In fact, children have certain sexual awareness, curiosity and even sexual behavior problems from a few years old. Therefore, it is very beneficial for children's physical and mental health to carry out the necessary sex education.
We have received several consultation letters. A mother said: Her daughter, who is in the first grade of primary school, is particularly focused and excited every time she sees a scene of a man and a woman falling in love on TV. Her eyes were wide open and she wouldn't listen. The mother tried to distract her attention and excuse her daughter when such a scene was about to appear, but this effort was ineffective.
Why is she so interested in these things at such a young age? I dare not ask or tell her more, for fear that she will learn more. Mothers are confused.
A mother said: Her five-year-old son likes playing with his penis very much. Whenever this happens, his mother will beat and scold him before he agrees not to play. But not long after, one day the kindergarten teacher told her that her son slept in bed and played with genitals every day during his lunch break, until he was flushed and sweaty.
She didn't hit him after listening, but patiently asked him why he refused to change after repeated education. The son said innocently, "I want to change, but my penis won't." I can't help playing with it with my hands. "
Listening to her son's childish answer, she was angry and funny. "What should I do if this continues?" Mothers are at a loss.
The 25-year-old girl said: When I was a child, I liked to go to other people's houses to play. At the age of seven, she was tricked into rape by her neighbor's uncle. The shadow occupied her mind like a demon. Since childhood, she has never been happy, nor dare she have the fantasy of love. Every day, she only has a heavy psychological burden, and often wakes up from nightmares with tears streaming down her face.
She wanted to commit suicide, but she was reluctant to give birth to her parents. She also had Cupid's arrow several times, but every time the man who shot her was inexplicably rejected by her. They thought she was insane, but they didn't know that she didn't have the courage to accept it.
From the above three letters, we can see two problems in sex education for children: one is to prevent and correct children's bad habits, and the other is to educate children how to avoid sexual abuse. Children's sexual curiosity is the natural expression of the development of children's sexual consciousness.
Children like to ask, "Boy, why do you have a penis?" And "Where am I from?" And other questions, or like to watch hugs and kisses, these are the natural manifestations of children's sexual curiosity. It is not feasible to simply prohibit and scold children's sexual curiosity, which can only increase curiosity. In the words of psychology, it is to strengthen the role of * * *. If children are forbidden to watch love scenes in movies and TV, they will only feel more mysterious, curious and want to watch them.
The more children play with genitals, the more they say "Oh, it's ugly", and the more they strengthen their children. It is best to let nature take its course in these behaviors towards children.
This has two meanings: first, at what stage the child's sexual consciousness develops, he will answer any questions he asks, for example, the child asks, "Where am I from?" Answer him truthfully, "You were born in your mother's stomach". When he asks, "How did I get into my mother's stomach", there is no need to avoid this scientific knowledge. And when the child does not ask, there is no need to talk about it; Second, parents should let their children know that sex is a natural thing and should be treated with a natural attitude. For example, if parents accidentally lose their bodies in front of their children, don't cover them up or make a fuss, or they will easily make their children feel mysterious. Children's bad habits, such as playing with genitals, should be properly stopped and psychological reinforcement should be avoided.
A gay memory: when I was a child, I liked to sit in a chair and felt that my penis was particularly comfortable. Once, he played with his own hands. His mother saw it and said he was "not shy", but didn't say why. The more curious he was, he avoided adults and even played with other children, so he got out of hand and eventually became gay. It is better to remind a child of his * * * habits and divert his attention than to scold him in general.
Educating children to avoid sexual assault is an important part of parents' sex education for their children. Because sexual assault in childhood is a lifelong disaster, the mental trauma and bad influence on personality caused by it are irreparable.
So parents should educate their children to protect their virginity and prevent their genitals from being touched or touched. They can directly say to their children, "whoever touches your genitals is a bad person." You can yell or run away. If this person is an acquaintance, even if he gives you a lot of food and play, you should not obey him and tell your parents. "
At the same time, warn children not to spend the night at other people's homes. (this article source: Netease parent-child).
2. What is sex education?
The principle of timely and moderate education according to the object (age, gender).
In other words, sex education should be different between men and women, old and young, and sex education should be carried out in a timely manner according to the growth of age. Moderation refers to simple and easy-to-understand sex education according to the understanding level of the object.
The following inspires the principle of giving priority to education. That is, the content of sex education should be based on correct outlook on life, sexual awareness, sexual behavior and correct sexual morality.
For sexual perversion and sexual dysfunction, sex crime prevention education is "from point to area", and individual counseling and guidance is appropriate. The principle of synchronous education among family, school and society.
Sex education is a social systematic project, which must be coordinated among family, school, society and public opinion in order to get good results. At the same time, sex education should permeate and coordinate with life outlook education and legal education, so as to ensure the systematicness and continuity of sex education.
The principle of combining mass universal education with individual counseling and guidance. That is, sex education should not only combine "point" with "face", but also combine the popularization of knowledge, the prevention and treatment of sexual problems with the consultation and solution of individual special problems; It is also necessary to combine prevention with treatment, and at the same time do a good job of "prevention first" propaganda to actively help patients solve practical problems.
3. What does sex education mean?
Sex education is to introduce some books on sexual knowledge through simple and frank talks or to let patients have a complete concept and understanding of sexual anatomy and physiology through slides, videos and movies, so that they can eliminate their worries and understand that their sexual function is not what they think.
Sexual harassment and erectile dysfunction caused by people's lack of sexual knowledge are common in daily life. Many people often think that * * * is a natural ability. You don't need to learn, you can learn without learning.
Especially in China, many teenagers can't learn about sexual knowledge from schools, parents and regular science and education books, and accept incorrect information from hearsay and obscene publications, which easily leads to sexual dysfunction. Patients with erectile dysfunction caused by lack of sexual knowledge can be cured through sex education without other special treatment.
Of course, the abnormal sexual behavior caused by lack of sexual knowledge can not be corrected quickly, and it needs a process.