinks that the stable and excessive power is the best way for her to give Liu Ying love, but this way is abnormal and terrible. In order to consolidate the power of the Han Dynasty, Lv Hou even asked Hui Di to marry his niece, zhangyan, the daughter of Princess Luyuan. Hui Di couldn't accept that the girl who was calling his uncle the day before suddenly became a wife, and they didn't commit any crimes until they died.
She pinned all her hopes on her son Liu Ying. Maybe life once scarred her. Maybe life made her feel insecure and disappointed. Maybe she just wants her children not to be easily abandoned and trampled underfoot like her. So she chose to fight for everything by hook or by crook, but why let the children bear what you have suffered? He has his own thoughts and feelings!
If she can think more about children's feelings, be kind and tolerant, even if there are no mountains and rivers from generation to generation, it would be better if mother and son are happy, healthy and happy all their lives.
To this end, today, we should take history as a mirror, learn from the experience and lessons of the ancients, and cultivate ourselves honestly. We should not only set a good example for our children, but also learn to let go and let them become better themselves.
If you have children, all you have to do is broaden his horizons and let him know that there are many things and occupations in the world. As for what to choose, it is his right. Only he can be responsible for his own life.
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