First, the fundamental theoretical basis of Yin and Yang Yijing is Yin and Yang. This is the law of the universe. The moon is the moon, the sun is the sun, the mountain is the mountain, and the water is the water. This is an objective fact that must be admitted. However, in the actual life of husband and wife, there is a wrong concept that greatly affects the life of husband and wife, and that is equality between men and women.
There is nothing wrong with equality between men and women in essence, which is based on respect for human nature. But from the phenomenon, there are many inequalities between men and women, which can not be ignored. A lock is a lock, and a key is a key. Many people just misunderstand this sentence, and they are also talking about equality from the phenomenon. Women also have to do what men can do, which is troublesome. The moon is not willing to be the moon, but must compete with the sun for glory. Water doesn't want to be water, it must be turned into ice, and it must be as hard as a mountain.
On the other hand, men are vigorous and want water to surround them like a valley, but men let water flow like mud. Men want to shelter women from the wind and rain like trees, but men are as weak as grass. In short, yang is not yang, yin is not yin, yin is not yang, yang is not yin, and yin and yang are unbalanced. Do you think this day can be better?
Secondly, in the corresponding Book of Changes, the relationship between them is mainly reflected in four aspects: inheritance, multiplication, comparison and response. Yin is under the sun and holds the sun. This is called bearing. Yin is above Yang, pressing Yang, which is called multiplication. Yin and yang are similar, which is comparison, and yin and yang feel each other, which is response. If you don't ride well, yin will overwhelm yang. This is called attacking right with evil, which is not good for anything. It's good that yin and yang correspond.
This is very difficult. It is too realistic to get married now. Before you get married, ask about the car and house tickets. After marriage, all kinds of things went wrong, and then I began to worry. Born in a bad family. When I was interpreting hexagrams, a hexagram came out and didn't correspond. In a word, my heart is not on each other. What did you say?/Sorry?
Whether men or women, before getting married, really ask yourself, what kind of person do you want to marry? Why are you getting married? This needs clarification. Emotional disharmony after marriage. Did they come together before they got married?
The hexagrams don't deceive people. Whether your heart is on the other side is clear at a glance. Someone came to see me for divination and told me all kinds of things about each other, but the problem is that your heart is not on each other!
3. In a position, in a position, in a position, in a position, in a position, in a position, in a position, in a position, that is, the Confucian doctrine of the mean and the Buddhist doctrine of the mean. In the six-pointed star, winning means being in the second or fifth position. In the Book of Changes, the first, third and fifth positions are yang positions, and the second, fourth and sixth positions are yin positions. Getting a place means that girls should be second, fourth and sixth, and boys should be first, third and fifth. This is to get a position. To put it bluntly, it is still the first question. Yang should do Yang's business, and Yin should do Yin's business. Don't reverse yin and yang.
When reading hexagrams, you often see mistakes. Girls should be feminine, but too strong, boys should be strong, but too feminine. Another thing is that you can't get in the middle. It's too extreme not to get caught in the middle. You should be reasonable and wait for no one. Men don't enter the middle school, and they are philandering outside. So there is a good saying: before getting married, keep your eyes open and look carefully, and don't make mistakes; Turn a blind eye after marriage and don't care. No one is perfect, so we always look for reasons from ourselves.
In the Book of Changes, the best relationship between husband and wife should be Huo Feng's family divination. The family divined a poem and said, "Family, women are inside and men are outside. Men and women are righteous and heaven and earth are righteous. Family members are strict, and parents are strict. Father, son, brother, brother, husband and wife, but the family is right, the family is right, and the world is determined. "
In other words, this passage is: "If you want to govern your country, you must first put your family in order. People who want to keep their families together must first trim their bodies. If you want to cultivate your body, you should first correct your heart. "
Women are inside, men are outside, one is inside and the other is inside and outside. Do not correct this. What is "husband, wife"? That is, a husband should be like a husband and a wife should be like a wife. A husband should do what a husband should do and a wife should do what a wife should do. To put it bluntly, men should be like men and women should be like women. Here, don't mention equality between men and women. If you are equal, you will be confused.
Women are inside, men are outside. Look at mussels. They are hard on the outside and soft on the inside. The hard shell protects the soft meat. All nuts are like this. The outer shell protects the inner core. The same is true for couples. Men are not men if they are not hard, and women are not women if they are soft. A man wants a woman to hold him. The harder you hug him, the more you hinder him, and the more you can protect you. Women want men to hurt her. The more you love her, the gentler and cuter she is. But now many family problems are that men don't protect women well, and women look down on their men, which is fatal!
If you want to be upright at home, it is to cultivate one's morality and cultivate one's mind. It is necessary to understand this.